Escorts have an negative effect on your relationship with your partner

[Stevenn]

You are right in theory. However, as Sandy says , what would your advice be to hubby in her Option A ? .

See option B in my original post :-)

Or failing that, option C.

[Stevenn]

I can say for sure that 99.9% of my clients are either married or in a relationship. Guys are more sexually driven than women, if they weren't visiting escorts, they would be having affairs. Affairs are more damaging to a relationship than visiting escorts now & again.

Sandy x

Quite certain their wives would see it differently.

[Sexy Sandy 69]

See option B in my original post :-)

Or failing that, option C.

See my replies to Option B & Option C.

Sandy x

[Stevenn]

See my replies to Option B & Option C.

Sandy x

That post was directed to boot boy.

But I already have, and don't consider what you put forward, as a reasonable justification for a man to lie to his wife or be unfaithful to her.

[bootboy]

See option B in my original post :-)

Or failing that, option C.

See my replies to Option B & Option C.

Sandy x

Jeez girls and boys, bit too early in the morning for research.

[bootboy]

Having a talk with partner and see what has to be done and if relationship has run its course talk about ending it etc

I think this is where you may be wrong. Most guys don't want to end the relationship if they don't get their way, when a bit on the side will look after the sex side of things.

[Stevenn]

Whats the point of being in a relationship if you have to have a bit on the side? That's not a relationship!
Its not about people getting their way its about talking things out and coming up with a reasonable solution where both will be happier creating a stronger and more committed relationship.

That's pretty much the crux of the issue right there. A problem in a relationship will never be solved just by creating another bigger problem.

[bootboy]

Whats the point of being in a relationship if you have to have a bit on the side? That's not a relationship!
Its not about people getting their way its about talking things out and coming up with a reasonable solution where both will be happier creating a stronger and more committed relationship.

I would respectfully disagree. Relationships, partnerships are not 100%er's. There is always a bit of shimey here, shimey there. People who think it should be all above board, rosey in the garden, madly in love become disappointed easily and run off, only very often to regret it later.

[Stevenn]

Whats another big problem?

What I mean is cheating on a partner won't make the original problem (ie:lack of sex) go away.

[TonyB]

I don't agree with anything Stevenn has said but he's entitled to his opinion and I'm sure his opinion is shared by many.

I believe sex and love can be exclusive.
A person can love another without sex, and can have great sex without love.

I'm capable of loving several people. I love my family. I've loved several women.
The love for one person doesn't necessarily diminish when one loves another.
It's not a finite commodity.

How many men go home in good humour and treat their wife's better after sex with an escort?

I'll accept it's not a perfect relationship. I'll accept people don't cheat of they are in a perfect relationship.
But perfection is hard to find, and some personalities like mine don't find monogamy comes easily.