Cancelling an appointment at the last minute

[Rocker123]

Hi everyone,

Longtime user, first-time poster. I was in an awkward situation this evening and I want to post about it because I think it’s important.

I made an appointment to meet a girl tonight at eight. I won’t name the girl, the name doesn’t matter. I rang her an hour ahead of time, made the appointment and she texted on the address. Great.

I went to the address for eight and rang again. She answered, and said she’d text on the house number. And then I got concerned.

I texted her a shit cancellation excuse and got an angry text back, which is fine. The excuse was shit. I’d be angry too. The real reason I cancelled is because I was worried that the girl I’d meet wouldn’t be the girl I’d been talking to on the phone.

That happened me once before and I hated it. I had no idea if the girl wanted to be there or not, and that isn’t right.

So I backed out. If you’re the girl in question and I’ve misjudged your situation, I’m very sorry. This is my real reason. I know it’s a pain for girls when people make hoax appointments, or don’t show up, or mess around like that. But if the situation repeated I’d do what I did again, rather than go through with an experience that I had doubts about. I’m interested in other people’s thoughts on this.

Ok The positives.... you have posted an honest thread and you come across as genuine. You admit your excuse was shit. You said sorry on here and you seem to understand that what you did is a pain etc.

Your genuine reason for cancelling is baffling to be honest. We all face the situation where the girl we meet isn't the one we spoke to on the phone but if she is the girl in the profile then where is the problem? If when you meet her you continue to have concerns then you walk. simple.

You say: if the situation repeated I’d do what I did again. What situation? Unless you forgot to tell us something, you are telling us you had a confirmed booking and for no real reason, with no evidence just a hunch based on .. nothing, you cancelled at the last minute.

I think this thread indicates that you feel you may be in the wrong here and I think you are. My suggestion, is to call the girl and apologise to her, tell her the truth (provided she hasn't hung up on you which she might do.) rearrange the appointment and TURN UP. Bring a gift .. a peace offering if you like. However, my bet is she won't even answer the phone to you unfortunately.

Credit to you for posting this thread. Hopefully the opinions and advice offered here will help you to not make the same error again.

[Cornelia]

Hi everyone,

Longtime user, first-time poster. I was in an awkward situation this evening and I want to post about it because I think it’s important.

I made an appointment to meet a girl tonight at eight. I won’t name the girl, the name doesn’t matter. I rang her an hour ahead of time, made the appointment and she texted on the address. Great.

I went to the address for eight and rang again. She answered, and said she’d text on the house number. And then I got concerned.

I texted her a shit cancellation excuse and got an angry text back, which is fine. The excuse was shit. I’d be angry too. The real reason I cancelled is because I was worried that the girl I’d meet wouldn’t be the girl I’d been talking to on the phone.

That happened me once before and I hated it. I had no idea if the girl wanted to be there or not, and that isn’t right.

So I backed out. If you’re the girl in question and I’ve misjudged your situation, I’m very sorry. This is my real reason. I know it’s a pain for girls when people make hoax appointments, or don’t show up, or mess around like that. But if the situation repeated I’d do what I did again, rather than go through with an experience that I had doubts about. I’m interested in other people’s thoughts on this.

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[TonyB]

Hi everyone,

Longtime user, first-time poster. I was in an awkward situation this evening and I want to post about it because I think it’s important.

I made an appointment to meet a girl tonight at eight. I won’t name the girl, the name doesn’t matter. I rang her an hour ahead of time, made the appointment and she texted on the address. Great.

I went to the address for eight and rang again. She answered, and said she’d text on the house number. And then I got concerned.

I texted her a shit cancellation excuse and got an angry text back, which is fine. The excuse was shit. I’d be angry too. The real reason I cancelled is because I was worried that the girl I’d meet wouldn’t be the girl I’d been talking to on the phone.

That happened me once before and I hated it. I had no idea if the girl wanted to be there or not, and that isn’t right.

So I backed out. If you’re the girl in question and I’ve misjudged your situation, I’m very sorry. This is my real reason. I know it’s a pain for girls when people make hoax appointments, or don’t show up, or mess around like that. But if the situation repeated I’d do what I did again, rather than go through with an experience that I had doubts about. I’m interested in other people’s thoughts on this.

In my opinion you owe that woman her 30 minute fee.

[Best Before]

Hi everyone,

Longtime user, first-time poster. I was in an awkward situation this evening and I want to post about it because I think it’s important.

I made an appointment to meet a girl tonight at eight. I won’t name the girl, the name doesn’t matter. I rang her an hour ahead of time, made the appointment and she texted on the address. Great.

I went to the address for eight and rang again. She answered, and said she’d text on the house number. And then I got concerned.

