I have always struggled to understand the fascination some guys have with anal sex.To me, an anus is an anus and anyone going up the arse is only one step away from being gay. Anyway, after all these years and being sick of hearing guys saying, if you don't try, you don't know what you are missing, I finally decided to lose my anal virginity. Found an escort, having a great time, when I decided this is the one to give it a bash. Fair play, she said no problem. She lubed up and let me in and away I went. When I had shot the bolt she warned me not to look down and not to worry about the smell. Shit of course. Now, the BIG ISSUE, whats the difference between shoving it up a woman arse or a guys arse. No smart answers, as I know the difference between the species but an anus is an anus , is an anus...........!
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22-01-10, 00:00oneeyedreillyAnal fascination
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22-01-10, 00:05DoozerOk first off its not gay as your still having sex with a woman. I mean blow jobs apparently was invented by gays so does that mean your going to stop getting them? The fascination is that is different to normal vaginal sex and it is also tighter. Not all women shit themselves afterwardsQuote:
Originally Posted by oneeyedreilly
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22-01-10, 00:09WestsidexWell
it does nothing for me at all.I dont mind it but cant see the big trill in it.I think for a lot of ppl its more of a mental thing.Excessive anal sex is dangerous though,for the taker that is.
could end up wearing nappies,
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22-01-10, 00:37Larz
As pointed out, physically its tighter (generally :D) but there's probably the forbidden aspect to it. To some people it's like the next level of taboo and therefore is the most attractive thing in the world.
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22-01-10, 00:39chanusi
came across this some time ago best of craigslist: The worst "Anal Sex Accident"
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22-01-10, 00:49lutherI think you'll find.........It's the packaging the arse comes surrounded in........:DQuote:
Originally Posted by oneeyedreilly
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22-01-10, 10:55Doozer5 Reasons why men like anal
We’ve come along way when it comes to sex, and we’ve come an even longer way when it comes to anal sex. Gone are the days of thinking that anal sex was something that only homosexuals do; nowadays, 25% of heterosexual couples engage in anal sex on a regular basis.
And while some of you may cringe at the mere thought of letting a penis into your butt, if you gave it an open-hearted chance, you may find that you enjoy it more than you imagine.
And despite what you might have heard or read, anal sex is not dangerous if done right, and it should never cause pain. If it does, either you’re not ready or your man is simply not patient enough to move in slowly.
If you’re still hesitant about giving in to your man’s fantasy of having anal sex with you, perhaps my shedding some light on why he wants it will help.
1. It gives us a sense of power …
Although it sounds very territorial, the fact that we control the situation and lay on top of you is very empowering. As well, you put your sexual satisfaction (or perhaps, lack thereof) in our hands, entrusting us with your pleasure sense.
Men love the idea of entering you from behind and relish in the thought of sparking all those anal nerve endings and giving you the ultimate climax. And if you enjoy it and reach orgasm because of it, we really do want to sit up and beat our chests with pride.
2. You trust us …
The fact that you’re letting us into a part of yourself that requires the utmost trust gives us a really fantastic feeling within. And no, it’s not just a sexual one.
If you’re nervous about anal sex and you agree to try it with us, it makes us feel like a million bucks; our woman is putting all her trust into the fact that we will be caring and loving and not rip her anus in two. It means the world to us.
3. It’s something new …
While vaginal sex is simply fantastic, to say the least, at some point, everything becomes the norm. So when the topic of anal sex arises, you can bet that our radar perks up a bit and we become giddy about the prospect of something sexy and new.
Like having sex with a new woman or engaging in a threesome , anal sex represents a part of all the crazy things we’d like to one day do in bed. And if you enjoy it half as much as we do, well it makes it that much sweete
4. We love your butt …
Your butt is awesome and most men enjoy getting up close and personal with women’s butts. So when we get to have sex with the very butt that we’ve spent so much time admiring, you can bet that we feel like we’ve hit the jackpot.
