Lend n Escort Money

[Rachel Divine]

nice avatar Rachel
you are even more beautiful in black and white

I am beautiful. Period.

Back on topic, as I said, I am blessed to have very good girlfriends.

[wolfie]

I am beautiful. Period. ......

Absolutely

Happy New Year Rachel

[tom sand]

I am beautiful. Period.

Back on topic, as I said, I am blessed to have very good girlfriends.

yes Rachel
you are beautiful period



Happy new year Rachel
the best in 2015

[Buachaillbeag]

Never mix friendship with money. End of. Why loan to a person who realistically you know little of?

[Rachel Divine]

Absolutely

Happy New Year Rachel

yes Rachel
you are beautiful period



Happy new year Rachel
the best in 2015

Same to ye, boys

[sixfourblond]

This thread is starting to look like a confession box !!!

If you need to seriously ask the question I think you instinctively know what the answer is.

Don't try to buy what you can't afford

Says you from the pulpit!!!

[Curvaceous Kate]

If an escort (Independant, not trafficked) works 11 months a year, they will earn over 100k, and not pay a penny of tax.

If you fall for that one, you are touched.

This is what I find most frustrating so far. An Independent Escort will earn what she is needing to earn depending on her circumstances. Sometimes circumstances do not allow for the full earning potential, but that does not mean she is not Independent, after all, some of us are parents or carers just the same as the rest of society.

There is no fixed sum achievable within a year, there are also plenty of variables and costs involved, which mean that even the high earners will have to pay out a good portion of her takings per year.

I am not alone in paying taxes as in Independent Escort. Not due to being virtuous or thinking I'm better then anyone else, but because I want a financial blue print, so I can get a better mortgage or a good credit card with a decent APR on it. We're not all faceless people who can just disappear financially for several years, we are regular people with regular lives.

So... sure it may be a scam, it may be an honest plea for help, but as Sophiex said, you should never lend what you can't afford to lose and that goes for lending out to family, long known friends or someone you barely know but click with in the bedroom. You have a brain, you have a gut instinct so use it, but don't make assumptions based on a job, as no two people are the same.

[hunterhilman]

Some people are givers, some are takers and some are neither.

[Cable87]

I've heard a tale or two about things like this before, but WOW, sounds like it's a slightly more common occurrence than I thought.

I can fully understand that many of us do at least seem to develop some sort of 'connection' to the ladies we visit, particularly those for whom we may have become regulars. As friendly as the relationship can get, I think that folks should maintain a certain level of person caution when it comes to discussing and/or giving money, especially with someone whose REAL NAME you don't even know...


What's more, I think a lot of gents make themselves a 'Mark' for those few predatory ladies out there to attempt to take advantage of. By giving personal information, such as discussing your profession, personal circumstances/finances, car you drive, the way you dress, even the number of times you visit and the duration of your visits, let alone whatever you directly tell them about your disposable income-- all of these things give the rare predatory escort the distinct impressions they need to try and take advantage of your far-too-trusting nature and sensibilities.

My advice: Keep it 'casual' when discussing personal information, particularly relating to professional and financial issues. Unless you're broke like me, then you can tell them everything! There's no money to be had from me, other than the cost of the occasional punt!

[Curvaceous Kate]

I registered just to comment on this thread and have picked an appropriate name for myself

I've "lent" money to escorts many times, though in my own mind I never considered them to be loans because I never truthfully held any hopes of ever getting the money back. I did it out of good nature.

I've always considered myself to be quiet street smart and savvy. But one such "loan" I made - or long series of loans more like - ended up costing me dearly in ways that went far beyond the money. The lesson for me was not only to never again do anything like loaning money to an escort, but it went as far as never again visiting an escort. That was over 2 years ago and even though I used to visit escorts all the time for many years, I have not returned since being stung.

The advice I offer out of experience - take it or leave it - never EVER let things between punter and escort go beyond a business transaction, whether that involves money or anything else. I have paid a terrible price for doing so and it's something that will have to stay with me for the rest of my days.

Conversely, I have had clients offer me stupid amounts of money when they barely know me, because they think it will get them special favours and create a 'bond' between us that was never part of the deal between 'client' and 'Escort'. Now it just so happens that I would never take money off someone I did not know well or feel I knew well enough for their motive, as to me someone offering me money (even on a loan basis) is wanting something from me and I don't want to be tied to, as it may interfere with my work or life generally.

I'm not saying that you were offering money rather than being asked, but many do and you can't blame someone who may be stuck in a job they don't like for wanting to take a way out and not caring too much about the person offering the money if they barely know them.

I have only ever accepted a loan off one person during my entire life and they got paid back in regular installments until I finally paid them back in full, even though each month they told me I was fine to pay when I had the money and not to worry. I would not loan money if I knew I was not able to pay it back, as my pride and integrity would not allow it. I have always supported myself and those I am responsible for, that is one of the reasons why I became a Sex Worker in the first place.

I personally would not be comfortable with an acquaintance asking me for money and would not expect someone I did not know outside of work to lend me money either. Surely that is indication enough for most people?