Originally Posted by
DollyDarling
As a person who loves strong. The best advice I could give myself or others is to treat lost love like you would when losing a pet. Rather then die of a broken heart and stay melancholy forever for your loss, just go get a new puppy so to speak. That was what someone said to me once after losing my pet. They said there is another animal out there who needs to be loved and you have such a big heart and it needs your love. Never forget your other pet you loved so much, but now give your huge love to another pet who needs loved. I did just that. I got another pet, and after a few weeks, I loved this pet. The love grew stronger everyday and I never forgot my beloved pet before him, but I was able to be close to this new pet and pour out my mighty love upon him. We can do the same for a person. If we lose someone we've loved so strong, if we are created for loving, we can find someone else who needs our love and then shower it upon them. Point is, lovers have a need to love, a passion to love, and the worst part of losing the person we love, is that we no longer are pouring our love upon them. Find another.... Sometimes it gets frustrating if it keeps happening. We want to quit, to become hardened, to become zombie-like. Is it for our own protection to switch off our hearts? Or is it the switch that would make us lose ourselves completely? I am in the process of letting my heart switch back on. I want to love again. I dont want to fear or protect my heart anymore. I know now how it is and I know that if the next man I love repeats the pattern, I will just find another after him. Point is, I was made to love strong, and by rejecting that part of me, I am not being true to myself anymore. It is my essence and my core to love.
I think that love is born inside us first. If we are not capable of loving, then we may never love. If we are strong lovers, then we have the chance to love again and again. If we are lucky, we will find someone who has equal ability of loving to match our own. Then we have found what we may call our soul mate.