Climbing on top of you and placing our penis within your anal cavity may not sound half as fascinating to you, but couple that with our ability to caress and perhaps spank your bottom spontaneously, and life is good for men.
5. It’s very tight …
No matter how great you are at performing Kegel exercises, there’s a pretty good chance that your butt hole will always be tighter than your vaginal one. Keep in mind that the vagina was designed to bring a child into the world; the butt, not so much.
So when we get access to this sacred area of your body, we know that our penis will feel the squeeze of tightness coming from your anus. And although you will never understand the sensation because you can never fully feel it yourself, you need to know that the sensation is unlike anything else a man will ever experience.
A man who loves anal sex is not weird or gay or any of those things that used to be associated with anal sex. He is simply a man who enjoys the company of his woman and wants to explore her body to the depths, which includes feeling her from the back -
22-01-10, 10:55Doozer
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22-01-10, 11:10DoozerConvicing the misses
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Many men enjoy it, but convincing your girlfriend to have anal sex may be a challenge. So how do you fulfill this fantasy if your partner is against it? First things first: talk it over. Find out exactly what makes her hesitant to try it and then see what you can do to belie her fears. Once you’ve done that, the next step to convincing your girlfriend to have anal sex is to address the following issues.
Pain vs. pleasure
Many women only try anal sex once and then swear it off for life. This is usually because their first attempt was painful. If your girl has had a bad anal experience, it’ll be tough to get her to try it again. Even if she’s never tried it, she’s likely heard horror stories from others. Unless your girl has a masochistic streak, pain is not on her agenda when it comes to getting off.
The anus is nerve-packed and with the right kind of stimulation, anal play can feel amazing. Unfortunately, the same cluster of nerves responsible for the pleasure can also transmit feelings of pain and discomfort if your technique is off. When convincing your girlfriend to have anal sex, you must show your concern for her pleasure and safety by sharing your responsible and well-thought-out plan.
Perfecting the setting
First of all, she needs to be relaxed and prepared; anal sex is not suited for a quickie. The anus will tighten if she is nervous, which will make it hard for you to get in and more painful for her. If it’s her very first time, you need to make a big deal about getting her ready. Pick a time and place where she can be relaxed and away from any extra stressors. Make sure you won’t be interrupted.
You probably already know what really turns her on, so whether it’s a bubble bath and a massage or hardcore porn and costumes, have your tools at the ready. Getting her aroused is of the utmost importance.
Getting started
Do not skip straight to the butt. Instead, take your time with foreplay and make sure she’s into it before focusing your attention on your desired destination. Then, start her off slowly by using your mouth, fingers and/or sex toys to stimulate her anal opening before your penis comes anywhere near it. You might even want to just use smaller toys and your fingers until she gets used to the idea of having something inside that particular opening.
Use lube -- lots of lube. Unlike the vaginal opening, the anus does not create its own lubrication; you’ll need to use plenty of artificial wetness to ensure a smooth ride.
Going in
First of all, use a condom for anal sex. Because of the increased chances of small tears in the anal cavity during anal sex, it is easier to transmit several sexually transmitted diseases and infections, including HIV and hepatitis C.
Next, lube up. You want it to be as slippery as possible for an easier entrance.
More tips to help you with convincing your girlfriend to have anal sex
Proceed slowly and ask your girlfriend to let you know if it starts to hurt. When she winces, ease back before continuing. The hardest part will be getting the head of your penis past the sphincter, which will naturally tense up to prevent entry (this is why you started with all that relaxation). Do not force yourself through when this happens; just continue to shallowly penetrate in and out with the tip of your penis. Once you feel it begin to let go a little, gently push the head past the sphincter. You’ll feel a distinct difference once the head is inside. The sphincter will continue to constrict tightly around the shaft of your penis, but inside it will have more room. Some men find this sensation confusing and it is not unusual to lose your erection at this point. This doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t want to or can’t do it; your penis just needs time to adjust to the new experience.
