Can we REALLY leave our escorting life behind and go back to how we were before?

[English Milly Masseuse]

I was reading a blog yesteday and I have been wondering if it really is possible to not be "hardened" from escorting and to resume a life with a "normal" job and regain relationships without my last job effecting me?????

This is what the blog said-

"I am hardened from working. I am not exactly sure how to explain the feeling, but it is an awareness that i wish i didn't have. The knowledge of what its really like inside the world of prostitution is not pretty.
Yes, you can make it, you can pay your bills and get what you need, but you are going to walk away ( if your lucky enough to) feeling terrible. You've sold a part of yourself and you cant buy it back"

I know my view......but whats yours?

[robijntje]

I think that the first few months/years after the job are going to be the hardest, in terms of money and emotions. You might end up missing people that used to visit you regularly, who says that you don't?

And falling in love will always happen, I think, it's just the way love works. If you find that special someone, you're gonna know it, regardless of the job you've been doing.

It's definitely gonna be harder, because you might have lost your trust in men and humanity as a whole. It's gonna be in the back of your head.

But if you find that someone who does not care about things that happened in the past, that loves you with all his heart for the person that you are, not the way you look like or what you did in the past, it might happen.

Hope this helps.

[Experienced Punter esq]

I have experience of 2 girls working as escorts who tried to move away without success they had become so ''hardened'' like u said they had trouble with moving into 'normal' r/ships' have to say too they admitted the lure of the monies they could make from escorting influenced their decisions to move back to escorting they had little trust in men which was a big thing too
Tell u this much too clients can become 'hardened' in a way too when u no longer visit escorts(like me!) your expectations looks wise with women is high & the sex without commitment thing u can have with escorts is something I certainly miss.......

[magicalman9357]

Can only give my view here as not an escort. I believe we all sell part of ourselves every single day of life whether it be through work and most other things. The only difference here is the sex element but even looking at that do married people or people who are engaged or in relationships not sell themselves to one another? I believe we do in one way or another through courtship and attempting to impress the other partner and in particular the sex element in many relationships where the male sells himself by being particularly nice to the female in an attempt to get her to bed. Yes I do realise this is not always the case but it does happpen. When I go for a job interview it is not just my talents qualifications and skils I am selling but also my appearance so we are really in a sales orientated world. I am not missing the point here I believe as I do understand that emotions and feelings play a vital role in any persons well being but I am saying it really depends on the person doing the selling and their own perspective of things. I guess the term 'hardened from working' applies to many of us as I have had suffered emotional effects from some jobs I have worked in and seen the damage psychological abuse can do but continued for the same reason in that I had to pay the bills and survive. I also think that whilst I have sold part of myself and can't buy it back it's also a learning experience and I have come to realise that it is work end of story which I separate from the rest of my life wherever possible. Once again I am not in a position to say how any escort feels but the to answer the question I do not believe it is possible to 'resume a normal life' without being affected as life experiences affect us all and carry on throughout our lives.

[English Milly Masseuse]

I think that the first few months/years after the job are going to be the hardest, in terms of money and emotions. You might end up missing people that used to visit you regularly, who says that you don't?

And falling in love will always happen, I think, it's just the way love works. If you find that special someone, you're gonna know it, regardless of the job you've been doing.

It's definitely gonna be harder, because you might have lost your trust in men and humanity as a whole. It's gonna be in the back of your head.

But if you find that someone who does not care about things that happened in the past, that loves you with all his heart for the person that you are, not the way you look like or what you did in the past, it might happen.

Hope this helps.

I have just been on a research programme for a University and these questions came up. It was really interesting.....

People on "the outside" of punting have very biased and rigid opinions about us, and presume we are so "damaged" through escorting that we can never intergrate back into a happy fulfilling life.......

I am now looking at it from the punters side too.....

[robijntje]

When I first started punting, I talked to my best friend about it. He does not judge me or any of the escorts, but he warned me however.

Not that I would fall in love with one particular lady and that she would take advantage of that, he trusts my judgement enough.

