Thirty Something Virgin - Honest Advice Sought

[MidlifeCrisis]

Hi all.
Having browsed this site for a while, I am posting for the first time- I don't intend using the forum much, but am looking for some genuine advice/ perspectives here, from both escorts and punters. I am a virgin in my early to mid thirties. Now, while I have a very liberal attitude towards sex myself, until very recently, hiring an escort is something I would never have considered. Now however, as the years begn to creep up on me, it's something that I have been contemplating a bit more. Although very confident and outgoing in other aspects of my life, I have always been shy around women I'm attracted to and while platonic relationships with women has never been something I've had a problem with, approaching women with a view to anything more has always been difficult for me. I took an 'it will come in its own good time' approach before, but with now being closer to 40 than 25 and nothing else seeming to work, hiring an escort has crossed my mind and female friends have even suggested it to me. I struggled with it for a long time as I didn't want my first time to be a 'financial transaction' but am more open to the idea now. I just have a few worries though and this is why I posted this thread- for genuine advice.

Would I be wasting my time? Do escorts even bother with clients who are virgins? I'd just be afraid of freaking out at the last minute or being unable to perform with nerves. Is this typically a no go area for escorts or does it vary? While I've made some initial queries, I haven't totally made up my mind whether I want to go down this road. I have a good job, a good social network a high level of education, a kind, caring personality, this is just a major obstacle for me and an itch I'm looking to scratch as soon as I can. The internet dating world is something I have tried but has generally, been a disaster, so not sure what other avenues to go down. The 40 year old virgin was a good film and all, but the prospect of being that character in real life doesn't thrill me. Not sure if this topic has been covered here before, or how it will go down here, but as you can imagine this is something I'm quite sensitive about , so I would appreciate genuine feedback only please. As I say I'm looking for both punter and escort perspectives and am genunely interested in getting other perspectives. Thanks in advance.

From what you say, having a bit of experience with escorts could be just what you need to give you confidence when a relationship gets to that stage.

There is not really a down side, unless you are the type to feel guilty about it, or feel the need to "confess" it to future girlfriends. You will have a lot of fun, and as others have said, if you choose carefully you will have no problem finding someone who will be happy to complete your education.

[Mr Cuddles]

Yes, go for it. It will change you for the better, you will be more relaxed and (quietly) confident.

Be aware that the older you are, the more difficult your first time will be - so don't put yourself under pressure, relax, it may take several visits before everything goes right. It's important to pick the right lady who will make you feel ok about any mishaps and build your confidence. Don't fall in love with her

2 ladys spring to mind who are resident in your area , Mature Abby who I have met and recommend, and BB Bombshell who is very well spoken of.

[TidalGuy]

I wasn't a first timer before I started meeting escorts, but I wasn't particularly experienced either, and I had gone without for a very long time. I would say that your experience- a life that works in other ways, but simply lacks sex and sexual relationships- is exactly what seeing escorts can help with. The issues of nerves and performance are par for the course and nothing to be concerned about, but you will need an escort with good communication skills and a sense of professionalism and care.

You should probably make a booking of about one hour, which should be long enough for a relaxed session, but not long enough to get awkward. Do let the escort know she's your first, when making your booking or at least at the start of the session, so she can provide all the guidance required- and there will be a lot of guidance. Don't feel you have to do anything you are uncomfortable with; it's your leisure time. Equally, remember that the escort isn't obliged to do anything in particular either.

Afterwards, reflect on what you experienced. You'll know more about what you want at that point. You're free to never go again, or to call again on the same escort, or to find another. You'll also know more about how your own body works, and can adjust your expectations accordingly.

I recommend it. Best of luck, whatever you choose to do.

[robbie9]

i like the word "hiring"!

i HIRED A hot choclate today & i also hired an aero bar.

[alcatel]

i like the word "hiring"!

i HIRED A hot choclate today & i also hired an aero bar.

Good luck to the next person with that Aero bar.

[JessycaWild]

Hi all.
Having browsed this site for a while, I am posting for the first time- I don't intend using the forum much, but am looking for some genuine advice/ perspectives here, from both escorts and punters. I am a virgin in my early to mid thirties. Now, while I have a very liberal attitude towards sex myself, until very recently, hiring an escort is something I would never have considered. Now however, as the years begn to creep up on me, it's something that I have been contemplating a bit more. Although very confident and outgoing in other aspects of my life, I have always been shy around women I'm attracted to and while platonic relationships with women has never been something I've had a problem with, approaching women with a view to anything more has always been difficult for me. I took an 'it will come in its own good time' approach before, but with now being closer to 40 than 25 and nothing else seeming to work, hiring an escort has crossed my mind and female friends have even suggested it to me. I struggled with it for a long time as I didn't want my first time to be a 'financial transaction' but am more open to the idea now. I just have a few worries though and this is why I posted this thread- for genuine advice.

Would I be wasting my time? Do escorts even bother with clients who are virgins? I'd just be afraid of freaking out at the last minute or being unable to perform with nerves. Is this typically a no go area for escorts or does it vary? While I've made some initial queries, I haven't totally made up my mind whether I want to go down this road. I have a good job, a good social network a high level of education, a kind, caring personality, this is just a major obstacle for me and an itch I'm looking to scratch as soon as I can. The internet dating world is something I have tried but has generally, been a disaster, so not sure what other avenues to go down. The 40 year old virgin was a good film and all, but the prospect of being that character in real life doesn't thrill me. Not sure if this topic has been covered here before, or how it will go down here, but as you can imagine this is something I'm quite sensitive about , so I would appreciate genuine feedback only please. As I say I'm looking for both punter and escort perspectives and am genunely interested in getting other perspectives. Thanks in advance.

Hello babe
I meet before few first timers,, ,and everything was just fine..
U have to find a lady.. with good english,very friendly.. and sociable to can have a little chat before..to get comfy.. after that she will guide u easy and will go gentle to the bussines
KIss

[JessycaWild]

My first time was with an escort too,and while the session itself wasn't great (I chose very poorly),getting that monkey off my back did wonders.As others have said,do your research,find someone who fits what you want,and just relax.You will be glad you did it afterwards

i am so sorry to hear that babe

[The D Man]

Hi all.
Having browsed this site for a while, I am posting for the first time- I don't intend using the forum much, but am looking for some genuine advice/ perspectives here, from both escorts and punters. I am a virgin in my early to mid thirties. Now, while I have a very liberal attitude towards sex myself, until very recently, hiring an escort is something I would never have considered. Now however, as the years begn to creep up on me, it's something that I have been contemplating a bit more. Although very confident and outgoing in other aspects of my life, I have always been shy around women I'm attracted to and while platonic relationships with women has never been something I've had a problem with, approaching women with a view to anything more has always been difficult for me. I took an 'it will come in its own good time' approach before, but with now being closer to 40 than 25 and nothing else seeming to work, hiring an escort has crossed my mind and female friends have even suggested it to me. I struggled with it for a long time as I didn't want my first time to be a 'financial transaction' but am more open to the idea now. I just have a few worries though and this is why I posted this thread- for genuine advice.

Would I be wasting my time? Do escorts even bother with clients who are virgins? I'd just be afraid of freaking out at the last minute or being unable to perform with nerves. Is this typically a no go area for escorts or does it vary? While I've made some initial queries, I haven't totally made up my mind whether I want to go down this road. I have a good job, a good social network a high level of education, a kind, caring personality, this is just a major obstacle for me and an itch I'm looking to scratch as soon as I can. The internet dating world is something I have tried but has generally, been a disaster, so not sure what other avenues to go down. The 40 year old virgin was a good film and all, but the prospect of being that character in real life doesn't thrill me. Not sure if this topic has been covered here before, or how it will go down here, but as you can imagine this is something I'm quite sensitive about , so I would appreciate genuine feedback only please. As I say I'm looking for both punter and escort perspectives and am genunely interested in getting other perspectives. Thanks in advance.

Yes meeting ladies from here may give you confidence with ladies that you may meet elsewhere. However it may be a while before that confidence emerges. In that situation I would recommend meeting a number of ladies as this will help with experience of talking to ladies that you may find attractive. ( Don't fall for any of the ladies here it is a bad idea ). You are in a situation where you have to talk or else there is an awkward silence and that is not good for an appointment.

Of course some of the ladies here are interested in virgins. Do your research in terms of choosing a lady with a number of good reviews. The ladies that contribute here to the forum are good. When you have chosen tell her you are a virgin and you will have a great time.

[HornyCorkonian83]

Thanks all.