Knowing who your friends are

[Vitruvian]

Way I see it, A true friend will not impose, never question but will always be there.... just waiting!!




For you to ask.... :-)

[tom rambo]

I would like to say Thanks to the friends I made here the helped me and I did the same for them,in all walks off life you will find a friend you can call when you need to talk,

[Amy Alison]

Everyone can be guilty of being fair weather friends or just self consumed at times I guess.
I certainly wouldn't take it extremely personal ,as you always seem to be friendly /non confrontational on here.

I like to think I help others out when I can...and I regularly do...but on the flip side some people have said im selfish

I definitely notice that any time a friend has a problem they always look to me for advice,yet ive also noticed that on the rare occasion where I could have done with a bit more advice/help myself they don't appear to be very forthcoming....................In my case I realise its because they assume I am the rock of sense (believe that if you will!) and I think they actually don't believe they would be of help / think I would have no need

One main point being hit here nicely. Yeah, if people think you are strong, they don't react the same, so sometimes it could be a simple explanation like this.
For some reason, I am considered very strong. I handle myself like a 2 year old, I can barely take care of myself however I am not sure how I give this impression of being so tough and self composed, it's funny

Very much so - but people dont want to interfere when one has troubles- either they dont need the agravation or dont want to impose on one..

Yup, another good point. People not being very good with emotions, staying away as they fear they may cause more harm.

I have found that people - or 'friends' - are more than willing to accept help and sympathy when in need, but are nowhere to be found when the table's turned. I wouldn't even bother asking for help anymore. A true friend is very hard to find. And in a situation where your reputation has been tarnished friends will turn on you very quickly.

Sorry to hear that, obviously negative experiences you might have encountered If it's any consolations, those people were never really friends in the true sense of the word.

Real friends will be there, they may not be many y'all may never even speak of what ails you but they're there. A lack of vultures ain't no things they say, it was my experience that when things got tough folks gathered round for miles to witness -all to feel better off themselves then titter in their private parlours.

I prefer to look at situations such as yours and the one's above as cleansing. The universe taking you temporarily out of the game so you can learn what counts, who's needed, and what and whom are better let slide to the side. Both personally and professionally.

These situations are nothing more than a 20 minute break for a gal as the universe/God/Etc resets the stage that is our life allowing new (and better) characters to enter. Brand and grand plots ensue.

I like this and I am quite inclined to think similarly. To cleanse, to have time to think or simply to stop myself going anymore on a path that's not mine ??
Who knows, maybe all happy and relaxed I would not have taken my college seriously like I am now. Or maybe I don't know, someone outthere decided I should stop escorting Early days for conclusions but all patches together eventually.

Could not of put it better, thankfully when the things go tits up, I'm so lucky my friends and family are there for me. And always are honest with their advice and friendships.
There is always people who get satisfaction of someone else's misfortune or will try to point the finger to hide their own discrepancy.

All the best
Lady Von Teese

Positive experiences obviously, I am happy to hear that too. Can't relate to this positivity but gosh, it must feel rather nice to have true support when need it.

Sorry to hear that Amy. You've always seemed like a very genuine and considerate person from the posts I've read. Unfortunately it's too often the nice people that receive that kind of treatment.


As far as the escort client thing goes I've noticed that personally I get very fidgety after a few visits to the same lady and then it's time to move on. I'm a naturally suspicious type and not naturally comfortable.


In my civvy life I'm the same. I've a small group of friends but they are all dependable and I like to think they know they can count on me when needed. It took me a while to get to that stage, I was left high and dry often enough when I was younger.


None of that really helps but there ya go.

It does help, as I am wearing my thinking cap at the moment

Of course, some peple stop visiting after a while, some may come back in the future, some not. But I am talking about regulars that used to visit like clock work. One of them comes to mind the most, I was awaiting a client to ring my intercom. In the meantime, this regular rang. I should not have answered because obviously I didn't have time to speak but I said I should be polite. So just said to him quickly that I had a bad fall, knee surgery and if he wants to talk he should ring me later as I am expecting someone right than. The intercom rang right after I finish those words. I could hear him saying "but how do you do massages than", I said politely "talk later client here" and hang up. Last I heard of him It's not the business part from him that I miss but this is a guy who got me nice new techie things so I really thought he'll be curious to see how I am.

But the gold idea here is "nice people receive such treatment". I think most people do, it's just the nice ones are more vulnerable to see it.

