Why most New Years Resolutions fail anmd how to solve it.
Mostly New Years Resolutions are done by means of giving up something.Giving up fags,junk etc.The problem with this appraoch,just saying "i will give up eating junk" is that it means to achieve your aim ,means focusing on what you dont want.
When you focus on what you donít want, you feel bad, because all bad feelings are caused by focusing on something you donít want. And, because your mind takes what you focus on as an instruction to create or attract more of it, youíll unconsciously attract or create more of what you think.
So what can a person do to avoid it?By beginning with the end in mind and working back.This is acheived by way of becoming more aware.By developing more self awareness.
This is dont by questioning oursleves.Most people know want they want to give up but never question why.Never ask "why do i want to give it up".So why?When that answer is given ,then focus on that.I always say that to say no means having a bigger yes.
The person who wants to give up fags to be healthier ,focus on that,being healthier.You'll attract what you focus on in this case health.The person wishing to loose weight to be in good shape or fit into last years jeans,focus on that.Focus on the reason why your giving up or changing for the New Year.Then you'll have a bigger yes.
Barring that your just a lazy geit,
I was just thinkin precisely the same thing!!!! Well ........almost..........
Thanks for the help, could use it to kick some of the bad habits I picked up here...
But I guess I have to want to first......
Thanks Dr West... Will try to follow your advice and keep my resolutions this year
Focus on the positives ?
So Westie has been doing the Open University in the Psycho Analytical Approach to shedding bad habits ? I'll send you on the book on using positive energies & words in your everyday life next.
It's not "I lost the race", never use the negative word. It's "I didn't win the race", use the positive word !
You're right of course Westie. I can remember living in America & having a manager who used these type of strategies to motivate people. He'd sit you down & find out what you wanted to do with the money / bonus & put a poster up beside your desk showing just that wish. I had a picture of Alaska, that's where I wanted to visit & do the whole wilderness thing. Some people had pictures of Ford Mustangs etc.
It's all about highlighting the rewards & not the pain.
Can I have a session with Dr Westie when next in Langerland ?
Yeah, I did the Alaska thing & it was the best trip of my life. I camped in the wilderness & saw bears in the wild, wolves & caribou. Summer time of course. Very Northern Exposure, if you ever saw that, brilliant !
I want to go back & see the northern lights some day.
Iceland is somewhere I'd love to see. But then again they are bankrupt at the moment.
I think lots of people get caught up in the whole feel good factor at Christmas & approaching the New Year when it comes to NY resolutions but we are creatures of habit & like me sometimes its so hard to kick habits like Visiting Escorts!
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we are creatures of habit
Originally Posted by experienced punter
Yep but that includes good ones too doesnt it.So why are so many of ppls habits the bad ones or apparent bad ones in their own minds?
sometimes its so hard to kick habits like Visiting Escorts!
Take this as an example.The thing is to ask yourself why do i visit escorts?Why can't i stop?
Simple your again focusing on what you dont want here.So your new year resolution to to stop escorts.You focus on doing that and ..........last no time because ?Your focusing on what you dont want.
No if i were to give you an example.Say you visit 50 escorts a tear at 250 a pop.LOL hahahahha a pop.ahhaha anyway get a that one a pop?Nope ah it will come,just focus on pop.Now where am i?Ah yeah 50 and at 250 a ..per escort.
So 50 x 250 BRB must find calculater
Now the pain of spending 12500 on escorts ,something that will be gone tommorow) as opposed to say three holidays a year or a new car etc.That wpould be a bigger yes to me.So im now no longer focusing on escorts,im focusing on three holidays or a new car or whatever.
This is what is meant by all the various terms such as The Law Of Attraction,You get what you wish for,you are what you think etc.This is where it comes from.
I am in touch with a few top ppl in health and fitness along with lifting and i do mean top.Occaissionally i throw something their way but mostly ,out of respect for their time ,i just read what they do or say or whatever.I see several common triats that pop up.Its not genetics,luck or hope.These ppl focus ruthlessly on what they want in life.They read,write ,do etc and if their is something else it cam wait until the impoattant bits get done.Now they are family ppl and full time jobs too but they still focus ruthlessly.With the exception of their family everything else comes secons.Not only that but when something goes wrong they quickly ,almost straight away focus on the positive and again on what they want,fixing what ever is wrong.In fact if i were to give the one most common trait that all top ppl share is an ability to remain focused on what they want even in the midst of things falling apart.Amazingly (surprise surprise ) it always works out.It may not restore things 100% but it works out pretty good.
Ever wonder how ppl say "all the shit happens at the same time"?.Thats because they are thinking defeat by focusing on "things are all going wrong.".Like a talented person who has great ability but is hit by a prob that minimises that ability.Enrico Caruso (considered to be the best classical singer ever).actually spoke of this.He suffered from stage fright.Here was a guy who had the best voice in the world at the time early 1900's) and couldnt get it right until he stopped focusing and dwelling on what he didnt want ie stage fright.
This can happen at times.A person could be average and all of a suddne like over night become tops because of a change in focusing.Its what seperates all the winners in games as opposed to the losers.Mostly in life its not the winner has won but the loser has lost and the loss came with a drop in focus.
I works always.I have seen it woek too many time to call ot a fluke.You need need to honestly ask yourself why you are doing something and is it what ypou wnat.If it is (nothing wrong with this then great).If it isnt then you need to focus on the benefits and why you dont want it.Focus on that ,think about that ,dwell on that and talk about that.Then youll not only acheive your new year resoltions but new life resolutions.
As someone who has being on top and being on the bottom (no im not on about sex here refocus) click snap...........it am far happier and much more content and confident in life when i am doing what i really want to do.The nice thing about this is that it sort of spirals and grows.Probs are still there but because your doing and focusing on what you want,they disrupt your life minimally.
Just as well im not religous isnt it?
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