Now, the hardest part is over for you and for her, but you need to continue to be highly aware of every move you make since being too rough once you’re inside can cause her considerable pain. You cannot thrust into her anus as hard as you would in her vagina. Take it easy and pay attention to how it is making her feel. If you get selfish and focus on your pleasure over her potential pain, this will probably be the last time you’ll have anal sex with her.
Avoiding the ick factor
Another reason why she may be against any anal action is that she may think it’s downright yucky. For some, the anus is a no-go zone and there’s nothing you can do to convince them otherwise, but if she’s just a bit squeamish about feces on the sheets (or you are) there are steps you can take to minimize that possibility.
Time it so that you are engaging in the act a few hours after she has evacuated the area and thoroughly cleaned up. You could even add a sexy shower or bath to the foreplay schedule to take care of this step. If she wants to go all out, she can try an anal douche to flush out anything icky that may be left behind.
Good girls don’t
You might also have a hard time convincing your girlfriend to have anal sex because she views it as deviant and not something a good girl would do. Although the taboo has faded considerably, there is still a prevailing attitude that anal sex is for bad, easy or slutty girls. If she’s worried about this, you need to assure her that you do not think of her that way and that your attitude would not change after the deed is done.
A note on porn and anal
Do not emulate porn stars when it comes to anal sex. Professional porn actresses are either stretched out in the sphincter or too high to notice the pain that results from the minimally lubed, no foreplay, extremely rough anal sex that almost always occurs in pornographic pictures. They may also have used a numbing cream or gel to dull the pain of anal intercourse. This is an extremely dumb idea, since pain is your body’s way of telling you that something is wrong. Even if she can’t feel it, the sex act could still be causing damage to very sensitive areas that will protest plenty once the numbing effect wears off. Plus, deadening the area with desensitizing cream also ensures that none of the pleasurable sensations will reach her either. If you’re not using a condom, it could dull the nerve-endings in your penis as well and what’s the point of doing it if you can’t feel the pleasure?
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Convincing your girlfriend to have anal sex might seem like a chore, but the key things to remember are to be sensitive to her needs, be prepared, be clean, and be safe. In the end, it’s worth the pain in the ass -
22-01-10, 12:22carlos marvado
You do realise Brother Doozer, that anybody with questions regarding matters of an anal nature, will now be seeking you out for your advice.
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22-01-10, 12:43rover
I can't understand how anybody can be fascinated with the female arse. :rolleyes::rolleyes::D
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22-01-10, 12:58Doozerhttp://photos.i.xihalife.com/u/0/36/...63d5f7f8f9.jpgQuote:
Originally Posted by rover
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22-01-10, 13:02EpsilonQuote:
Originally Posted by Doozer
Are you telling me you would?
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22-01-10, 13:06DoozerIn a heartbeat
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22-01-10, 13:13Epsilon
Maybe you already have?????????
