How many suffer from anxiety during meeting with an escort?

[captivated]

Hi Guys.

I just want to get a general view on this. This is something that has been happening to me sometimes for a while where I am with an escort and sometimes I am just very nervous and I zone out and can't stay erect when I am with them. Funny thing is I have no problem on my own and can get and stay erect just fine but I spoke to one of the escorts about this and she says that she gets it all of the time. I wonder is it just shyness or anxiety? If anyone else has had this problem and overcame it can you let me know your techniques if any?

[Rayden]

I am often shy or anxious when meeting escorts (especially for the first time). Never had that problem though. All I could suggest is try to relax and not think about it. Difficult not to think about it but Id say it would help. Maybe a nice massage to start things off.

[Rayden]

Of course chatting to the lady, explaining nervousness and she'll help settle you too.

[Monkeynut]

I would reckon that this 'problem' is more common than is admitted. I would also reckon that if you asked all the escorts how many times its happened, their answer would be higher than if you asked the clients !!

[lbb2010]

Yip, that's me! I have failed to climax and keep an erection on a number of occassions. Never happens with my wife, never happens with porn. I just don't get it. Would be keen for some advice.

[medicine man]

I am always nervous when I go to visit one of the ladies, part of the reason I enjoy it so much
How often do you really get the chance to be nervous any more??

But being open with the lady that you are nervous should turn those nerves into delicious excitement
They know what they are doing

[lbb2010]

Should probably make it clear at the start. Prob is that I am not 'failing' at the start it's when it comes time to finish or just before it I just can't! Maybe I should climax within 10 mins and chat the rest?!

[trugent]

I too always have nerves before I visit a lady. I've found the PM system really works for me, because I can have a dialogue with a lady - explain what I am like and what I like and get a sense of what the lady is like. All the ladies I have met this way have been very responsive to this. Result, almost all the time, is nerves turn to excitement when the meeting happens and I have a great time.

[mellors]

I think its important to remember you're not there to impress but to enjoy yourself. I would suggest that you find an escort you feel comfortable with, then go back and see her a second or third time. That sort of nervousness and anxiety is far less when you meet a second time.

[Sam Spade]

Hi Guys.

I just want to get a general view on this. This is something that has been happening to me sometimes for a while where I am with an escort and sometimes I am just very nervous and I zone out and can't stay erect when I am with them. Funny thing is I have no problem on my own and can get and stay erect just fine but I spoke to one of the escorts about this and she says that she gets it all of the time. I wonder is it just shyness or anxiety? If anyone else has had this problem and overcame it can you let me know your techniques if any?

I dont think it's anything to worry about, it probably happens more than you think.
Sometimes we just go through stages and worry about matters which distracts us from our companions.

Since October I have met around 45 ladies of whom I have failed to maintain an erection with three.
I even made a follow up appointment with one of the ladies and the same thing happened to my alarm.
I however made appointments over the following days with other ladies with no problem.

Sometimes two people are not compatible. It's not that the lady is not attractive, sexy or desirable.
Sometimes it just happens, not your fault nor the escorts, it's just because we aren't machines, so why should we act as such.

Best thing to do is to move on and make sure you select the right lady for the next appointment.
You may be more nervous the next time, but make sure you arrange a suitable length of appointment to ensure you don't have to worry about time.

It's easy to say this, but try to forget about passed problems, enjoy your encounter and fantasise that you are with someone you love. By doing so, you think less of the physical act and more of the joining between two people.