Visiting escorts as therapy

[ZVN60]

These days I like my current situation - the freedom of being single with having my urges satisfied in amazing ways (thanks to the amazing ladies I've seen here) with minimal effort on my part.

In a way I'm happy with this arrangement as well, but there's still a part of me that would like something a little more permanent, more exclusive. Maybe it's a legacy of idealising relationships on my part. But I'm not sure I'm cut out for one yet (if at all). But one step at a time and all that.

[Cassandra]

In a way I'm happy with this arrangement as well, but there's still a part of me that would like something a little more permanent, more exclusive. Maybe it's a legacy of idealising relationships on my part. But I'm not sure I'm cut out for one yet (if at all). But one step at a time and all that.

The more time you spend with women, the sooner you'll know what you like and what you need in one for "something abit more permanent.".

[Curvaceous Kate]

In a way I'm happy with this arrangement as well, but there's still a part of me that would like something a little more permanent, more exclusive. Maybe it's a legacy of idealising relationships on my part. But I'm not sure I'm cut out for one yet (if at all). But one step at a time and all that.

Cassandra is right. Dating is a mine field. First you need to know yourself, before you can have any idea of what kind of person would work with you and compliment you in life in every way. The sexual side, although important is only one thread of a relationship and what makes it work. You also need to have your personality in tune with each other and share the same kind of values.

When all those elements come together, then you have the foundations for something worth keeping and holding on to, but until then, you can happily explore the sexual side of your personality without fear of upsetting your partner.

[Genie in a Bottle]

It can be bad therapy too, You visit the escort and youre on a high until its over, then your on a bit of a downer until your next visit.

[Curvaceous Kate]

It can be bad therapy too, You visit the escort and youre on a high until its over, then your on a bit of a downer until your next visit.

Do you get a bit of an adrenalin kick from the experience? If so that might account for the down feeling afterwards.

[Sexy Sandy 69]

Anything that releases endorphins, makes you happy & content, these are your feel good factor. They are manufactured in several parts of your body including your brain. So when you experience pleasure they are released. So when you visit an escort & have fun, you should feel more positive & content, unless of course you've had an experience that wasn't entirely pleasurable.

Sandy x

[robbie9]

i agree with this statement , i have heard of some cases where it stopped suicide so credit to the escorts!!

[gingerfrank]

people usually find the right level with the woman htey committ to - handsome men often end up playing in a lower league (less so with women i think) - so hooking up with an attractive escort is not prep for long term relationships

[Genie in a Bottle]

Do you get a bit of an adrenalin kick from the experience? If so that might account for the down feeling afterwards.

not sure if it's an Adrenalin kick, its a kick none-the-less especially to the pocket

[Meursault]

It's certainly worked wonders for me. I have to keep telling myself I've triumphed over adversary.

It was to do with ridding myself of a block I had in my mind telling me that I was useless, impotent, not a real man. As I've stated elsewhere, love shyness (amongst other matters) pretty much crippled me when it came to approaching women. In certain ways, it ruined my life until fairly recently when I was able to turn things around.

It's strange seeing these "REAL MEN DON'T PAY FOR SEX" posters about town. I guarantee that, up until a year ago, they would have sent me into a downward spiral of self loathing that would have lasted throughout the day. I would have felt an accusatory finger pointing at me, with a voice saying "you don't even have the bottle to give it a go, how do you think they'd view you?"

Nowadays, I merely smile to myself.

no offense op but if you tie your self esteem to being wanted by anyone in life regardless of sex, you are not going to be happy in the long run. people are irrational and unpredictable. the best way to approach life is to be happy either way, as in be happy single and be happy in a relationship. depending on a relationship for your substance is playing with dice