Are you a sex addict?

[Quarterpoundher]

i commend your reply QuatePounder, it is a monkey on my back that i am now finally ready to beat, i suppose with all addictions you cannot be made or forced to face them until you are ready. Losing everything, watching my beautiful ex-wife raise my small children with another man, who is confident and successful has brought me to my knees. It has been bittersweet as while i have ruined everything good over this it is finally being addressed. The last punt i had was a while back and ironically, it was so awful (as in the women was awful, a certain English woman) that i vowed that that was it. I had a wife at home who was more confident and experimental than i was in the sack, at home and yet here i was getting a crap s**g of a fat bird that wanted me in and out, 150 euros lighter and another bloke waiting at the door. In my head for years i saw it as alluring but in reality it's not, well, not to me anymore.
I am not saying this about anyone else, it's how i process all of this, but i do wonder how many married Johns there are and also, how many men let punting get in the way of having a decent, honest relationship. How many men out there would be gutted to now their partners were shagging some hot business tycoon type they met in the Shelbourne Bar.....shoe on other foot type thing.
In response to the priests visiting escorts thing, i am certain they do but that's because celibacy is idiotic, sex, when done right, with intimacy IS life-affirming, we as the human race depend on it for the future of man- kind!! Being told that sex is wrong only leads to problems. Like mine.
m

I thank you for your honesty, frankness, tact and level headed assessment of your situation. It truly is not a cliche that the first step back up the ladder is being honest with yourself first, if now-one else, and admitting something is out of kilter, I know from seeing it that every step after that is easier then the last, (the first is a b**tard, that some never take), but not to try and take two steps at a time, thinking its easy and you've beaten it, as that’s when people falter

Its sadly the case that people who fall victim to internal demons have to, (without exception) go to the absolute brink of destruction, regardless of the impact on those around them before hopefully seeing the error of their ways, that’s the nature of the beast, there’s no avoiding it. It will not warn you, you will not heed others, even your own Child begging you, and at the end of the day the person with the addiction, and only them can do anything about it, as they have to want it for themselves and not just want it because others do. It sounds selfish to say that they have to want it for themselves, but that’s the reality of the situation in any addiction. I learnt that particular lesson the hard way.

You made a valuable contribution here on the very real negatives involved for some Clients, as I’m sure there are also for some Escorts as well.

I also agree totally of the unnaturalness of enforced celibacy in the Priesthood, its why the schisms we see from their ranks are all to sickenilly common.

Ps

I truly hope everything works out, its not my place to say it, but I also know that people who had long since cut a person adrift, sometimes allow the current of their efforts to make things right, bring them back together, and the swiftness of the tides that tore them apart, paradoxically makes them watertight to any future deluge.

I don’t doubt you have things well under control.

Best Regards...QPH...

[carlos marvado]

I think that all of the brothers here understand your plight fuckface. Punting is indeed an addiction and it's up there with gambling, drink and drugs in terms of the distruction it can cause to individuals and families. You either have to keep in under control or cut it out if it is having a devastating affect on your life. Just like gambling, you have the two extremes of the small 4 Euro wager on the lottery as opposed to guys loosing thousands on horses, cards or slot machines.

I could easily have gone down your road (only in terms of financial ruination) except for a number of factors. One of those happened to be an escort, though she actually helped me without realising it. Paradoxically, the Escort Community section here was also a great help. It means that instead of coming onto E-I to look at the pictures and make a selection of who I'd like to shag, I can get involved in the threads and have as much, if not more fun than shagging.

Not that I've completely given up on the ladies. It's just that on the rare occasion that I do it now, it's big time, and that enables me to shop around and secure very good terms.

Wishing you all the best.

[thehighwayman]

I admire your honesty here on this board guys. From your experiences you can give good advice to people who might need it.

[thehighwayman]

On a lighter note what about this nuns uniform, do any escorts have any. It would go great with black stockings and suspenders.

[carlos marvado]

Highwayman, your existing outfit looks fine to me. What the f**k do you want to go dressing up as a nun for anyway? Have you found God and a late vocation? I'd recommend nursing myself.

[lino]

On a lighter note what about this nuns uniform, do any escorts have any. It would go great with black stockings and suspenders.

There' nothing else that turns me down as much as thinking to fuck a nun... Oh God, am about to vomit...
Lino

[RicFlair]

i commend your reply QuatePounder, it is a monkey on my back that i am now finally ready to beat, i suppose with all addictions you cannot be made or forced to face them until you are ready. Losing everything, watching my beautiful ex-wife raise my small children with another man, who is confident and successful has brought me to my knees. It has been bittersweet as while i have ruined everything good over this it is finally being addressed. The last punt i had was a while back and ironically, it was so awful (as in the women was awful, a certain English woman) that i vowed that that was it. I had a wife at home who was more confident and experimental than i was in the sack, at home and yet here i was getting a crap s**g of a fat bird that wanted me in and out, 150 euros lighter and another bloke waiting at the door. In my head for years i saw it as alluring but in reality it's not, well, not to me anymore.
I am not saying this about anyone else, it's how i process all of this, but i do wonder how many married Johns there are and also, how many men let punting get in the way of having a decent, honest relationship. How many men out there would be gutted to now their partners were shagging some hot business tycoon type they met in the Shelbourne Bar.....shoe on other foot type thing.
In response to the priests visiting escorts thing, i am certain they do but that's because celibacy is idiotic, sex, when done right, with intimacy IS life-affirming, we as the human race depend on it for the future of man- kind!! Being told that sex is wrong only leads to problems. Like mine.
m

I really feel for you brother. Addictions are tough to beat.

I just hope you don't sleep with a loaded gun under your pillow.

[bigpaws]

quater Pounder wtf!! life-affirming to slepp with escorts?!!! Let me guess? "bit of harmless fun! eh? So i bet that in work, when asked what you did over the weekend you tell people you blew your wages on a over-priced escort who pretended to enjoy you f**ked her in the a**? Could you stop if you got married/girlfriend or had kids? Methinks you are living in porn fantasy land....
Oh and btw group therapy is great, it builds back up ones pride and sense of self....i'll probably see you there at some stage
m

I think I'll call you Egg-On-Face from now on ............. if you had taken just a couple of minutes to read one or two of Quarterpoundher's posts ("a couple of minutes" is a little optimistic I admit!!) before going into your rant you would have realised that he is a total Non-Punter thus avoiding the idiocracy of accusing him of maybe being addicted to escorts!!!

By the way I cannot in any way empathise with your addiction to sex (escorts) ruining your life ............... I have been punting for 13/14 years now and still love it plus I have had several long-term relationships without even once coming close to the two paths crossing or affecting eachother. Sorry but that's the way the cookie crumbles for some of us ...........

Paws

[Quarterpoundher]

There' nothing else that turns me down as much as thinking to fuck a nun... Oh God, am about to vomit...
Lino

Oh, I dunno Lino, it’s nice to P,P,P,P,P,Pick up a Penguin every now n then.... :O

Q : What’s the difference between a Nun and a Woman having a bath, ?
A : One has hope in her soul,
The other has soap in Her hole


Think what fun you could have with the Rosary beads...

[thehighwayman]

I've tried the nurses uniform before. Not myself but the escort wore it. You know yourself Carlos I mean the escort to wear the nuns uniform. It would be a bit different. Just an idea that came into my head when we were bashing the bishop.