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    I had my one and only visit to an escort last year. I met with Tiffanytees. She was great and was fantastic about my disability, a spinal chord injury.

    Since then though I've struggled. I struggled with good old catholic guilt. I struggled with worries about sti's, even though I've been checked out.

    Has anyone else had similar experiences to me?

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    We all have worries mate! I get paranoid over many things, but mostly you have to realise that all your fears are irrational.

    Did you have safe sex? Then why worry about an STI.. And, as you said, you got checked out. It seems like you're thinking up every possible barrier (i.e. religion, health worries etc.) to stop you from having sex. It's like you're putting it out of your hands, even though the decision is undeniably in your hands. You cannot live fearing every repercussion.

    I am not religious in the slightest so I can't really approach that subject without rubbing off some of my atheist bias upon whatever opinion I may conjure. Although, I do think that no God would ever want you to feel guilty about committing a sexual act; it's the most natural thing ever!

    Are you going to consign yourself to a life without sex?

    Good luck mate!

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    Quote Originally Posted by podgegun View Post
    I had my one and only visit to an escort last year. I met with Tiffanytees. She was great and was fantastic about my disability, a spinal chord injury.

    Since then though I've struggled. I struggled with good old catholic guilt. I struggled with worries about sti's, even though I've been checked out.

    Has anyone else had similar experiences to me?
    Firstly I’d like to say to you mate I’m really pleased you had such an enjoyable time with Tiff, he’s a great lady.

    As for the Catholic guilt thing my advice would be to ask yourself what is it you’re doing that is so wrong when you compare it with some of the things that the very people who preach right from wrong every Sunday on the alter have done to so many people for so long?

    You need to try and let this thing go and enjoy yourself.

    Best of luck amigo.
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    Podgegun great advice from the last two posts . All I can add is listen to it .

    Well said lads

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    Last edited by dr love; 23-03-11 at 16:53.
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    Let go of your worries. We are all trying to connect, to be a part of a whole. It's the "Man is not an Island" thing. I want all of these lovely ladies on my island to share the experience of what is called life. God or evolution created this drive called sex and there is nothing that should make you feel guilty. It is what we are. There is nothing to worry as long as you are practicing safe sex.

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    I think this is an aspect of the type of service that escorts provide which is generally overlooked by everybody.......general public, media, legislature etc.

    An escort I know very well (not Tiffany) told me about how she had seen a client who was also paralysed as a result of a spinal-cord injury and that his carer had facilitated him by bringing him to the escort. I know this does not help you podgegun, but from what the escort told me, she was moved by this experience. If you were ablebodied, you would probably think nothing of going out to clubs or wherever to meet women and maybe even engaging in casual relationships until you met the right person.

    I can see that your religious/moral beliefs are causing you difficulties, plus your health concerns, but if you deny your obvious physical needs and/or emotional needs for some form of human physical contact, this probably will not be of benefit to you either.
    You obviously enjoyed your time with Tiffany greatly, and as many escorts here point out, their health is very important to them because without it they could'nt work, so the vast majority of them will take whatever precautions are necessary. If you have any issues with your immune system, I would suggest using condoms/female condoms for oral and maybe no kissing.

    What you have to reconcile within yourself is the conflict between chastity and your morality on the one hand and your human physical and emotional needs on the other. Good luck with your decision.

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    Hi Guys,

    Firstly thank you all for your genuine and comprehensive replies. They were very much appreciated.

    I'm still a little confused. One minute on here phoning an escort, the next vowing never to do it again.

    I'm comfortable enough now to say I'm going to give the whole dating/gf thing another go and hope to settle that way. I am comfortable enough also to say I won't rule out visiting another escort in the future, taking your advice into account.

    I realise it is ok for me to do this. Especially with the difficulties I've faced in my life, maybe i should cut myself some slack.

    Thank you all again.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JohnRambo View Post
    Firstly I’d like to say to you mate I’m really pleased you had such an enjoyable time with Tiff, he’s a great lady.

    As for the Catholic guilt thing my advice would be to ask yourself what is it you’re doing that is so wrong when you compare it with some of the things that the very people who preach right from wrong every Sunday on the alter have done to so many people for so long?

    You need to try and let this thing go and enjoy yourself.

    Best of luck amigo.

    Hes a great Lady! I thought you knew me better than that lol

    Love and Licks Tiff (Ladyboy NOT)

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    Quote Originally Posted by TiffanyTees View Post
    Hes a great Lady! I thought you knew me better than that lol

    Love and Licks Tiff (Ladyboy NOT)
    Jesus Christ I’m so sorry about that Tiff I’m a total dick I didn’t see that before, sorry babe.

    Let me just clear things up, TIFF IS ALL WOMAN!!!!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by JohnRambo View Post
    Jesus Christ I’m so sorry about that Tiff I’m a total dick I didn’t see that before, sorry babe.

    Let me just clear things up, TIFF IS ALL WOMAN!!!!!
    Thankyou hunnybun you are forgiven ..... lol xx

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