Why do you visit escorts?

[Klittyliker]

mike tyson once said that he had opponents beaten before the bell even rang. My point is that if your already beaten before you go out, you dont have a chance. Think positively

Thanks for the feedback dude.

I do try to think positively about this but have never had any interest from the ladies whatsoever. Only so long I can keep a positive frame of mind.

[Baxter]

I just adore attractive women.

[ZVN60]

Terrible lot of assumptions being made, but this is the main one:

It pains me to see the amount of men who get depressed over not being the top dog. There is more to life than pulling women

At no point have I wanted to be a top dog, nor have I considered the main thrill of life to be pulling women.

I've been interested in having a relationship with a woman (I've never been into the bar scene), and not having one woman express interest in you since you were old enough to be interested in the opposite sex does do things to your mental well being.

And I've never "looked at others and said the most in demand guy works as a professional." The two have no correlation for me. I simply believed that I was not qualified enough, nor personable enough to pass the interview.

[xagerate]

Apologies if this has either been done to death or is in the wrong section.

For me, I've started visiting them because I'm in my late 20's and have never had a girlfriend. I've love shyness (for those who don't know http://www.love-shy.com/faq).

In the last while, it had started to eat away at me that I'm soon to be 30 and have never been with a woman. I felt an utter failure and led to depression. In light of the death of Robin Williams, something snapped inside me and made me realise life is too short and that I had to know what it was like.

It's an incredible feeling, being with a beautiful woman. And one I want to experience again and again.

I don't think the depression will ever lift permanently, but at least I no longer feel a failure.

Because some of them look like this............



https://www.escort-ireland.com/board...chmentid=93295

[Meursault]

lads, dont beat yourself up over not pulling women. This whole pulling women is ridiculous anyway because the majority of women dont do one night stands and all that crap.

So what you do is be happy with yourself. Your in ireland not northern iraq or gaza or sierra leone. So work hard and if starting a family is your thing, you will meet a woman. But you will have to work at that. Nothing is given to you in life, you have to earn it.

but dont get drawn into this whole im-not-dating-a-stunner-thing. There is more to life than that. out of the 1,000,000 sperm that swam, you were the one that made it. your lucky to be alive, think of that

edit: and you also have this website

[leon123]

Because some of them look like this............



https://www.escort-ireland.com/board...chmentid=93295

A great reason to visit the girls

[ZVN60]

lads, dont beat yourself up over not pulling women. This whole pulling women is ridiculous anyway because the majority of women dont do one night stands and all that crap.

Once again, I'm not interested in pulling women, one night stands, friends with benefits etc. A relationship is what I'm interested in.

So what you do is be happy with yourself. Your in ireland not northern iraq or gaza or sierra leone. So work hard and if starting a family is your thing, you will meet a woman. But you will have to work at that. Nothing is given to you in life, you have to earn it.

Of course no one is owed a living. But confidence and self esteem are big factors and if you don't have them, you're not going to be in a good place.

but dont get drawn into this whole im-not-dating-a-stunner-thing.

I've never thought like that either.

[borkeman]

Us men all grew up listening to our own bullshit and we don't have as much control over "pulling" women as we would like to
think, as women do the selecting more effectively then men do.

[Meursault]

I've been interested in having a relationship with a woman (I've never been into the bar scene), and not having one woman express interest in you since you were old enough to be interested in the opposite sex does do things to your mental well being.

hold on. Your contradicting yourself. You said you didnt have what it took to be in a relationship and then you say you went off with an escort. You are not going to have a relationship with an escort. They are providing a service. There will be no relationship with them, i can guarantee.

Now my point is that you are still basing your esteem on being with a woman, as if almost the image of being alone haunts you. There are a lot of men not in relationships who are mentally stable. So why are they stable and you not?

And I've never "looked at others and said the most in demand guy works as a professional." The two have no correlation for me. I simply believed that I was not qualified enough, nor personable enough to pass the interview.

You have said from the outset that you are love shy. (Im saying no such thing exists.) but if you are saying you are love shy, it means you have anxiety about yourself and your place in the world. this anxiety comes in part from failure within the dating scene and the cycle continues. All im trying to do is give you advice, which is: Be yourself and dont beat yourself up over that failure.

<personable enough to pass the interview> first of all love shyness has nothing to do with interviews, unless you plan on dating your interviewer. Second of all and more pertinent, by saying you are not "personable" you are already beating yourself up. You are already saying you dont have a chance and like i said, if you dont give yourself a chance, you dont stand a chance.

The dating game is a lot like the job environment in that you have to make good impressions. But it starts off with being yourself and accepting yourself. because if you go in relaxed and confident about who you are, you tend to perform better. If you go into the job interview convinced you are a failure, employers will see that like a potential partner and they will not say Si.

What you have is anxiety. Now getting rid of anxiety is hard. but im trying to assert that if you be yourself ( im assuming you are sociable) you may just be the spider that catches the fly. But that wont happen if you are trying too hard.

just advice man. Dont take it personal. I dont even know you.

[Clyde]

For the crack............... Like...!!!