I'm fairly sure this has been discussed before but I can't say I remember the answers so here we go, has anyone ever fallen in love with one of our lovely ladies on this site (or another one) and if so how you dealt with it and how did it turn out ?
Lovin our ladies ?
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15-02-11, 14:36n73Lovin our ladies ?
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15-02-11, 14:51Morpheus
I'm in danger of falling in love with the lovely ladies on a daily basis!:) They are dangerously loveable!:p
Apologies for the frivolity N73, I presume your question is a serious one. I haven't fallen in love with any of the ladies I've seen. I try to keep reminding myself that this is a client - escort relationship. For most of the ladies I see this works fairly well. However, there are one or two ladies that I know I would be in serious danger of falling for them.
I think this would be very unfair to the said lady. I know (as a few have told me) that this would be a nightmare scenario for them i.e when a regular client genuinely falls in love with them.
I therefore take extra precautions in these cases i.e. resist seeing the said lady too often. And consciously making a mental note that this is a fantasy not reality. Its sometimes made easier by the fact that the ladies concerned only stay for a short time or tour frequently.
I should state that my encounters with escorts are not devoid of emotion. I develop friedships with some of the girls I see regularly and do care for their well being. However, as mentioned above, falling in love with an escort is not a good idea for either party. I know the film 'Pretty Woman' ended happily ever after, but reality is often quite different to Hollywood stories.
If you do happen to fall in love, I'm not sure what the solution is? I think stopping seeing the said lady might be a start (unless of course the feeling are reciprocated, but I think this would be an extreme rarity). -
15-02-11, 15:02lovethegirls
I think it would be dangerous for both parties for this to happen. As Morpheus said its ok to form a friendship with the ladies as i know this can happen. But falling in love is a no no and will always end up in tears i would imagine.
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15-02-11, 15:05mellors
It's obviously vital to keep it in perspective,as Morpheus says it's a client -escort relationship. Many of the escorts make you feel very special when you are with them ,not only are they beautiful looking but also great personalities,educated,warm and fun to be with. Forming a friendship with those you see regularly is great, but you have to remember once the door closes behind you after an appt your back in the real world. I'd say it was fairly easy to fall for one of the girls for some people but ultimately it's going to end as a bit of a nightmare for both the escort and you.
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15-02-11, 15:17Fitzy
It would be very easy to fall in love with some of these girls they are not only beautiful but they have great personalities and you always feel special when in there company and that's as far as it goes for me falling in love it's a big no it probably would never work out.
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15-02-11, 15:44ForrestI have met some amazing ladies through E-I(and the other one) and had some wonderful encounters. There are a couple that I have become very fond of, but it's hard to know whether it's love, infatuation or lust :D.Quote:
Originally Posted by n73
As previous posters have said, the feeling you get is probably as a result of how well the lady is performing the 'service', but you have to bear in mind and remember that it is just that - a service.
As for how you deal with it, if you think you are really 'in love' with an escort, think long and hard before you say anything directly to her, and chose your words carefully. Once you make that declaration, you will be putting the escort in a very tricky situation, and unless she feels the same(highly unlikely), you should be resigned to not seeing her anymore.
Btw N73, I'm not referring to you as someone who may have bitten the bug - when I said 'you' above, I meant punters in general.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YL5qzAw0dd4&feature=fvst -
15-02-11, 16:06Sam Spade
Totally agree with Morpheous.
It would be so easy to fall for one these ladies, and after all why not?
They are beautiful, intelligent, great at sex, give you what you like and more importantly make you feel important and special!
If ever I think I am falling for a lady, I just remind myself of our relationship of client and escort.
All I need to do is look in the mirror to see what an escort sees.
I try not to see the same lady too often and always break visits up by visiting other ladies.
It's important not only to protect ourselves, but the escort in question.
This business is difficult enough for escorts without having to deal with a love-sick puppy!
For me I can content myself by hoping an escort likes me as a person.
