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    Question 20 signs that you should end it...




    Relationships, like hot summers, often look better from a distance. Just as you forget how draining a muggy day can feel, you also forget how soul-destroying and lonely a relationship can feel when it's not going well.

    “So just end it,” right? It's never as simple as that. Most of us have experienced that dilemma of not knowing whether to walk away from a relationship. You think that you're being too picky, you worry that no-one else will love you this much, you don't want to hurt someone you care about, you fear regretting it and not being able to win them back. You've stayed in relationships for those reasons, right? Yep, so have we.

    But these alone aren't good enough reasons to stay in a relationship that isn't working. Ending a relationship can be heartbreaking, even if you're dying to get away. The blissful future that you'd imagined when you first got together is now not going to happen. Thing is, is you're unhappy, that blissful future wasn't going to happen anyway.

    If you’re experiencing a few of these 20 signs regularly, it may be time to move on. It will be difficult, but ultimately it'll be the right thing for you both. Life is too short (and your partner's life is too short) to waste valuable years on a pairing that's going nowhere.

    1. You’re always craving time alone

    It’d be weird and needy to want your partner by your side every minute of every day. It’s normal to look forward to some time alone. But if you’re craving me-time and wish that he or she wasn’t around, it's clear that your relationship is giving you more frustration than joy.

    2. You don’t go out together any more

    Even if you’re living together, you should never stop going on dates together. A successful relationship is based on more than sex and silently watching the telly together.

    3. You prefer seeing your friends to seeing your partner

    A good relationship involves socialising with and without your other half. Not wishing that you lived with your housemates again rather than your lover.

    4. You’ve stopped having sex

    Sex drive can dip for many reasons, including stress or medication. But if you just stop fancying your partner, and sex becomes a chore or stops altogether, listen to your alarm bells.

    5. You’ve stopped touching each other

    Touching isn’t just about sex, it’s about affection and togetherness. Casual touching, hugging and holding hands are the signs of a healthy relationship with two people who still fancy each other. If you flinch when he or she brushes against you, it really is time to get out.

    6. You’ve stopped kissing

    Passionate kissing is emotionally more intimate than sex, so it’s often the first thing to go when two people start drifting apart. If you want to kiss each other but just haven’t got round to it for a while, pucker up. If you don't enjoy it, see above.

    7. They no longer make you laugh

    Their witty lines once made tea came out of your nose. These days you just wish they’d shut up. Why are you still with them, pray tell?

    8. You don’t chat

    Chatting – about trivia, what’s in the news or what happened at work – is the bedrock of a good relationship. When you stop talking to each other about the little things, it’s a sign that you don’t see each other as friends any more.

    9. You’re always nit-picking

    If you’re constantly bothered by their coffee-slurping, their taste in pants and everything they do, you’re not in love, you're in a constant state of “argh”. That's not trivial: it's the kind of everyday stress that can damage your health.

    10. They're always nit-picking

    If your partner seems constantly irritated by you, it suggests that they're not happy or even comfortable around you. They may be wanting out, but haven’t the courage to bring up the subject. If he or she makes you feel that you can’t do anything right, do you really want to be around this person?

    11. You do all the chores

    Every long-term couple has disagreements about housework and other chores, but the squabbles usually end in vague equality or compromise. If your partner treats you like a doormat, show them the door.

    12. You don’t care about your appearance

    Love doesn’t mean letting yourself go. If you no longer care about whether he or she fancies you or not, it spells trouble for your sex life – and your relationship.

    13. Red letter days are forgotten

    Anniversaries, Valentine’s Day and so on may seem trivial, but a loving couple will acknowledge them in some way, even if it’s with a scribbled note saying “V-Day is rubbish, let’s spend it in bed.” Once you forget each other’s birthdays, your relationship is so far past its sell-by date that even a dog wouldn't eat it.

    14. You’re doing all the giving (or all the getting)

    Most relationships go through stages where one person is more emotionally and sexually generous than the other, but the imbalance should not be more or less permanent. Parasites don’t make good partners.

    15. You’ve stopped liking yourself

    A lover is not supposed to make you feel unloved, unattractive and unable to be yourself. If yours does, get out and stop letting them sap your spirit.

