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    Now then.

    I posted a while ago about how the ex girlfriend was getting a bit phsycotic on me.
    Well she came back on the scene a few days ago with all sorts of ranting and raving but I have not heard from her for a couple of days now so she is gone again for the moment I think.

    This set me off reflecting on all the women I've dated over the years. Leaving aside the short-term ones of a few months or whatever I have had six long-term relationships and of those 4 were with women that were borderline certifiable.
    Without going into the individual details I've had a hot cup of tea poured over my head, been hit with a shovel, had a carving knife waved at my face and stuck into the bottom of my chin, had my car vandalized, been followed, been threatened by brothers/fathers/friends/exboyfriends, been phoned up to 30 times a day, had a woman standing on lawn staring at the house in the small hours of the morning and more.

    Then there was the woman I married. All was fine for 5 years and then she started slowly but surely bleeding the life out of me, filed for divorce, told a pack of lies that led to her getting almost everything I had. All I had left was the clothes on my back a job and a friend prepared to let me stay at his house.

    What did I do to deserve all of that? Must be something terrible right?
    Wrong!! I have never been anything but respectful, generous and faithful to any woman I have been in a relationship with.
    I have decided that perhaps I must be some sort of walkover but no more.

    The events of the last week have convinced me that getting into a relationship with a woman again is a worthless and pointless exercise and I have no intention of doing it again.

    The fine women of EI and the clubs and ladies I go to and see in England and elsewhere will be give me all the female company I need.
    There is no point putting myself through the stress, anguish, loss and degradation of being slowly withered into nothing by another phsycotic partner intent on raping me of my self-respect and worldly goods.

    There's just no point.

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    Jaysus my life is boring .: lol doc
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    ur sure it wasnt you then?!!
    seriously man, from that litany of bunny boilers i am surprised you still look at women at all!!!

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    Your ex sounds like a hoot.

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    Quote Originally Posted by willyup View Post
    Now then.

    I posted a while ago about how the ex girlfriend was getting a bit phsycotic on me.
    Well she came back on the scene a few days ago with all sorts of ranting and raving but I have not heard from her for a couple of days now so she is gone again for the moment I think.

    This set me off reflecting on all the women I've dated over the years. Leaving aside the short-term ones of a few months or whatever I have had six long-term relationships and of those 4 were with women that were borderline certifiable.
    Without going into the individual details I've had a hot cup of tea poured over my head, been hit with a shovel, had a carving knife waved at my face and stuck into the bottom of my chin, had my car vandalized, been followed, been threatened by brothers/fathers/friends/exboyfriends, been phoned up to 30 times a day, had a woman standing on lawn staring at the house in the small hours of the morning and more.

    Then there was the woman I married. All was fine for 5 years and then she started slowly but surely bleeding the life out of me, filed for divorce, told a pack of lies that led to her getting almost everything I had. All I had left was the clothes on my back a job and a friend prepared to let me stay at his house.

    What did I do to deserve all of that? Must be something terrible right?
    Wrong!! I have never been anything but respectful, generous and faithful to any woman I have been in a relationship with.
    I have decided that perhaps I must be some sort of walkover but no more.

    The events of the last week have convinced me that getting into a relationship with a woman again is a worthless and pointless exercise and I have no intention of doing it again.

    The fine women of EI and the clubs and ladies I go to and see in England and elsewhere will be give me all the female company I need.
    There is no point putting myself through the stress, anguish, loss and degradation of being slowly withered into nothing by another phsycotic partner intent on raping me of my self-respect and worldly goods.

    There's just no point.
    You need to stop going for quiet women. Try someone with a little more fire. On a serious note, your ex should meet my ex. They sound made for each other.

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    Sorry to hear your problems Willyup. There is solace to be found in the arms of an escort. I hope you manage to pick your self up someday and aren't jaded for life. (But I'm not one to talk, have pretty fixed views on long term realationships - i.e. not worth it for me)
    "Don't be reckless with other people’s hearts. Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours"

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    Quote Originally Posted by lucy chambers View Post
    You need to stop going for quiet women. Try someone with a little more fire. On a serious note, your ex should meet my ex. They sound made for each other.

    Some of them did but maybe I confused a bit of fire with sociopathic tendancies.

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    I think people jump into relastionships too quick in todays world and jump from one to another, too many expectations. Evrybody has ideas of prefect realtionships and compare them to past ones....people need to go with the flow let things happen naturaly, there is no need to put a time line on when the big l word is used or when the big move is made. if its working it is working!!! i think irish girls are more but not totally at fault for this. once they hit 30 its like the next bf is gonna be thier husband becuase their clock is ticking of course and they need to settle down obviously. they think they can all of sudden change the man they meet instead of being patient and waiting for the one that is right.

    sorry for my rant and sorry to hear that man....life is a bitch.
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    I can't help but wonder about why you made this post. I'm thinking you're not convinced of what you've written about. I think you need answers as to why you seem to gravitate towards fruit cakes and you're not satisfied really with the situation you're in now or your history with women. It's the history bit that has made you think the way you do about the future, and I'm not convinced that if you had a reasonable and believable answer for all the history you would still be sworn off women forever more.

    So I think your post is up for discussion, though you've written it in a way that seems to show you're made a firm decision.

    You see I've got this theory that men and women are not supposed to be together at all for any period of time longer than it takes to procreate. They are incompatible in so many levels. It's society who has invented the idea of relationships lasting longer than the time it takes to bring about the next generation of people. It's a crazy idea when you think about it, but that's what society and "civilisation" has dictated as being the way to do things.

    The old part of the brain is not wired that way. It's suppressed most of the time though and that's down to social conditioning. Having said that it still needs to be satisfied and all this relationship lark pisses it off no end. Yet it has to sit there and take it because it doesn't really have any active role in day to day life. Slowly and bit by bit, it get's pissed off to the point where it does start to have an impact on other parts of the brain that do have day to day control. And then the shit hits the fan.

    I am not about to tell you you're mad to stay out of relationships. There definately seems to be something going on. Yes, perhaps you are a walkover. I'm a bit of one myself. And when women know they can walk all over you, you can forget it. Because they will, and they do. It's not their fault mind you. They don't do it intentionally and mostly they don't even know they're doing it. I believe most women need a strong influence in their life to keep them in line for their own sake. Otherwise they either become insecure and unsafe, or else they become bored and play it out in various ways.

    So relationships ..... the craziest idea since I don't know what. But - there are those who feel that they'd hate to go through life without sharing it with someone. And they'd hate to be on their death bed with no life long companion there to hold their hand. This is the category I fall into I'm afraid. I'm brainwashed to the hilt by social conditioning of course, I fully realise that and this is why I don't want to die alone. But at the end of the day, I'm brainwashed to the point where I don't want to put in the effort it would take to reverse the washing, so I accept things as they are and live in the ups and downs of a relationship because I'm too scared not to.

    That's my insight.

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    Stick to the escorts a lot less stressful.

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