I've been pondering the idea of visiting a lovely lady for a long time now.
I'm 28. The problem is most of my sexual experience has been online (i.e porn) I've had a few experiences where I've nearly had sex. infact more than quite a few, but physically and psychologically I think I've messed myself up. I can pull an attractive lady then due to sheer nerves of my inexperience/unrealistic idea of what sex is/lack of experience I end up making some lame excuse and back out. I've had quite some sexual experience but never straight sex.
I'm at this really soul destroying part now where i'll meet an amazing girl, but not have the courage to follow up or do anything about it. My sexual confidence is at an all time low. I'm in great shape and play in a sports team so on the outside girls seem to think I'd be great in bed or whatever. especially at my age, this is where it all just piles up and plays on my mind and I completely shoot myself in the balls so to speak. Erections are not a problem, however, one time I did get a girl into bed (I was very drunk too which didn't help matters) but whiskey dick plus the crazy nerves = nothing happened and I missed that opportunity..... of course after that I never got any text backs from her. (not to mention my confidence plummeted to rock bottom.
I'm wondering what type of escourt I should visit? Would she understand me? Could I just tell her I was a virgin to explain my stupid nerves surrounding this?
I just want to build up confidence and skill at love making. Would seriously fix me right now. I would love to meet a nice girl after it all and not feel the pressure build up to what I must do while having no experience. Thanks everyone. I live in belfast but travel a lot for work so willing to travel around that area, Derry and antrim/portrush.