Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 19

Thread: What men mean when they say...

  1. #1
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Posts
    5,354

    Default What men mean when they say...

    1. “I definitely know you from somewhere.”

    He means: I definitely fancy you.

    A guy who's trying to impress you wouldn't dream of risking a full “I fancy you” at this early stage, so he's hedging his bets with a (glaringly unsubtle) flirty cliché. It works for a couple of reasons: first, it draws you into the idea that you and he are somehow connected (ah, it's fate!). It's also his way of signalling his interest, without making himself vulnerable to rejection. He fears rejection like a slug fears salt.

    2. “It's getting noisy in here. Do you want to go somewhere less crowded?”

    He means: I like you, and I think you like me, so let's find somewhere more romantic.

    He still doesn't want to risk rejection by laying his heart on the ground for you to stamp on, but when a man says this he clearly thinks that your date is going well. That, or his ex-girlfriend has just walked in.

    Be warned, you haven't got him in the bag yet. When you “go on somewhere” he's still sussing you out. He hasn't switched to a quieter venue so that he can rip your clothes off – it's simply so that conversation is easier and he can find out more about you.

    3. “Hey try this: it's a whiskey sour. I first had one in New York. Careful, sip slowly...”

    He means: You are intimidatingly cool. Must prove that I'm at least as cool as you are.

    This is not about whiskey cocktails, it's about his ego. If a man is impressed by your career or conversation, watch him try to rescue his intimidated ego by pulling out all his best alpha male tricks. He'll brag, crack jokes, spend money on you, save you from muggers... this man will do anything for you. Because it makes him feel better about himself.

    Word of warning: if you want your relationship to work in the long term, he's got to get over his insecurities first.

    4. “Hey everyone, this is my friend...”

    He means: This is not my girlfriend. Just making sure that you know it and she knows it.

    Or he may mean: This is my new girlfriend. But I'm playing it cool.

    Only you (and he, I suppose) can decide the most likely of these two explanations for his description of you as his “friend” - even though you've been in a state of apparent mutual bliss for two months now.

    Be honest. If your dates contain more awkward silences than words, you are not in a state of mutual bliss. He only called you his “friend” because you were in the room and he wanted to be polite. Get rid, immediately.

    The “playing it cool” explanation is a little more complicated. A lot of the men say that they find it intensely embarrassing to declare their feelings for a new girlfriend in public (by, say, using the word “girlfriend”). He may be happy to call you his girlfriend in private, but not in front of his friends. If it's any consolation, he'll get over himself soon enough.

    5. He says: “The time's not right... I’d make a terrible boyfriend at the moment.”

    He means: I'd make a terrible boyfriend because I don't fancy you enough.

    Give the guy credit for being honest with himself and letting you down gently, rather than hanging on and treating you like a doormat because he doesn't have the gumption to end it. That may not make you feel better now, but it soon will.

    6. He says: “I love New York. I'll take you there one day.”

    He means: I love the response I get when I say this to women.

    Sometimes he may even mean it, for a minute or two. We all do it to an extent – we're carried away by the excitement of meeting someone new, and we throw all sorts of pie-eyed plans into the air, without seriously intending to follow them through. No harm in that, provided you both know that it's just one of those fun “what if?” conversations. The danger is when one of you takes it too seriously. Put down that visa application form and take a pinch of salt instead.

    7. He says: A grunting sound (his code for “I'm going to the pub”)

    He means: I can't be bothered to talk to you any more.

    You may recognise this scenario if you've been in a relationship for a while, and your once chatty boyfriend has turned into stranger who'll do anything to avoid a conversation. It may surprise you to hear that he's probably scared of you. The less he communicates with you, the more insecure you'll get – and that's when the trouble really starts.

    This is a clear case of signal failure. If you want your relationship to work, you must fix your communication link. Be frank about your feelings and fears, and let him do the same. No judgemental interruptions. If you continue to be open and honest, your reward will be a level of trust and mutual understanding that seemed impossible not long ago.