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Sorry buddy but i prefere
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22-01-10, 13:30DoozerEps I think you have confused me with EX PQuote:
Originally Posted by Epsilon
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22-01-10, 13:33roverOnly messing. :DQuote:
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22-01-10, 15:50DoozerYou to be good at somethingQuote:
Originally Posted by carlos marvado
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22-01-10, 16:43carlos marvadoJust the plug I needed for my latest advertising campaign...........as somewhat of a distinguished author on the anal variant, can I quote you Brother Doozer? Something along the lines of......................Quote:
Originally Posted by Doozer
"Doozer recommends Marvado International Green Healthcare's Pine Fresh Butt Plugs (Reg. TM) as his preferred solution to piles of anal ailments". :D:D:D -
22-01-10, 16:58Doozer
Quote away Carlos. Yes I will lend my name to your product. Doozer Marvado International Green Healthcare's Pine Fresh Butt Plugs (Reg. TM) as his preferred solution to piles of anal ailments"
Remember if your going to stick anything up your arse, it might as well be a Marvado -
22-01-10, 18:15experienced punterits nothing at all to do with being gay anal sex though is not what its cracked(sorry) up to be my one & only experience was when an escort called to me in the hotel when we got to the anal she got herself into position said 'sorry about this' & let off the biggest breezer fart :eek: she then proceeded with the mickey up the jacksie mickey falls out condom has shit on it:eek: ah here - agree with thread don't see the appeal in it I like a finger up the jacksie though:)......Quote:
Originally Posted by oneeyedreilly
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22-01-10, 19:49ga1
my first time trying it was with an escort when she bent over there was toilet paper betweeen her cheeks.i wasnt letting that stop me so away i go shot the load went to take condom off without checking ended up covered in shit
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23-01-10, 02:38DollyDarlingOh my god. what a loser! She shit on you? Well, thats just rediculous! There should not be any shitting during anal. Dont go thinking this is normal, cause it isnt! Maybe if you meet a girl at the club and she is drunk and you do anal in a piss-smelling alley.... but an escort should NEVER have this happen! She should be using an enema up her arse and making sure she is nice and clean for you. This is why escorts charge more usually for anal. Because it takes alot more time to prepare for it, often using an enema 2-3 times a day to make sure it's a spic-n-span happy hole for you to play in.Quote:
Originally Posted by oneeyedreilly
The main reasons men like it is for the tightness (if a man has a tiny itty bitty cock, an arse can feel nice the way it grips at his little cock and makes him feel HUGE). Also the taboo of doing the arse is exciting for some men. And some men just want to enjoy every bit of a women as they just love every nook and cranny or a women. But for any reason a man has, the hole should be clean. Difference between doing a man's arse and doing a women's arse is simple. It depends on which arse you stick it in. Is it a womens or a mans? Thats the difference.:eek: -
23-01-10, 02:41DollyDarlingGod how horrible :(Quote:
Originally Posted by ga1
I think I better get my clean arse over there so you guys dont have to have these horrible experiences with other girls ever again! -
23-01-10, 02:42DollyDarlingOh my god. what a cow :( How can these escorts be so disgusting? *sigh*Quote:
Originally Posted by experienced punter
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23-01-10, 02:43DollyDarlingWell I will be more then happy to have you just play with my pussy. She loves getting lots of attention :)Quote:
Originally Posted by rover
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23-01-10, 02:44DollyDarlingLOLOLOL Thats hilarious.Quote:
Originally Posted by Epsilon
Oh my goodness, good luck finding the hole. You could get off tho inside one of the many rolls there. Have a nice wenk in the fat pockets :) -
23-01-10, 02:46DollyDarlingOh My god. that is theQuote:
Originally Posted by Doozer
PERFECT ARSE!
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23-01-10, 03:07RicFlair
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This reason enough for Anal fun. Hell if Dolly wore strapon she could do whatever she wanted to me.:D -
23-01-10, 03:17DollyDarling
LOL where are you finding these pics of me :D How embarrassing LOL
Hey! If I come over in Feb, will you make me the escort of the month? Its my birthday! -
23-01-10, 10:04experienced punterfunniest pic ever:lmao:.Quote:
Originally Posted by RicFlair
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23-01-10, 19:43Dirty Harry
rimming is something that i love to do i could rim a good looking lady all night i have only done anal sex a couple of times and i must say if you have the right lady for it then you just cant beat the chocolate chimney :D:D:D:p
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23-01-10, 20:59oneeyedreillyLots to think about after reading all the replies. I think I'll have to have a go at the above though. I'm getting a stiffy just thinking about how that would feel.Quote:
Originally Posted by experienced punter
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25-01-10, 11:50TheNadsFebruary ?
Hey Dotty,
Is that a camera, ipod or what you're sporting while satisfying that man's swiss-roll ?
Please do come & if you're as good as you say then escort of the month is a certainty surely.
You're promising a visit for over a year now Dotty, time to shit or get of the pot - so to speak.