Being Someone's Doormat.

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06-11-15, 19:11
DreamCatcher

Being Someone's Doormat.

I had a relationship with a girl who I thought was the best thing since sliced bread, I really thought we would be together forever. So things went sour eventually as is very often the case. We stayed in touch and recently started contact again, only text messages though. I put my cards on the table and told her that I still have feelings for her, only to be quickly told that she doesn't want to see me again, doesn't want to talk to me again etc etc. However, she got in touch yesterday and asked me for €500. I told that yes I would give her the cash if we could meet, but she refused and said I could transfer the money into her bank account. I'm actually in shock as to the bare faced cheek of her. I'm lost for words, not lost for tears though.
06-11-15, 19:21
AndyLuck12

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Originally Posted by DreamCatcher

I had a relationship with a girl who I thought was the best thing since sliced bread, I really thought we would be together forever. So things went sour eventually as is very often the case. We stayed in touch and recently started contact again, only text messages though. I put my cards on the table and told her that I still have feelings for her, only to be quickly told that she doesn't want to see me again, doesn't want to talk to me again etc etc. However, she got in touch yesterday and asked me for €500. I told that yes I would give her the cash if we could meet, but she refused and said I could transfer the money into her bank account. I'm actually in shock as to the bare faced cheek of her. I'm lost for words, not lost for tears though.

€500 on some of the girls on this site VS €500 on one ex
I know what I'd pick lol
06-11-15, 19:22
bettercallsaul

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Originally Posted by DreamCatcher

I had a relationship with a girl who I thought was the best thing since sliced bread, I really thought we would be together forever. So things went sour eventually as is very often the case. We stayed in touch and recently started contact again, only text messages though. I put my cards on the table and told her that I still have feelings for her, only to be quickly told that she doesn't want to see me again, doesn't want to talk to me again etc etc. However, she got in touch yesterday and asked me for €500. I told that yes I would give her the cash if we could meet, but she refused and said I could transfer the money into her bank account. I'm actually in shock as to the bare faced cheek of her. I'm lost for words, not lost for tears though.

Buddy it's tough now as you had feelings,but In time you will see what she asked you is the best thing that could happen,in time you will see her for what she is,at the moment it's difficult but you will be a better man for this,chin up!
06-11-15, 19:25
DreamCatcher

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Originally Posted by bettercallsaul

Buddyit's tough now as you had feelings,but In time you will see what she asked you is the best thing that could happen,in time you will see her for what she is,at the moment it's difficult but you will be a better man for this,chin up!

Sound man, wise words indeed. I have to say that I wasn't your biggest fan before but I appreciate your words, I really do. My head is spinning though, she thinks I'm such a fool.
06-11-15, 19:30
bettercallsaul

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Originally Posted by DreamCatcher

Sound man, wise words indeed. I have to say that I wasn't your biggest fan before but I appreciate your words, I really do. My head is spinning though, she thinks I'm such a fool.

I am not here to have fans mate,I normally joke at others expense all the time,but I do have a heart and your story is not something I would joke about.

their is one fool here,it's not you it's her,you really will in time be a stronger person for this,sounds stupid now but It's true!
06-11-15, 19:42
johnb59

be a man tell her to fuck off your better off rid of her and find someone who likes you for who you are not what she can get out of you
06-11-15, 19:53
casman

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Originally Posted by bettercallsaul

I am not here to have fans mate,I normally joke at others expense all the time,but I do have a heart and your story is not something I would joke about.

their is one fool here,it's not you it's her,you really will in time be a stronger person for this,sounds stupid now but It's true!

You old romantic you,i knew there had to be more of a reason than your humour,why Claudia like you :D
06-11-15, 19:55
bettercallsaul

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Originally Posted by casman

You old romantic you,i knew there had to be more of a reason than your humour,why Claudia like you :D

Caring about someone who is obviously hurting is not romantic,it is something all basic human beings have.
06-11-15, 19:58
tom sand

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Originally Posted by bettercallsaul

Caring about someone who is obviously hurting is not romantic,it is something all basic human beings have.

hey saul
you in a bad mood
https://encrypted-tbn3.gstatic.com/i...v-K5rMgDuX4-pn
06-11-15, 20:02
casman

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Originally Posted by tom sand

hey saul
you in a bad mood
https://encrypted-tbn3.gstatic.com/i...v-K5rMgDuX4-pn

He's grumpy tonight,Claudia has left him :D
06-11-15, 20:04
bettercallsaul

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Originally Posted by tom sand

hey saul
you in a bad mood
https://encrypted-tbn3.gstatic.com/i...v-K5rMgDuX4-pn

No.teardrop.

I was just being helpful,I can see why you would be confused,it's not like I do that much.
06-11-15, 20:05
bettercallsaul

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Originally Posted by casman

He's grumpy tonight,Claudia has left him :D

You could be more wrong,I am not sure how though ;)
06-11-15, 20:06
tom sand

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Originally Posted by bettercallsaul

No.teardrop.

I was just being helpful,I can see why you would be confused,it's not like I do that much.

yep
that was it
06-11-15, 20:16
The dirt bird

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Originally Posted by casman

He's grumpy tonight,Claudia has left him :D

Can you keep the Claudia comments to a minimum please.
Some of us are having withdrawal symptoms ok.
You can mention her again when she is back advertising until then shut your trap pal or I will jump in the transit head to Laois and do you with an oversized strap on dildo.
Don't have me to tell you again :mad:
06-11-15, 20:17
DreamCatcher

Bettercallsaul, you really are a decent bloke, so I told her where to go anyway but I'm crestfallen since, I've never known devastation like this. I'll be ok soon.
06-11-15, 20:22
bettercallsaul

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Originally Posted by DreamCatcher

Bettercallsaul, you really are a decent bloke, so I told her where to go anyway but I'm crestfallen since, I've never known devastation like this. I'll be ok soon.

Yeah mate you will be ,it will take time but you made the only decision you could have.

Meanwhile I have ruined my reputation by being nice ;)
06-11-15, 20:23
The dirt bird

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Originally Posted by DreamCatcher

Bettercallsaul, you really are a decent bloke, so I told her where to go anyway but I'm crestfallen since, I've never known devastation like this. I'll be ok soon.

I know this comment is not directed at me but I would like to reply please
It gets easier day by day trust me. A broken heart is a physical pain that will go the mental pain goes too.
You have to understand you are better without that person that is clear and you know it yourself. You will look back on this in a while when you have met someone new and wonder what it was all about......
€500 that's her price ? Your so well out of that pal.
06-11-15, 20:37
DreamCatcher

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Originally Posted by The dirt bird

I know this comment is not directed at me but I would like to reply please
It gets easier day by day trust me. A broken heart is a physical pain that will go the mental pain goes too.
You have to understand you are better without that person that is clear and you know it yourself. You will look back on this in a while when you have met someone new and wonder what it was all about......
€500 that's her price ? Your so well out of that pal.

Thanks dirt bird, I'm going to have a good long think to myself about the whole situation, I'm struggling to understand what she tried to do, it's not an exaggeration to say that my faith in humanity is in ruins. I mean she sent a text yesterday, never said sorry for the things she said before, came straight in with, "can you give me €500?".
06-11-15, 20:41
bettercallsaul

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Originally Posted by DreamCatcher

Thanks dirt bird, I'm going to have a good long think to myself about the whole situation, I'm struggling to understand what she tried to do, it's not an exaggeration to say that my faith in humanity is in ruins. I mean she sent a text yesterday, never said sorry for the things she said before, came straight in with, "can you give me €500?".

Don't lose faith in humanity cause of one bad experience,remember it's her that has the problem.
06-11-15, 21:26
Petros

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Originally Posted by DreamCatcher

I had a relationship with a girl who I thought was the best thing since sliced bread, I really thought we would be together forever. So things went sour eventually as is very often the case. We stayed in touch and recently started contact again, only text messages though. I put my cards on the table and told her that I still have feelings for her, only to be quickly told that she doesn't want to see me again, doesn't want to talk to me again etc etc. However, she got in touch yesterday and asked me for €500. I told that yes I would give her the cash if we could meet, but she refused and said I could transfer the money into her bank account. I'm actually in shock as to the bare faced cheek of her. I'm lost for words, not lost for tears though.

There are people out there like that! They play on you because they know you care — they live life like a parasite! It is hard on those of us who they prey on but I think one good thing has come to pass here — you now know just how low that girl will stoop. It is now time for you to come to terms with this realisation and move on in the hope that you will recognise the signes in the future and not fall for another parasite like her!
06-11-15, 21:34
Its only me

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Originally Posted by DreamCatcher

I had a relationship with a girl who I thought was the best thing since sliced bread, I really thought we would be together forever. So things went sour eventually as is very often the case. We stayed in touch and recently started contact again, only text messages though. I put my cards on the table and told her that I still have feelings for her, only to be quickly told that she doesn't want to see me again, doesn't want to talk to me again etc etc. However, she got in touch yesterday and asked me for €500. I told that yes I would give her the cash if we could meet, but she refused and said I could transfer the money into her bank account. I'm actually in shock as to the bare faced cheek of her. I'm lost for words, not lost for tears though.

I had the kinda same EX. Move on there are far better people out there. There are far better thing to spend money on.
06-11-15, 22:42
Rocker123

You know what you must do.. You called your thread "Being Someone's Doormat" and that is exactly how she wants you to be.

This woman cares nothing for you so no matter how you feel about her, you cannot change her. Time to move on.

I recommend taking some of that €500 she wanted from you and going to see one of the fine ladies here. Don't look back.

You seem like a decent guy.. her loss and a lucky escape for you.

Best of luck in the future.
06-11-15, 23:46
Cable87

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Originally Posted by DreamCatcher

I had a relationship with a girl who I thought was the best thing since sliced bread, I really thought we would be together forever. So things went sour eventually as is very often the case. We stayed in touch and recently started contact again, only text messages though. I put my cards on the table and told her that I still have feelings for her, only to be quickly told that she doesn't want to see me again, doesn't want to talk to me again etc etc. However, she got in touch yesterday and asked me for €500. I told that yes I would give her the cash if we could meet, but she refused and said I could transfer the money into her bank account. I'm actually in shock as to the bare faced cheek of her. I'm lost for words, not lost for tears though.

Sorry you're out a relationship there my good man...

But look at it this way: At least you're not out 500 quid! ;) Do like Rocker suggested and take that money she was asking for and go for some memorable times with some lovely ladies from E-I. It'll take your mind off the ex, no problem :)

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