  2. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to vampirejackie For This Useful Post:

    BruceAlmighty (13-11-10), hd7055 (13-11-10), Violette (13-11-10)

  3. #2
    Join Date
    Oct 2010
    Location
    Here, there and everywhere.
    Posts
    14,463
    Blog Entries
    225

    Default

    Some very good points there

  4. #3
    Join Date
    Mar 2010
    Location
    Indoors with Emmasweet
    Posts
    36,636
    Blog Entries
    15
    Reviews
    61

    Default

    our secrets out then,clever clogs;doc;
    Between two evils, I always pick the one I never tried before.
    People who think they know everything are a great annoyance to those of us who do .: doc

  5. #4
    Join Date
    Jan 2010
    Location
    munster
    Posts
    1,000

    Default

    you have a very bad opinion of us men jackie

  6. #5
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Posts
    5,354

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by lonely View Post
    you have a very bad opinion of us men jackie
    Not at all lonely You have ur uses

  7. #6
    Join Date
    May 2008
    Location
    At home
    Posts
    22,443

    Default

    ]1. “I definitely know you from somewhere.”

    He means: I want to Fuck you



    2. “It's getting noisy in here. Do you want to go somewhere less crowded?”

    He means: I want to Fuck you


    3. “Hey try this: it's a whiskey sour. I first had one in New York. Careful, sip slowly...”

    He means:My cum taste better want to try?

    4. “Hey everyone, this is my friend...”

    He means: I want to fuck her anyone want to join in?
    5. He says: “The time's not right... I’d make a terrible boyfriend at the moment.”

    He means : Get the fuck out of my bed and call a cab


    6. He says: “I love New York. I'll take you there one day.”

    He means: I want to Fuck you


    7. He says: A grunting sound (his code for “I'm going to the pub”)

    He means:I have fucked you

    Why do you have to complicate things Jackie
    Men are very simple
    Join the E-I Fantasy Football League

    http://www.escort-ireland.com/boards...ntasy-Football

  8. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to Doozer For This Useful Post:

    BruceAlmighty (13-11-10), lonely (13-11-10), Monkeynut (13-11-10)

  9. #7
    Join Date
    Jan 2010
    Location
    munster
    Posts
    1,000

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by vampirejackie View Post
    Not at all lonely You have ur uses
    ye have one or two yerselves
    im sure i could find a use for you now if you wer here

  10. #8
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Posts
    5,354

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by lonely View Post
    ye have one or two yerselves
    im sure i could find a use for you now if you wer here
    Im sure you could

  11. #9
    Join Date
    Mar 2008
    Posts
    6,282
    Reviews
    9

    Default

    These never fail.

    I may not be Fred Flintstone, but I bet I can make your Bed Rock.

    I may not be the best looking guy here, but I'm the only one talking to you.

    That shirt looks very becoming on you, but if I were on you, I'd be coming too.

    I'd like to screw your brains out, but it appears that someone beat me to it.

    You must be from Pearl Harbor, cause baby you're the Bomb.

    If you were a new hamburger at McDonald's, you would be McGorgeous.

    I lost my phone number. Can I borrow yours?

    I'm new in town, could I have directions to your house.

    I love every bone in your body - especially mine.

    Was you dad a farmer? Cause you sure have great melons.
    Once a prick - always a prick.

  12. The Following User Says Thank You to rover For This Useful Post:

    vampirejackie (13-11-10)

  13. #10
    Join Date
    Nov 2007
    Location
    Johannesburg, SA
    Posts
    3,650
    Blog Entries
    32

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by vampirejackie View Post
    Not at all lonely You have ur uses
    Taking out the trash
    Fixing the car
    Someone to yell at for no good reason
    Someone to ignore us when we are yelling at them for no good reason
    Guilt pressies
    I think that is about it, girls care to add your own uses for men.

    RETURNING TO THE EMERALD ISLE SHORTLY
    ❤❤❤❤

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •