Girlfriends and escorts

[LiamIrish]

I have a girlfriend been with her for over a year and we haven't had sex yet (she says she's not ready) I really like her and don't want to leave her because of sex but how bad of me would it be to get sex from an escort instead

[Mister Anderson]

I have a girlfriend been with her for over a year and we haven't had sex yet (she says she's not ready) I really like her and don't want to leave her because of sex but how bad of me would it be to get sex from an escort instead

Is there a particular reason she's made you wait that long? Try asking her if it's okay for you to have sex with other people, that's the quickest way to get to the root of the problem.

[LazarusRisen]

I have a girlfriend been with her for over a year and we haven't had sex yet (she says she's not ready) I really like her and don't want to leave her because of sex but how bad of me would it be to get sex from an escort instead

Is that a serious question? If so, I'd say only you have the answer. If you'd be comfortable with visiting an escort whilst maintaining your relationship with your girlfriend, then why not? If you think you'd be wracked with guilt afterwards, then maybe don't visit the escort. If you think a year is a long time, btw, try being married . Seriously, though, a year does seem a long time - particularly for a couple who are freshly together (and can I assume you're both young?). Have you asked her why she's not ready? And I don't mean that in a bitchy way, maybe it's for religious reasons or maybe she's just apprehensive. Talk to her - you've really nothing to lose - and be ready to listen. Things are better out in the open. Maybe don't mention the escort question to her, though ..

[LiamIrish]

We've talked about it she just seems scared of get pregnant and doesn't know when she'll be really

[ladiesman217]

We've talked about it she just seems scared of get pregnant and doesn't know when she'll be really

She has heard of contraception right...?

I'm not just talking about condoms, but there are other contraceptives you can use along with condoms to completely minimise the chance of getting pregnant.

Then of course there are medical procedures that can be done, but that's a very long term permanent solution, but that's not very appropriate here since you've only been going out a year.

[LiamIrish]

She has heard of contraception right...?

I'm not just talking about condoms, but there are other contraceptives you can use along with condoms to completely minimise the chance of getting pregnant.

Then of course there are medical procedures that can be done, but that's a very long term permanent solution, but that's not very appropriate here since you've only been going out a year.

Yeah she knows all that but still she's worried

[Rocker123]

I dont want to sound harsh but you have an escort review up for May 2015 which is ten months ago. So if you have been with this girlfriend for over a year then you visited an escort while in this relationship.

This makes your opening question asking how bad of you to, as you put it, get sex from an escort, pointless. You have already visited an escort while seeing this girl, according to your review.

[ladiesman217]

Yeah she knows all that but still she's worried

There's paranoid and then there's PARANOID. Jesus... Condom and pill is a pretty easy double combo, and the chances are lessened even still if you don't cum while inside her (condoms are what, 97% effective?).

[LazarusRisen]

We've talked about it she just seems scared of get pregnant and doesn't know when she'll be really

Firstly, congratulations to her for thinking enough about her future to be wary of getting pregnant at (again, an assumption) a young age. Secondly, she may feel more ready in the future when she knows you better and trusts you not to emigrate to Egypt if she were to fall pregnant. Thirdly, contraception (as has been mentioned above) is extremely effective these days. There are many more methods of contraception than just using condoms, but that's a good place to start. Maybe suggest combining two or more methods to increase efficacy? Finally, even if she's reluctant to enjoy penetrative sex at this stage, there are loads of things you can do together which are just a loving and mutually satisfying

[LazarusRisen]

I dont want to sound harsh but you have an escort review up for May 2015 which is ten months ago. So if you have been with this girlfriend for over a year then you visited an escort while in this relationship.

This makes your opening question asking how bad of you to, as you put it, get sex from an escort, pointless. You have already visited an escort while seeing this girl, according to your review.

Well spotted, sir.

The lad may as well go for it again in that case