What really is the point of the review system?

[Kendra]

I agree with most of that but in the case and lady I'm talking about, we never actually met. I got to where she told me to go to, I rang she told me to go somewhere I couldn't find. Lot of people about so thought better to text to find exactly where to go to. No response so after 20 mins, I text her to say I was cancelling and by this time it was too late for me to arrange another option.

This is where the N/A is needed, as you can't give a negative to someone you never met as that gives the impression that the lady is bad, when she could be a nice person, just a bit ignorant when it comes to directions or answering calls/texts.

This may be difficult for you to understand but from an escorts point of view and a woman in a vulnerable position, I am anything but a timewaster but I HAVE cancelled bookings at the very last minute because something the client has done has suddenly made me wary. If a client insisted on texting me for directions to my door then I wouldn't meet with him either because I will NOT put in writing directions to my front door to a complete stranger, no way. I wouldn't do it if it were a hotel room so I certainly wouldn't do it when it's my home address, no way.

So I think the chances are, this was the problem.

[TonyStark]

If she gave you directions and you couldn't find the place its hardly her fault, you have to take some of the blame. In my opinion that doesn't deserve a N/A in the first place

I was on the road, there where two gates to the hospital, none of which where the gate she said so yeah I guess it is my fault as I could hardly get Donegal and Lisburn confused now could I?

Yeah I guess it's my fault I thought discretion better than letting a bunch of strangers waling about now my business.

Buy if you prefer to crawl rather than actually debate the issue then fire away, I won't bite

[Kendra]

I agree with most of that but in the case and lady I'm talking about, we never actually met. I got to where she told me to go to, I rang she told me to go somewhere I couldn't find. Lot of people about so thought better to text to find exactly where to go to. No response so after 20 mins, I text her to say I was cancelling and by this time it was too late for me to arrange another option.

This is where the N/A is needed, as you can't give a negative to someone you never met as that gives the impression that the lady is bad, when she could be a nice person, just a bit ignorant when it comes to directions or answering calls/texts.

Also maybe she got frustrated that you couldn't find her landmark. I always send a text with the postcode and landmark that is a couple of seconds away from my apartment but I don't give the actual address. My directions are good and 99% of people have no issues but there is always 1 guy who can't take verbal directions or written directions which does start to get on your nerves.

As I said before, I would never text anyone specific directions that would bring them straight to my door so I think she just got fed up.

Mind we're only human, nobody's perfect.

Maybe she is actually a timewaster and completely unreliable, we'll never know without knowing the girl but going on what you've told us, I think it's definitely the text thing and you not being able to find her landmark.

[NoBrain2]

I was on the road, there where two gates to the hospital, none of which where the gate she said so yeah I guess it is my fault as I could hardly get Donegal and Lisburn confused now could I?

Yeah I guess it's my fault I thought discretion better than letting a bunch of strangers waling about now my business.

Buy if you prefer to crawl rather than actually debate the issue then fire away, I won't bite

I guess there are two sides to every story, she probably has you put down as a time waster

[TonyStark]

This may be difficult for you to understand but from an escorts point of view and a woman in a vulnerable position, I am anything but a timewaster but I HAVE cancelled bookings at the very last minute because something the client has done has suddenly made me wary. If a client insisted on texting me for directions to my door then I wouldn't meet with him either because I will NOT put in writing directions to my front door to a complete stranger, no way. I wouldn't do it if it were a hotel room so I certainly wouldn't do it when it's my home address, no way.

So I think the chances are, this was the problem.

This isn't about you now is it?

We'd already spoke a few times on the phone so it's not like it was done completely by text and I turned up at the right time and still had to wait 30 mins for her to get ready.

If she was that concerned she could've said no on the initial phone call.

But we're getting side tracked about the issue I'm talking about.

Maybe there should be a disclaimer or a reason stated for opting out of reviews or maybe a warning put in place if a lady has opted out after bad reviews?

[Kendra]

This isn't about you now is it?

We'd already spoke a few times on the phone so it's not like it was done completely by text and I turned up at the right time and still had to wait 30 mins for her to get ready.

If she was that concerned she could've said no on the initial phone call.

But we're getting side tracked about the issue I'm talking about.

Maybe there should be a disclaimer or a reason stated for opting out of reviews or maybe a warning put in place if a lady has opted out after bad reviews?

What's with the smart arse comment about it being about me?

Why start a thread if you don't want to hear other people's opinions?

What I am saying to you is very valid. Maybe she isn't a timewaster, maybe she got a sudden knot in her stomach because you insisted on getting directions to her front door via text.

It doesn't matter how many times you speak on the phone prior to the actual meeting if you can't find her apartment and expect text tennis. I am just saying that I know for a fact that I would not meet someone who wouldn't phone me when he gets to my landmark because I wouldn't put my buildings security codes etc in writing for anyone nevermind a complete stranger.

So my point is, you leaving an N/A review when it sounds like it was your fault is maybe a little unfair.

And as I said before, I believe that it's petty going to the bother of writing someone a review whether it be N/A or negative or indifferent when you didn't actually meet.

[Kendra]

This isn't about you now is it?

We'd already spoke a few times on the phone so it's not like it was done completely by text and I turned up at the right time and still had to wait 30 mins for her to get ready.

If she was that concerned she could've said no on the initial phone call.

But we're getting side tracked about the issue I'm talking about.

Maybe there should be a disclaimer or a reason stated for opting out of reviews or maybe a warning put in place if a lady has opted out after bad reviews?

And there is a warning in place if an escort doesn't allow reviews because it says on her profile that she has opted out of the reviewing system.

[TonyStark]

What's with the smart arse comment about it being about me?

Why start a thread if you don't want to hear other people's opinions?

What I am saying to you is very valid. Maybe she isn't a timewaster, maybe she got a sudden knot in her stomach because you insisted on getting directions to her front door via text.

It doesn't matter how many times you speak on the phone prior to the actual meeting if you can't find her apartment and expect text tennis. I am just saying that I know for a fact that I would not meet someone who wouldn't phone me when he gets to my landmark because I wouldn't put my buildings security codes etc in writing for anyone nevermind a complete stranger.

So my point is, you leaving an N/A review when it sounds like it was your fault is maybe a little unfair.

And as I said before, I believe that it's petty going to the bother of writing someone a review whether it be N/A or negative or indifferent when you didn't actually meet.

Ok the smart arse comment was uncalled for but you did go on about you not being a timewaster implyin that I was making out all ladies are timewasters.

I think I can mention details as I don't actually now where her premises where.

She told me donegal road near the hospital, I got to the hospital, phoned her at the correct time, was told to ring bac in about 20 minutes, she then said go to gate b2, there is no b2 on the donegal road and near the hospital gate I text from is a row of houses, a set of traffic lights with quite a lot of traffic at 5pm and surprisingly enough a bunch of students waling up and down as well as people finishing work.

If she was in these houses she could see me and confirm it was me before letting me now where her place was. Or would she prefer a fella looking rather lost ringing, walking through the traffic and walking to a house before hanging up ie drawing attention?

[TonyStark]

And there is a warning in place if an escort doesn't allow reviews because it says on her profile that she has opted out of the reviewing system.

And that only says she has opted out, some ladies already have that up from the moment they put up there advert and possibly might not like being reviewed. How can we tell these ladies from those that have taken the huff as they got a bad review?

[SmallHorn]

So you'd be happy to boo the lady in question and have your time wasted because you didn't know she has a habit of doing that?

That's cool

Thats not what I said though is it.

If she has opted out I wont be booking, unless I know the lady in question.

Simple as that