Serious q: negative impact on relationships

[randaddy2017]

Have many/any of you who have/had partners (wife/gf) experienced a negative impact on your personal relationship with your them (wife/gf) due to you punting?

This could be in minor way (less turned on by partner) or more significant (sex addiction, caught std, break-up).

It sadden me to say I have. Sex with my partner seems, at times, boring compared to that with an escort. I feel shitty admitting that, but its the truth. Just wondering if Im alone. Are any of you in largely good relationships with someone your not quite sexually compatible with?

[Mr Sweet Guy]

First to say sorry mate to hear your sad story as it not nice to hear that........

And I never visit Escorts in my relationship but know a few friends and relation who did and one of two still do as that their business....

Maybe I soft but I think if you have some one in your life and you truly love them.....

Then you can work on any problem if you try as that all you can do and no point be in dour sexless relationship as you and her only suffer heartbreak but it not easy if kids involved as that a different matter........

You say your sex life is not great at moment I was going to say this but maybe best to pm you it as all I say is look at what the f**k and you might find something might help a little....
Good Luck mate........

[Stephanie]

Have many/any of you who have/had partners (wife/gf) experienced a negative impact on your personal relationship with your them (wife/gf) due to you punting?

This could be in a minor way (less turned on by partner) or more significant (sex addiction, caught std, break-up).

It saddens me to say I have. Sex with my partner seems, at times, boring compared to that with an escort. I feel shitty admitting that, but its the truth. Just wondering if Im alone.
Are any of you in largely good relationships with someone your not quite sexually compatible with?

I'd say many many people (men+women) are ... hence We can ease the burden , lighten the load , put a smile on the face and a spring in their step ...

: then these lovelies get to go home to a perfectly wonderful home with a loving family and a long future lovingly bonded to their wives ,

but not have to bear the weight of unrequited need for intimacy , not have to bear the weight of sexual frustration and unfulfillment ..

Not needing to pressure their partners for 'things' not forthcoming .

No longer needing to bear the feelings of rejection and building resentment towards their partners ,

whose needs (sexual / intimacy) are diff to their own .



Takes the pressure off , tension gone , Love for the Other can triumph over carnal necessity and need xx



What was the question XX

[Stephanie]

First to say sorry mate to hear your sad story as it not nice to hear that........

And I never visit Escorts in my relationship but know a few friends and relation who did and one of two still do as that their business....

Maybe I soft but I think if you have some one in your life and you truly love them.....

Then you can work on any problem if you try as that all you can do and no point be in dour sexless relationship as you and her only suffer heartbreak but it not easy if kids involved as that a different matter........

You say your sex life is not great at moment I was going to say this but maybe best to pm you it as all I say is look at what the f**k and you might find something might help a little....
Good Luck mate........

You can have deep love romantic love , and respect for another , have a life-long commitment to a partner

where the ONLY thing you may be incompatible on is the level or frequency or intensity of intimacy .

Why on Earth would anyone throw away a cherished person , a valued and priceless harmonioius futuresome relationship

just because he (or SHE !!) needs to 'get it on' more often than the other !??

What foolishness of social sanctimonious squandery to toss aside the possibly most compatible person you'll ever meet ,

you'll ever have , whose thoughts you know and trust , whose love and committment you'd never doubt ,

what foolhardy man or woman would toss aside a 'love for life' just because of a silly thing as

needing / wanting a bj every so often but not getting it at home !??

Madness .


But discretion above all else ! Respect yourself , and respect your partner to the utmost !

: Play safe ; play away from home ; Respect Your Partner ; and love her Deeply without reservation or resentment x

[gonzo76]

You can have deep love romantic love , and respect for another , have a life-long commitment to a partner

where the ONLY thing you may be incompatible on is the level or frequency or intensity of intimacy .

Why on Earth would anyone throw away a cherished person , a valued and priceless harmonioius futuresome relationship

just because he (or SHE !!) needs to 'get it on' more often than the other !??

What foolishness of social sanctimonious squandery to toss aside the possibly most compatible person you'll ever meet ,

you'll ever have , whose thoughts you know and trust , whose love and committment you'd never doubt ,

what foolhardy man or woman would toss aside a 'love for life' just because of a silly thing as

needing / wanting a bj every so often but not getting it at home !??

Madness .


But discretion above all else ! Respect yourself , and respect your partner to the utmost !

: Play safe ; play away from home ; Respect Your Partner ; and love her Deeply without reservation or resentment x

But I wonder how many men would be so understanding if their wife or girlfriend was visiting male escorts?

I know you are accounting for both, but I think guys would not be so understanding as women!

[Mr Sweet Guy]

You can have deep love romantic love , and respect for another , have a life-long commitment to a partner

where the ONLY thing you may be incompatible on is the level or frequency or intensity of intimacy .

Why on Earth would anyone throw away a cherished person , a valued and priceless harmonioius futuresome relationship

just because he (or SHE !!) needs to 'get it on' more often than the other !??