    16. Your friends think they're bad for you

    Your friends know you best, and they’ll say what they think if it’s for your benefit. If they think your partner is no good, listen. They’ll be there for you when he or she isn’t.

    17. You compare them with other men or women

    It’s natural to find other people attractive, but not to compare your lover unfavourably with every person who catches your eye.

    18. You look up your exes

    It’s fine to be friends with exes, and it shows maturity. But if you seek out and flirt with an ex, then you arrange to meet up with them, and find yourself wondering “what if…?”, your current relationship is doomed.

    19. You wish they'd change

    Once the rose-tinted early months have passed, mismatched personalities become more obvious. You can’t change your partner into someone better suited to you. Instead, find someone who’s already your perfect match.

    20. You say “I love you” but don’t mean it

    Do you feel a little knot of guilt whenever you say it, as though you’re lying? Do you only say it to make them shut up and go away? Then stop saying it, and start spending more time with someone you really love – starting with yourself.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jacksparrow2010 View Post
    16. Your friends think they're bad for you

    Your friends know you best, and they’ll say what they think if it’s for your benefit. If they think your partner is no good, listen. They’ll be there for you when he or she isn’t.
    I don't agree with this one. More often is it wrong. If sometimes could be true, still it cannot be trusted.

    I have seen it too many time.

    The girl friend angry that I won't have as much time to go out with her picking up guys, once I was in a solid relationship, talking how bad the guy is ... while just looking out for herself.

    The friend who fancied me and didn't have the courage to let me know it, becoming suddenly very irritated and talking about how much I have changed (in bad), once I am in a relationship. He is frustrated he didn't get to sleep with me / be with me himself.

    I always take friend's advice with a pinch of salt. If they don't demand something from me and just give me their honest opinion, I might consider their warning and check it out myself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jacksparrow2010 View Post



    Relationships, like hot summers, often look better from a distance. Just as you forget how draining a muggy day can feel, you also forget how soul-destroying and lonely a relationship can feel when it's not going well.

    “So just end it,” right? It's never as simple as that. Most of us have experienced that dilemma of not knowing whether to walk away from a relationship. You think that you're being too picky, you worry that no-one else will love you this much, you don't want to hurt someone you care about, you fear regretting it and not being able to win them back. You've stayed in relationships for those reasons, right? Yep, so have we.

    But these alone aren't good enough reasons to stay in a relationship that isn't working. Ending a relationship can be heartbreaking, even if you're dying to get away. The blissful future that you'd imagined when you first got together is now not going to happen. Thing is, is you're unhappy, that blissful future wasn't going to happen anyway.

    If you’re experiencing a few of these 20 signs regularly, it may be time to move on. It will be difficult, but ultimately it'll be the right thing for you both. Life is too short (and your partner's life is too short) to waste valuable years on a pairing that's going nowhere.

    1. You’re always craving time alone

    It’d be weird and needy to want your partner by your side every minute of every day. It’s normal to look forward to some time alone. But if you’re craving me-time and wish that he or she wasn’t around, it's clear that your relationship is giving you more frustration than joy.

    2. You don’t go out together any more

    Even if you’re living together, you should never stop going on dates together. A successful relationship is based on more than sex and silently watching the telly together.

    3. You prefer seeing your friends to seeing your partner

    A good relationship involves socialising with and without your other half. Not wishing that you lived with your housemates again rather than your lover.

    4. You’ve stopped having sex

    Sex drive can dip for many reasons, including stress or medication. But if you just stop fancying your partner, and sex becomes a chore or stops altogether, listen to your alarm bells.

    5. You’ve stopped touching each other

    Touching isn’t just about sex, it’s about affection and togetherness. Casual touching, hugging and holding hands are the signs of a healthy relationship with two people who still fancy each other. If you flinch when he or she brushes against you, it really is time to get out.

    6. You’ve stopped kissing

    Passionate kissing is emotionally more intimate than sex, so it’s often the first thing to go when two people start drifting apart. If you want to kiss each other but just haven’t got round to it for a while, pucker up. If you don't enjoy it, see above.