I texted her a shit cancellation excuse and got an angry text back, which is fine. The excuse was shit. I’d be angry too. The real reason I cancelled is because I was worried that the girl I’d meet wouldn’t be the girl I’d been talking to on the phone.

That happened me once before and I hated it. I had no idea if the girl wanted to be there or not, and that isn’t right.

So I backed out. If you’re the girl in question and I’ve misjudged your situation, I’m very sorry. This is my real reason. I know it’s a pain for girls when people make hoax appointments, or don’t show up, or mess around like that. But if the situation repeated I’d do what I did again, rather than go through with an experience that I had doubts about. I’m interested in other people’s thoughts on this.

You're not going to like what I have to say.

It's guys like you, are the reason Escorts double book. A complete time-waster.

Ok The positives.... you have posted an honest thread and you come across as genuine. You admit your excuse was shit. You said sorry on here and you seem to understand that what you did is a pain etc.

Your genuine reason for cancelling is baffling to be honest. We all face the situation where the girl we meet isn't the one we spoke to on the phone but if she is the girl in the profile then where is the problem? If when you meet her you continue to have concerns then you walk. simple.

You say: if the situation repeated I’d do what I did again. What situation? Unless you forgot to tell us something, you are telling us you had a confirmed booking and for no real reason, with no evidence just a hunch based on .. nothing, you cancelled at the last minute.

I think this thread indicates that you feel you may be in the wrong here and I think you are. My suggestion, is to call the girl and apologise to her, tell her the truth (provided she hasn't hung up on you which she might do.) rearrange the appointment and TURN UP. Bring a gift .. a peace offering if you like. However, my bet is she won't even answer the phone to you unfortunately.

Credit to you for posting this thread. Hopefully the opinions and advice offered here will help you to not make the same error again.

He basically shat himself

[philipkntz]

He basically shat himself

My sympathy to the escort but it does happen. In my early days I do remember showing up at the door and developing a sudden urge to use the toilet, not a great start to an intimate date. Even nowadays, I'm likely to make a pitstop in a facility near the location.
I do think that the fact that it was a short notice appointment, rather than the escort keeping that slot available to you for a day or more, does mitigate the situation slightly, but if you were given final directions, you still should have called to the door as long as the location didn't ring any alarm bells, you can still cancel at that stage, or opt for a massage or even a cuppa, after all you are only booking time and companionship. If things don't feel right at any stage there's no obligation on either side to continue the appointment.

[TonyB]

My sympathy to the escort but it does happen. In my early days I do remember showing up at the door and developing a sudden urge to use the toilet, not a great start to an intimate date. Even nowadays, I'm likely to make a pitstop in a facility near the location.
I do think that the fact that it was a short notice appointment, rather than the escort keeping that slot available to you for a day or more, does mitigate the situation slightly, but if you were given final directions, you still should have called to the door as long as the location didn't ring any alarm bells, you can still cancel at that stage, or opt for a massage or even a cuppa, after all you are only booking time and companionship. If things don't feel right at any stage there's no obligation on either side to continue the appointment.

How can a location ring alarm bells?
Unless the Gardai are beating down the door of her apartment, you are there to see her, not where she lives.

[MidlifeCrisis]

This whole thing is a bit baffling. You don't explain why you cancelled, except "I got concerned". Was there some reason to believe it was not the girl you expected?

Unless there was a concrete reason to think something was wrong, this is pretty bad. You may have lost her money from declining other bookings, but you have certainly annoyed and disappointed her. She will have spent some time preparing for the visit, and who knows what appointments she declined, or what good use she could have made of the time if you had cancelled earlier. As Kate said, you should definitely apologise and explain yourself, so that she will be less worried about who now has her location.

Escorts who double book use people like you as an excuse. The more that clients do this, the more escorts will let us down - a vicious circle.

[philipkntz]

How can a location ring alarm bells?
Unless the Gardai are beating down the door of her apartment, you are there to see her, not where she lives.

Well for me there's areas of some towns that I don't punt in, theres even areas that i wouldnt even park my car in. There's also a lot of hotels that I'm well known in.

[SteveB]

Something I do, which I have never had a problem with, is when I ring an escort I always ask where she is.
Most often I am told the name of a hotel or a street, sometimes an exact address. Only once has an escort not given me an answer right away, and in that case she did give me an address when I made a firm booking.
Dong this not only avoids going to a place you are not happy with, but also it means if you do not understand the where the address is you are not standing in public somewhere holding a converstation that can be overhead.

[alcatel]

I. never ask for an exact location, just a general location to be at, at the appointed time, too much emphasis on the exact location may put the person off, but I usually have an idea of where I am going anyway.
If a hotel, you will usually be told its name alright.