However, for long time punters it's as hard to get into a normal relationship after punting, since you've had the lifestyle of just going to a lady whenever you felt like it, just sex without commitment, as Experienced Punter stated earlier. In a relationship, you have to commit to making the relationship work, and that is way harder than just making a call and putting some money on the table to get what you want...

He just warned me that if I would stick to punting for too long, I may never have a normal relationship again, because I'm used to not committing. We'll see what happens though .

[Heidi Baby]

I've tried, what is a normal life after escorting? "It's not easy! ....( To go to look for work in their town where everyone probably knows what they are doing or just a part of them) to get up every morning to go to work at the same time, the same carried out in time to go home and watch TV or make dinner. Calculated each month, what amount of money u need to pay the bills, to buy food, etc. ...
Is also very difficult to prevail in the world. Especially if you were an escort in the past.
If a normal life would be easy if I had not come back probably! But then .... I hate to lead a normal life! And I'm crazy too!

Only love can help! A love which can be trusted, which is supported! We can not just trust the men's which I think is understandable! Only the selfless love .... and here's the next questions ..... If you find someone you love and He loves ....
U will stop the escorting?

You will never forget it,you can only bury the memories, but does he?
He will be able to forget and start a new life with you?
Or will all just come up at every fight?
hmmmm ..... interesting, complex things are!

Anyone knows the answers?

[robijntje]

i also think punting when one is young is a bad idea
as when your young thats when you develop social skills, learning how to pick up wemon etc etc if you dont get theese skills how do you manage to get a wife when your older

also i dont like the idea of a young person visiting stunning ho's and then how his he in the future going to be satisfied with a bog standard wife

Ehm... I don't mean to be rude or anything, but where do I state that I'm young? And also, let's just say that I am indeed quite young, who says that young people do not have any life experience at all?

Let's define young maybe. Young purely based on age would probably be 17-22 or something like that? Or up to 25? And what if you deal with a client who acts like he's 27-28 but in truth is only 21 or 22? Is that still young? Does the age which is presented on the passport matter, or is it truly the way his mind works?

And you visit stunning ho's... But always keep it in the back of your mind that what they do is what they do, putting up an act on most occasions... they pretend like they are in love with you at best but they aren't... If you can't see that, you better not punt, or you're in for a lot of trouble.

Learning to pick up women... I just hate that phrase. It's like you pick them up, shag them and then throw them out like a piece of garbage. That's just so disrespectful :s.

[Lucy Chambers]

i really want a normal life nornal job boyfriend etc etc
but its so hard
im finding it really difficult to date at the mo, how do you trust someone,
when im working i get used to the whole getting a text after saying how fantastic i am (its good as it helps to know your doing a good job) but when you date you see someone for a few weeks then you sleep with them then they dont ring text or anything till the following week, its bloody head wrecking
if you working in a normal job you boos wont send messages saying your good at your job, how will i coupe, id be a nervous ass all the time

I think you will meet the right person. You just haven't yet. I gave up escorting for four years, surprisingly it is easy to do. It was very hard to come back, however.

[Doozer]

Ehm... I don't mean to be rude or anything, but where do I state that I'm young? And also, let's just say that I am indeed quite young, who says that young people do not have any life experience at all?

Let's define young maybe. Young purely based on age would probably be 17-22 or something like that? Or up to 25? And what if you deal with a client who acts like he's 27-28 but in truth is only 21 or 22? Is that still young? Does the age which is presented on the passport matter, or is it truly the way his mind works?

And you visit stunning ho's... But always keep it in the back of your mind that what they do is what they do, putting up an act on most occasions... they pretend like they are in love with you at best but they aren't... If you can't see that, you better not punt, or you're in for a lot of trouble.

Learning to pick up women... I just hate that phrase. It's like you pick them up, shag them and then throw them out like a piece of garbage. That's just so disrespectful :s.

I think what she is saying is that young people tend not to have had enough time to develope socaily. They should be trying to get gfs and be able to develop relationships rather than just seeing an escort for sex.