I enjoy my solitude, me time, yet in time's of grief, it's when it hurt the most.
Yes, talking to people helps and yet, it's that same strength that made you care that will ultimately heal, it's in you !!
That and time.
I enjoy my solitude, me time, yet in time's of grief, it's when it hurt the most.
Yes, talking to people helps and yet, it's that same strength that made you care that will ultimately heal, it's in you !!
That and time.
It does take two years to get over any sort of shock or trauma.
Four or five days and you have usually got over the initial shock.
Some cases you never really get over it completely.
It is not something you want to repeat (not that you have a choice) but the more you experience it, usually the better you deal with it.
It is worth remembering that grief can be a selfish thing, and unless the loss is particularly close to you, there is usually someone closer to the person who may need more support (and support from you) than you do.
But, how do you deal with it? I don't know. Everyone has to cope with it in their own way, I guess.
Stephanie thank you for your honesty, grief is complex and I have seen it manifest in many different ways, I also had someone die in my arms but a stranger it never left me and never will < i also have had the dreaded police knock on the door and the Death letter, on that one went into a active state for awhile then it hit me like a sledgehammer. Then there is the broken heart another intense form of grief, one thing I can say is with time it becomes less frequent and your life eventually returns to you, as to coping mechanism's I think its a mix talking to friends talking to support groups or indeed forums . I some times see grief like an orbiting planet, initially it is in constant contact with you then over time the orbit broadens and the darkness/sorrow it brings slowly becomes not constant every day, then fairly frequent ,and eventually occasional, perhaps accepting that one has to go through this valley and it is normal/natural is a starting point.
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Grief is just part of life and life is a cycle ure born u live, x amount of years u die, thats the sum of life for everybody there are
no exceptions. So it goes without saying that if u live for any reasonable length of time u will encounter death of family members
and friends or accquaintances, there is no way around this.
I have lost plenty of people close to me,mostly family members as i am not yet of an age when ure friends start to die regularly ( but that day will come too)
Im a very practical person and i just take it on the chin and carry on, its not that i maynot be sad etc but at the end of the day what choice do u have? Whatever u do wont change anything u can wail and moan all u like but that person is dead, gone and ure
still alive so make the best of it and move forward.
Always remember that no matter how close u think u are to other people u came into this world alone and u will leave it all alone,
dying is a lonely buisness so at the risk of sounding harsh and cold i say while u are alive, live and deal with the dying when it
happens to u as it inevitably wil,l and someday u will be somebodys grief.
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One of the nicest things you can do for somebody who has lost a loved one is to ask them how they are and then give them time to talk about their lost even if its months later
Stephanie (04-10-14)