What foolishness of social sanctimonious squandery to toss aside the possibly most compatible person you'll ever meet ,

you'll ever have , whose thoughts you know and trust , whose love and committment you'd never doubt ,

what foolhardy man or woman would toss aside a 'love for life' just because of a silly thing as

needing / wanting a bj every so often but not getting it at home !??

Madness .


But discretion above all else ! Respect yourself , and respect your partner to the utmost !

: Play safe ; play away from home ; Respect Your Partner ; and love her Deeply without reservation or resentment x

Ask yourself Stephanie would you live in dour sexless relationship and be happy.......

As my guess your other side might not be happy and could be cheating on you as it pointless statement you made as that why married or clients with partner see Escorts or cheat on love ones as they not happy in relationship and would you stay with your partner if you found out if they where cheating with some one as would you still cherish and love them then........

[randaddy2017]

First to say sorry mate to hear your sad story as it not nice to hear that........

And I never visit Escorts in my relationship but know a few friends and relation who did and one of two still do as that their business....

Maybe I soft but I think if you have some one in your life and you truly love them.....

Then you can work on any problem if you try as that all you can do and no point be in dour sexless relationship as you and her only suffer heartbreak but it not easy if kids involved as that a different matter........

You say your sex life is not great at moment I was going to say this but maybe best to pm you it as all I say is look at what the f**k and you might find something might help a little....
Good Luck mate........

Thanks, Mr Sweet Guy. Im gonna refrain from discussing any details about my own situation, after all this isnt a relationship advice forum and I can probably get that elsewhere. Im more curious whether others have found themselves upset through frustration or (sexual) greed/wants. And I guess that is the case. I know a lot of men on EI are partnered up, whether theyll admit it or not, and also wonder if many of these lads are in similar situations.

I'd say many many people (men+women) are ... hence We can ease the burden , lighten the load , put a smile on the face and a spring in their step ...

: then these lovelies get to go home to a perfectly wonderful home with a loving family and a long future lovingly bonded to their wives ,

but not have to bear the weight of unrequited need for intimacy , not have to bear the weight of sexual frustration and unfulfillment ..

Not needing to pressure their partners for 'things' not forthcoming .

No longer needing to bear the feelings of rejection and building resentment towards their partners ,

whose needs (sexual / intimacy) are diff to their own .



Takes the pressure off , tension gone , Love for the Other can triumph over carnal necessity and need xx



What was the question XX

Thanks, Stephanie for the eloquent response. Kinda love you a little right now.

I agree with you: many people settle very early on in relationships and then end up compromising a lot. Im not like that ordinarily, but sex with an escort can be amazing, compared to a regular "civilian". It is unfair to draw comparisons, but if we must, i liken it to a local tough guy going up against an elite boxer like Floyd Mayweather. They might compete in the same sport but the skill disparity is enormous. Between the shits I've experienced the same. And I'd be the first to admit Im not stallion either, for the record. Interesting topic...

But I wonder how many men would be so understanding if their wife or girlfriend was visiting male escorts?

I know you are accounting for both, but I think guys would not be so understanding as women!

Agreed, Gonzo76. I often wonder what it must be like for French men and women where I believe mistresses are sometimes tolerated. Im compassionate and can see how the most dedicate of people, including women/wives, might stray on occasions throughout a marriage. Would I support it, no, but I couldnt condemn it either. I think it is natural to want to experience other people. But would I want to know if my wife or gf was bonking Miguel, absolutely not. Some things you are better off not knowing...

[Stephanie]

But I wonder how many men would be so understanding if their wife or girlfriend was visiting male escorts?

I know you are accounting for both, but I think guys would not be so understanding as women!

So instead of opposing my statement , why not post your Own Opinion on the matter ??

Refer to OP >>>

Have many/any of you who have/had partners (wife/gf) experienced a negative impact on your personal relationship with your them (wife/gf) due to you punting?

This could be in a minor way (less turned on by partner) or more significant (sex addiction, caught std, break-up).

It saddens me to say I have. Sex with my partner seems, at times, boring compared to that with an escort. I feel shitty admitting that, but its the truth. Just wondering if Im alone.
Are any of you in largely good relationships with someone your not quite sexually compatible with?

[randaddy2017]

Ask yourself Stephanie would you live in dour sexless relationship and be happy.......

As my guess your other side might not be happy and could be cheating on you as it pointless statement you made as that why married or clients with partner see Escorts or cheat on love ones as they not happy in relationship and would you stay with your partner if you found out if they where cheating with some one as would you still cherish and love them then........

Life isnt that simple mate. There are plenty of people in relationships with their partners whom they love, BUT they have other needs or fantasies that cant be met in that relationship. Those urges dont negate that love. But refusing to acknowledge them could lead to frustration.

[Stephanie]

Ask yourself Stephanie would you live in dour sexless relationship and be happy.......

As my guess your other side might not be happy and could be cheating on you as it pointless statement you made as that why married or clients with partner see Escorts or cheat on love ones as they not happy in relationship and would you stay with your partner if you found out if they where cheating with some one as would you still cherish and love them then........

As if ever do that mate !!

Like as I say seriously mate as forever mate like , as you just never know