I lost my nerve

[Ric Hardgear]

I would love to get back in the saddle,..I regularly peruse this site choose a girl ,but then fail to make that call ,I have lost my nerve,or have I become too choosey.The problem is that I had a regular girl that I would go and see but she moved away from my locale,then I dipped back into perusing this site for my punt,its not that I was burnt on every date its just that I didnt care or connect with who I met for a shag.I know that seems strange because its all about casual sex ..but I care who I shag,I like escorts I want them to like me I want it to be beyond a fiscal arrangement.Im not looking for a subsitute kiss and cuddle gf,never being needy.Im just thinking too much about this vacuous sex.
I think I need to harden up

[El Gordo]

I think I need to harden up

I wouldn't say that. Different people look for different things in escorts. There's nothing wrong with what you're looking for, and no reason to think you won't find it. Just be patient and you'll find another regular.

[wanted the best 69]

ric
i tend to agree on certain points you make, one most sex starts in the mind, this would come under attraction,then visual appeal,
the act its self is about contact, and yes men do want warmth, how often do you read a review that contains, did not click, cold, not interested???????? many reviews i believe have this content in them
it is one of the most intimate acts between human beings, so why would someone not want to feel a sense warmth before or after, RIC keep looking you will find an escort that suits you mate, you did before, you will again

[Cable87]

I suppose at this point it's a matter of 'testing the waters'. You won't find another lady that you feel comfortable with, and will be unable to establish any connections at all, unless you pick up the phone and make the call! So you might not get that feeling you're looking for from the first one, but at least you gave it a go. If it doesn't work out with the first one, try it out with another lady. There's plenty of really nice ladies out there, you're bound to find another one you can feel comfortable with!

[Mymisters]

I would totally agree with you.
I have to feel some sort of connection with the girl.
It has to go beyond a business transaction.
I've been lucky in the girls that I've chosen in that all bar one have I had a good time with where I felt some connection.
I have a couple of regulars I see where I can have a chat with and not feel awkward before or after.