Don't believe there are any friends here .
I have good friends in my real life and they are the best buds any one could have and believe me that's not bulshite .
They know I punt and are happy I'm doing it because they don't judge me.
We can talk about anything. Sex with their wives the whole story.
That's what real friends are for!!!
So if anyone here thinks they have friends here they are delusional ❤️❤️����
I'm pissed good night

Glad you have as well real support in your life. If that's the case, you don't really need the approval or consolation of forum friends
But keep in mind some of us are a lot lonelier. I have very few people I know that are not involved in this kind of life and they still accept me as I am. In my experience, most "civies" run a mile when hearing I am (was) an escort or just take advange of it.

[Amy Alison]

Way I see it, A true friend will not impose, never question but will always be there.... just waiting!!


For you to ask.... :-)

Therefore ... not many friends and the term friends is clearly exagerated

I would like to say Thanks to the friends I made here the helped me and I did the same for them,in all walks off life you will find a friend you can call when you need to talk,

I take that as also a positive experience in this regard.

[Amy Alison]

I feel i don't need to say a thing, you're my good friend and i love you.

I wish / want the best for you...

You're a most special friend, you know I am not talking about you in this negative thread

Thanks for the invite tonight, I so wish I was able to go out ... Soon I hope

Love you too babe xxxx

[Prickly]

Ah babe! xx

Take it on the chin I do. I'm sorry you business has been hurt but punter friends?

I never tell anybody my problems. I have a load of friends but my business is my business.

Maybe that's why I vent on here & other places because in the real word I'm a rock and nothing bothers me!

Anyway my best friend is dead.

He would have told me to get a grip kid and shut up, have another drink buddy.

The mental picture I have of you is that of Daryl from The Walking Dead.



And I'm sorry about your friend.

[Prickly]

Sorry but with a name like Prickly I think of this:

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Mysterious Diana told me I looked like a hedgehog, so what else could I call myself????
Lovely lady long gone now.

[The dirt bird]

Maybe that's just a case of me reaping what i had sown, as I admit, I am far from being a social butterfly type of person.

However, I can't stop thinking that in my time of troubles, most people are not anywhere to be seen around me. Very, very few exceptions.

So, before I start giving out here it's an oportunity of saying thank you to the few people that still stayed in touch, came and see how I am doing or sometimes even helped. Some of them may think it's not a big deal, but for me, going trough a tough time, working with an injured knee to be able to pay my bills but still going to college, even that lift offer to college or that big case of cat food helped a lot. Or booking in for a massage, also quite nice, since even some of my regulars avoided seeing me in that time, under the assumptions maybe I can't really do a proper massage with a bad knee

Don't get me wrong, I am not expecting anybody to treat me like I'm a charity case, but going to the total opposite directions and make it obvious I'm someone they avoid until (I assume) I'm all better does not show too much consideration at all. Even posting here, I feel mostly left alone and while this doesn't bother me, I am thinking what the heck have those people heard about me that they seem to take distance. My PMs lately, seem to be from people who either ask when I'm coming back to escorting, either have no clue I am not doing escorting at the moment. I had Part Time Student at some stage on my massage profile, I got so far 0 PMs from people I know and used to talk regularly asking me what kind of course I am doing.

I get it, I kept people at arm lenght and this is coming back to me. I can't even say that makes, me sad, in fact I enjoy having more time for myself. But still, the logic behind it's rather interesting and - excuse the long intro - brings me back to the point of this thread.

Have you ever felt that in times of need there are less people around you ? If so, what do you think it's the reason ? People avoiding seeing someone upset as they can't handle it ? Or do you think the reason is a lot more egotistic, like being afraid of being asked for a favour? Or maybe you are the exception to the rule and in times of trouble you got even more support from people you know ? I'd love to hear your experiences. Answers on a post card please :)

P.S.I'm a lot better at the moment, both financially and health wise. Can't wait to hear from my friens

I like you I think your a very nice woman.
I totally get your post as I had a similar thing 6 months ago.
If I had a euro for every big favour I did for friends I would never have to work again that's not including the small favours.
I have had problems like everybody I suppose but 6 months ago a problem occurred that people actually could have helped me with but did they ? Did they fuck !
The phone stopped ringing....... One friend even invented an argument and then tried to crawl back when I had things sorted.
I am a firm believer you can take something positive from anything if you wish.
When I am at a funeral and everybody is so sad (understandably) I see it as a celebration of life ! Is it not better to live and die than not to have lived at all.
I learned from my experience and changed my life a bit.
(this may make no sense to you Amy) but I started punting again because it's selfish and just for me and I like it. I take life a little easier and put me first most of the time I still help people out as it is just my nature but I am more picky who I help.
If you learn from your experience it's not a negative it's actually a positive life lesson.
Good luck

[Walshie]

Thankfully I have loads of good friends, friends that would do anything for you in my times of weirdness and want nothing in return

[The dirt bird]

Thankfully I have loads of good friends, friends that would do anything for you in my times of weirdness and want nothing in return

Your very lucky.