    7. They no longer make you laugh

    Their witty lines once made tea came out of your nose. These days you just wish they’d shut up. Why are you still with them, pray tell?

    8. You don’t chat

    Chatting – about trivia, what’s in the news or what happened at work – is the bedrock of a good relationship. When you stop talking to each other about the little things, it’s a sign that you don’t see each other as friends any more.

    9. You’re always nit-picking

    If you’re constantly bothered by their coffee-slurping, their taste in pants and everything they do, you’re not in love, you're in a constant state of “argh”. That's not trivial: it's the kind of everyday stress that can damage your health.

    10. They're always nit-picking

    If your partner seems constantly irritated by you, it suggests that they're not happy or even comfortable around you. They may be wanting out, but haven’t the courage to bring up the subject. If he or she makes you feel that you can’t do anything right, do you really want to be around this person?

    11. You do all the chores

    Every long-term couple has disagreements about housework and other chores, but the squabbles usually end in vague equality or compromise. If your partner treats you like a doormat, show them the door.

    12. You don’t care about your appearance

    Love doesn’t mean letting yourself go. If you no longer care about whether he or she fancies you or not, it spells trouble for your sex life – and your relationship.

    13. Red letter days are forgotten

    Anniversaries, Valentine’s Day and so on may seem trivial, but a loving couple will acknowledge them in some way, even if it’s with a scribbled note saying “V-Day is rubbish, let’s spend it in bed.” Once you forget each other’s birthdays, your relationship is so far past its sell-by date that even a dog wouldn't eat it.

    14. You’re doing all the giving (or all the getting)

    Most relationships go through stages where one person is more emotionally and sexually generous than the other, but the imbalance should not be more or less permanent. Parasites don’t make good partners.

    15. You’ve stopped liking yourself

    A lover is not supposed to make you feel unloved, unattractive and unable to be yourself. If yours does, get out and stop letting them sap your spirit.

    16. Your friends think they're bad for you

    Your friends know you best, and they’ll say what they think if it’s for your benefit. If they think your partner is no good, listen. They’ll be there for you when he or she isn’t.

    17. You compare them with other men or women

    It’s natural to find other people attractive, but not to compare your lover unfavourably with every person who catches your eye.

    18. You look up your exes

    It’s fine to be friends with exes, and it shows maturity. But if you seek out and flirt with an ex, then you arrange to meet up with them, and find yourself wondering “what if…?”, your current relationship is doomed.

    19. You wish they'd change

    Once the rose-tinted early months have passed, mismatched personalities become more obvious. You can’t change your partner into someone better suited to you. Instead, find someone who’s already your perfect match.

    20. You say “I love you” but don’t mean it

    Do you feel a little knot of guilt whenever you say it, as though you’re lying? Do you only say it to make them shut up and go away? Then stop saying it, and start spending more time with someone you really love – starting with yourself.
    Eh Jack? Thats only one sign followed by 19 excuses.

    Sincerely,
    Westside.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sensual Delights View Post
    I don't agree with this one. More often is it wrong. If sometimes could be true, still it cannot be trusted.

    I have seen it too many time.

    The girl friend angry that I won't have as much time to go out with her picking up guys, once I was in a solid relationship, talking how bad the guy is ... while just looking out for herself.

    The friend who fancied me and didn't have the courage to let me know it, becoming suddenly very irritated and talking about how much I have changed (in bad), once I am in a relationship. He is frustrated he didn't get to sleep with me / be with me himself.

    I always take friend's advice with a pinch of salt. If they don't demand something from me and just give me their honest opinion, I might consider their warning and check it out myself.
    Your right. Friends can be your worst enemies when it comes to meeting someone you like and thats both men and women. Lots of times if you really want to screw up a good chance ask or tell a friend preferably a close one and especially of the opposite sex who knows or has contact with the person you like. Doomed.

    Sincerely,
    Westside.
    Last edited by Westsidex; 02-09-10 at 12:35.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Westsidex View Post
    Eh Jack? Thats only one sign followed by 19 excuses.

    Sincerely,
    Westside.
    well I didnt write it!.. only copy and pasted it from another site thats all...

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