Discuss: can a good tune be played on old fiddle

[oldfool]

Age is a course but can quantity be replaced by quality?

[Curvaceous Kate]

You get better at a lot of things the older you get I think, sex especially! At least you know what you want & how to please other people. Just ask like!

Oddly that doesn't necessarily follow with sex. For example. I didn't have an orgasm until I was 31, which for some would be classed as old (especially the guys looking for an 18 year old). Many people (whatever their gender) go through life without gaining the experience to know how their body works, let alone those of others. Some may think they have it, when the reality is they had it for one person, but it may not work for the next.

I have met 19 year olds with the skills of a well accomplished lover and 60 year olds that have no idea how to kiss let alone anything else. For once I can honestly say that age has no bearing on how good you are sexually and that it is more to do with two things.

Are you using all your senses? As in listening, seeing, touch etc, etc, to respond to the response.
Have you varied experience, where you have learnt different strokes for different folks?

This coupled with understanding your own body is all you need and most importantly. Stay within your own boundaries, because the minute it stops being fun, is the minute you will stop caring and draw away from the experience.

In some ways you need to experience good and bad to be able to appreciate what works.

For me having had 'quantity' I have learned so much about myself and what makes me tick and how slight changes can make a huge difference and reaction that can blow your mind. What works for one person may not work for another. Take your time to discover, nurture and enjoy each other.

[nitram]

If one starts off being a thick and uncaring person then age does not improve that, however, if one is open to listening, learning and experiencing new things then one grows positively with age.
A fiddle is a great analogy here as in the right hands it can sound beautiful but in the wrong hands it is to say the least painful listening.

[gillyland]

No. they had their day, the tune is anything but sweet

[MidlifeCrisis]

A skilled player can bring new life to the oldest fiddle.

[Curvaceous Kate]

You know in a lot of ways this make me feel very sad. I think in this modern world with all the technologies & conveniences without body to body reality it means very little. I was in a very low place a while ago. And after some great foreplay. I cut the appointment short. And just asked for a cuddle & a hug. Mad right? Insane even? Lonely probably. But you know what it was the most intimate feeling in the world all naked just holding someone. Yes I know I'm a sap.

Ha you finally understand where I'm coming from with the cuddles! It's not always about being lonely, but the very act of cuddling up to someone just makes me happy. It also makes me feel closer to the person I'm with and like them more (which is strange I guess), but it's true. It's like a connection thing. It's good to connect with people.

It is also sad that people don't get to experience the delights the body has to offer. Kissing is amazing and sadly when you get to mid life and have no idea how to express the passion in that way it's not very likely that you will learn, because you have got into the habit of pecking and not letting the lips relax.

Having said all that, I do my best to put that right where I can Sometimes with excellent results

[LuckyLu]

I second all that.
It feels good to connect with people.
Sometimes I am thinking that too much emphasis in put on the sex and the sex act alone.
it is overrated and mis-sold by media and the so called world of celebrities.
what counts for me is connection between 2 people.
there is nothing more comforting than a hug or stroking from a person who gets you and whose attention you want.