Houston we may have a problem

[Morpheus]

Guys looking at this thread I may never get married.
I have always been honest on this site. I am 35 year old single guy from Kerry.

I am single for a variety of reasons, the main one being that I am butt ugly.

But if this is what married life has in store for me I am seriously worried.

I see where John is coming from, in that I am getting so addicted to this site that its not funny.
But does that mean that I can never find love?
Will I always cast an eye to this site to see who is around?
Which one of the amazing and beautiful ladies(most of whom I am honoured to call friends) are in my area at that time?

This is a pretty serious question to me, one which I have been asking myself on a regular basis for a few months now.

How can I stop meeting ladies that have been so amazing to me every time they come to Kerry?
How can I not meet other ladies that I had the good fortune of chatting to on E-I, either on chat or by pm?

Sorry guys, as everyone probably realises by now, I am kinda drunk so I will stop it here before I make even less sense than I was trying to make.

Thank you so much to everyone who made it this far in the post.
I promise I will reward you with something resembling sense tomorrow )

Jeepers TMDH! If thats how eloquent you are when you are drunk I can't imagine what you're like sober. You're a kindred soul! I could have written the above word for word - except that I live in Dublin. You make a lot of sense. (Us butt ugly guys have to stick together! Thank God for escorts!!!).

However, I'm not turned off by marriage. I do feel if I ever got so lucky as to get married (when I'm sober ) that I would need to stop punting. Easier said than done as I am an addict. Not worrying about it at the moment though, just going with the flow and enjoying the ladies. I guess there are some benefits to being single.

[Blonde Alexa]

Have you ever tried to bring one of the escort girls in the bedroom with your wife? Pretend that you wanna spice up your sex life, talk with her and let her know that you wanna try something a little bit different. If she is an open minded person she will understand and maybe enjoy the experience, and so you will have the oportunity to make a difference and see what is more important for you...
Hope you'll be ok
:*

[john connor]

thanks for input blonde alexa,
but my wife does not share.
also she is not dull in the bedroom and i have no complaints there.
hence my dilemma

[kelso]

Jeepers TMDH! I do feel if I ever got so lucky as to get married (when I'm sober ) that I would need to stop punting. Easier said than done as I am an addict.

these 2 points are crucial morph
most guys dont think they will keep cheating on their wives with escorts, and it is cheating!
and most guys that start, will always keep looking at the website and occasionally or more frequently punt

[john connor]

i think you are right kelso having started this i think it is like being a drug addict.
once it gets in your system it is hard to get it out.
and it is cheating i agree.
what started out as an act of spite in the heat of a disagreement now appears to me to have become something that i did not expect.
in other words what i thought would be a once off has become something more.
i adore women and their company and i guess now have found out that i am more predisposed to continuing this than i thought.
i think on the cheating front though to quote chris rock "men are only as faithful as their options"
and on EI we are given a lot of options.

[kelso]

i think you are right kelso having started this i think it is like being a drug addict.
once it gets in your system it is hard to get it out.
and it is cheating i agree.
what started out as an act of spite in the heat of a disagreement now appears to me to have become something that i did not expect.
in other words what i thought would be a once off has become something more.
i adore women and their company and i guess now have found out that i am more predisposed to continuing this than i thought.
i think on the cheating front though to quote chris rock "men are only as faithful as their options"
and on EI we are given a lot of options.

seems lioke u made ur choice jc just dont get caught man that wud really screw things up!

[Morpheus]

these 2 points are crucial morph
most guys dont think they will keep cheating on their wives with escorts, and it is cheating!
and most guys that start, will always keep looking at the website and occasionally or more frequently punt

Thanks Kelso! So you're basically telling me that I'm f**ked when it comes to marriage!!

I fear that what you say will be true for me ie. once a guy is addicted to seeing escorts, nothing will ever come close (even if one is 'happily married'). Which is probably what the OP is facing.

Not to worry bud, i'm hoping to see a lovely girl tomorrow and all will be forgotten!

[Sam Spade]

I like most married men visit escorts for something I cannot get at home.
Sex has never been an issue, but what has been is sensual kissing and cuddling.
It's never been her thing which is why I rate this very highly when I visit escorts.

Yes, visiting escorts is very addictive. I've tried to limit myself to once a week but failed miserably!
The problem of course is that once we experience the delights of the 'sweetie shop',
we get hooked and experience great difficulty leaving it.

I will always be there for my wife. To love, support and care for her in any way I can.
Making love to her is still a great pleasure and I hope she finds this the case also.

Is this cheating on my wife? Of course it is.
Unfortunately I am only to aware that she will find out about my activities at some stage.
I will deal with it when it happens.
Unfortunately I could ever give this up, nor would I wish to,
hence the problem this in itself creates.

So don't worry JC, there are many in the same conundrum as you.