It's perhaps the best I can hope for. -
15-02-11, 19:15lucifersam
As with most professional relationships, Doctor/Patient, Employer/employee there are lines that should not be crossed, and I think relationships with escorts is one of those lines. I think i'ts just a plain bad idea.
Besides.......who would you be falling in love with? I am going to speculate here as I don't ask questions, but I assume some/most/all of the Women lead two lives, that of an escort and a private life - an alter-ego if you like. If this is in fact the case, it would be the company of alter-ego that most of us enjoy, an alter-ego that does not exist outside of the of the escort-client relationship.
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15-02-11, 19:26MorpheusAgree totally with you LuciferS. A really good escort learns to read a client and give him the image he wants. Thats what we the clients pay her for (whether it be a GFE, PSE roleplay, etc..).Quote:
Originally Posted by lucifersam
And therefore the person a client falls in love with is often a mirage and not the real person behind the fantasy. I think as clients, we need to be very clear of this. As mentioned in my previous post - i think its unfair on the escort when if we do cross that emotional line. Even knowing all this its so easy to fall in love with the fantasy girl. We just have to keep pinching ourselves back to reality when we walk out the door.
And as mentioned by LuciferS - escorts have a right to their own private lives, which we the clients must never encroach upon. -
15-02-11, 20:05kelso
i agree with all the above, however it does happen, it is possible, and yes sometimes the feelings are reciptrocated;
you need to be brutally honest with yourself and each other though - how often do you see her in a non client way? have you enjoyed each others company away from the client -girl scenario? do you visit this girl only?
it is possible but its def not easy, not for the faint hearted and only works out in extremely rare occasions, so i say be honest, see how it goes but be realistic also....and good luck! -
15-02-11, 20:09Bruno69
I have. Started as a client, dated, went on hols, lived together. It wasn't without a lot of difficulties and ultimately we split up, but we are still friends and don't regret it.
I think sometimes clients see escorts as some exotic alien lifeform we are trying to communicate with and understand. But they are all someones daughter, sister, friend, mum sometimes , and can need love as much as the next person.
So, yes, respect the boundaries and don't express undying love unless you have a relationship separate to business, but if there are feelings there on both sides, there are ways of broaching it, no less awkward than with a girl you like in your office or whatever.
I'm sure some girls here have relationships but I'd say some think it might be impossible.
Well it's not impossible. If my experience is any measure of it, it won't be easy but if there is genuine love, it can be done. -
15-02-11, 20:34n73
So if you were married with kids would you have taken the chance ?
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15-02-11, 20:38Lucy ChambersI have said this before to someone, but you usually lose people how you find them. No woman would forget that you were a client once, and unfortunately that would never be different. Love is lovely but it has to start in a good place to last and an appointment with an escort probably isnt the best place to start.Quote:
Originally Posted by n73
Everyone feel free to tell me I am horrible :) -
15-02-11, 20:42kelsoyikes man, no, def no. that would be a step too far 4 me; and most likely the girl in question would rightly wonder if the same might happen herQuote:
Originally Posted by n73
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15-02-11, 20:47mellorsBig jump,who knows ? It depends where the relationship is going. Would have to be definite that it was reciprico.l Personally I couldn't handle it I,m probably to much of a jealous type,to expect the escort to give up her job would be totally unreasonable, so not for me (chance would be a fine thing)Quote:
Originally Posted by n73
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15-02-11, 20:48n73Ah Lucy, the most sensible person on here!!! I was only asking a question and wondering about the response, or was I ?????Quote:
Originally Posted by lucy chambers
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15-02-11, 20:57lucifersamI think this could be a self fulfilling prophecy - Positivity is required in these scenarios, If it still fails....... well you can say you gave it every chance. That said, trust is everything in a relationship - without it there is nothing much solidQuote:
Originally Posted by lucy chambers
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15-02-11, 21:17BACMAN36
Someone mentioned the film Pretty Woman. Read the other day that they had to re-shoot the ending. The original ending had Richard Gere throw Julia out of his house back into the streets.
That film wouldn't have become a chick flick fav.