PM for appointments what are your opinions?

[dr love]

Good points Jessica, but your perspective may be different from a new girl trying to get established. You are a well established and highly regarded person and thus a guy would not try and use his position to his advantage. Not as if you would ever get a bad review. But I do know some ladies not working long that an appointment with a person they know to be a TR or prominent on the boards can be pressurised. Unfortunatley I know that some of these guys will take advantage of the situation stay over time etc!

And Danny that is why we need more genuine people to hold TR status .: doc

[nick2010]

Do you really expect an answer on that,nick?If ever happened,i doubt it will be said on the open forum.

That can be true ... but I don't agree with that.
I do believe irish man The most are gentlemen anyway and It's so hard to them to send a bad review. They choice to not send instead to be rude.

[nick2010]

Good points Jessica, but your perspective may be different from a new girl trying to get established. You are a well established and highly regarded person and thus a guy would not try and use his position to his advantage. Not as if you would ever get a bad review. But I do know some ladies not working long that an appointment with a person they know to be a TR or prominent on the boards can be pressurised. Unfortunatley I know that some of these guys will take advantage of the situation stay over time etc!

That's very true Danny, but regards to stay over time that has to do with the escort option, because she is the only one "loosing", but sometimes we can win a client for life when you enjoy a good time together.

[JAMESCORK]

I have never used PMs to make appointments. I have exchanged PMs with ladies saying I will visit them soon but I will still book by phone anonymously. The only escort to my knowledge that ever knew me before a visit was Jessica Jessie and by jaysus did she have her homework done. Lol. The kinda girls I want to visit don't do PM anyway. I normally do not like visiting girls from the boards because I am a choosey bastard and am afraid of not liking the girl in question. I will not colour a review to retain favour with a posting friend, I would rather not review at all. This happened to me recently.

A post stated that some girls fear a TR in case of a bad review. This has also happened to me with one of the most popular girls on EI too. So sometimes it can have its drawbacks.

Nope pick up the phone it is and always will be for me.

[Sensual Delights]

Well, I am not seeing things in black or white, for me it's really a combination of things.

Those are the kind of PMs I usually get and of course I don't like the second and the third category at all. I am also selective about my bookings but unfortunatelly, there are some people who are very skilled at deceiving others.

1. “Suspicious newbies”
I tend to get a lot of PMs from users just registered on the boards. Most of the time, the style they are writing to me is borderline cheeky, on a very familiar tone like we know each other for a long time. I take no chances with such PMs and I either don’t reply, either I ask them blankly to ring me.

2. “Bargain hunters”
The second category is unwanted PMs is from people that are making so obvious they are on a bargain hunt that they would put off any escort. “How much is JUST this?” is my pet hate in regard to PMs. My answer to those people is so cold that it could probably freeze water and I would say those people really think I’m a cold hearted bitch, wondering probably why I am shown as such a nice lady in my reviews. Most likely, those people will never try to book me again but I am perfectly fine with that, if anything I am beg them to continue to look elsewhere.

3. “Messers”
The third category of PMs I am getting is from really unserious people. Users with reviews, sometimes with a few posts. They ask for appointments in an acceptable manner, then, as it was mentioned in this thread, I do check their reviews, likes and dislikes and I am happy to arrange an appointment for them. I go the extra mile arranging all details, heck I don’t even ask them to confirm their appointments. And after all these, they don’t bother showing up. They don’t even bother to cancel. In a couple of cases, if you can believe it, they even try to make another appointment at a later stage, most likely after I change my pics … proving to me some don’t even know who they were nasty with.

4. “The Gentlemen Club”
The fourth category is the perfect, wonderful way of receiving PMs with booking requests from people that inquire nicely about bookings and when they book they do show up or at least cancel in advance. Sometimes they are new users but it is obvious to see they have manners and don’t come across as suspicious. If they have history on this site, reviews or postings, I check as much as I can to ensure I am able to give them a good time. Even if I have my doubts that maybe we won’t click 100%, I still rely on my professionalism and don’t express my doubts, even if the appointment will be a little harder for me afterwards.

5. “The buddies”
Those are the friendly emails I get once in a while from some forum users. They are not booking requests, the most they can be just expressing an intent to see me if I ever come to a certain part of Ireland. They can be just friendly talk or a request from a non professional related information. I don’t see it as a waste of time to answer them, if anything I think it’s nice to do some occasional bonding once in a while. Given time, some of those "buddies" could become clients, as you never know when I will tour for a while or maybe they will come to my town. I met a few wonderful people this way, as it was quite a bonus as I didn't expect it at first when we got in touch.

To summarise: Yes, I am pro for the PM system, but I also have some reserves for certain category of people.

[Sam Spade]

I only book via PM those ladies who are very difficult to get through by phone.
I further used this method to arrange further appointments with escorts I have seen before.

I did arranged to meet an escort via PM a while back for our first appointment.
During this appointment she did admit to being very worried about meeting me as I was a regular poster.
Now everybody knows I am not a TR and only a recent member of this forum at that, but I believe she felt under pressure in some way 'to perform', which I felt uneasy about.

This made me rethink the PM system, which is why I now restrict it's use.

A telephone appointment can be made by any 'Joe Bloggs', and the escort can relax and give you her genuine service.

[dannyboy10]

Just to turn this on its head?
Is there also a case that, as a reviewer who has seen someone with dozens of positives,
that you might feel under pressure to make average sound better than that??
Rather than be the one to speak up, or even be ridiculed??

Well JD I can see where you are coming from but if a Lady is generally well received by all and sundry a bad experience would more than likly be down to a few reasons.
1. An off day. (on either parties part)
2. You chose a girl that was popular but not really the type you would normally go for and therefore end up dissappointed.
3. Its your fautl. Its your fault. Its your fault

If it is any of the above I would choose not to leave a review rather than leave a dishonest one!

[aliciasexy]

Yes maybe.They just want to know me and to ask about evrething you know what i meen?

[JessicaJessy]

I agree with you Jessica. But I imagine most girls will not turn down the oppertunity for a review from a more recognised personality. Is it fair for an established member to make his identity known to the new ladies prior or during an appointment?
I know you were new to but you were special from day one!

If somebody it takes advantage,is because the girl let's him to take advantage.I mean,a review is not the end of the world.It is truth that is very important,but not everything stops there.If somebody gets a bad review and thinks is not accurate,the boards are opened,and no matter if the reviewer is TR or not,it can be proved that he was not fair!

[Experienced Punter esq]

on 3 occasions I've had escorts pm'ing me to confirm it was me who pm'd them for an appointment under another username er no it wasnt me just goes to prove my popularity here