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    Default How do you deal with the loss of a friend!

    So you realise you are not as close as you once were!
    Something has changed, but you can't put your finger on it!

    Is it you? Is it them?
    For whatever reason, it feels like the friendship has run its course! (They are not the person you thought they were, or you are not the person that they thought you were!!)....
    What do you do?
    How do you cope with the loss of a friend?

    And yes, I'm talking about someone who you have known for years!


    J

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    Quote Originally Posted by jamieboyo View Post
    So you realise you are not as close as you once were!
    Something has changed, but you can't put your finger on it!

    Is it you? Is it them?
    For whatever reason, it feels like the friendship has run its course! (They are not the person you thought they were, or you are not the person that they thought you were!!)....
    What do you do?
    How do you cope with the loss of a friend?

    And yes, I'm talking about someone who you have known for years!


    J
    friends drift away for many reasons, have lost contact with most of mine due to marriage,its a life changer as we all know, people change as they get older, time is the best healer or taking your mind of it by doing other things
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    Sorry to hear this. Going through the same thing myself.
    We were friends since primary school.
    It hurts but you just have to move on. Look to the future.
    May a little time apart will help in your case.
    Keep the chin up anyway pal.
    Try out some new things an you will meet new people.

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    I meet somebody almost every day of the week that used to be my friend. Maybe he still is because there was no falling out or anything like that. Things changed completely after he got married. There were a few times he had asked me to call to his place but when I'd ring or text on the day he'd tell me not to with something vague for an excuse. I never got any bad vibes from his missus but I'm guessing she doesn't like me. It hurts a bit but I can understand it. It may even be more unfair on him than me really.
    Shit happens, things change and you just carry on. I'd still be there for him - or them - in an emergency, if I was asked for help or even a favour. I haven't forgotten the past and won't either.
    I don't have a relationship with anybody else that comes even close to the friendship we had so sometimes I feel the loss badly. But that's just part of getting older anyway.

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    The worst you can do is try and force it when you've both changed. My best mate since school has become a bit of a gospel nut in the last few years since shacking up with his aspiring middle class girlfriend (we're both very much blue collar types with blue collar hobbies).

    I've no problem with people who want to better themselves, hell, I'd never have thought I'd be where I am now 10 years ago but to deny where your from and look down at sports / hobbies we were both very much into because it doesn't fit with your new found status is a bitter pill to swallow. Probably better to let it die than try to force it. People change. People grow apart. It's life, so remember the good times.
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    Thanks for the good times.

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    A friendship has to be a two way effort and if only one person is trying then it will never work.
    When you realised this say to yourself......


    Let them go. They are obviously not worthy of your friendship.
    I had this recently but I told them straight. They made excuses but and I said ok but after that they still made no effort so sometimes we just get tired of trying.
    Some people hold different values to a friendship and if they are not the same as yours then........
    Time to move on boyo.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jamieboyo View Post
    So you realise you are not as close as you once were!
    Something has changed, but you can't put your finger on it!

    Is it you? Is it them?
    For whatever reason, it feels like the friendship has run its course! (They are not the person you thought they were, or you are not the person that they thought you were!!)....
    What do you do?
    How do you cope with the loss of a friend?

    And yes, I'm talking about someone who you have known for years!


    J
    people do drift apart
    go boil your head

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