Remembrance of things oral.

For quite a while, I have wondered why I have not felt compelled to leave a review. Apart from the obvious reasons of laziness.

Nearly all of my encounters have been most pleasant and pleasurable. All the desired boxes have been ticked. But maybe, just maybe, it is because there is a large element of box ticking involved in encounters nowadays, that is at the root of what I see as a change over the years.

Because I am an aficionado of all things oral, it is in this area that I've noticed most change.

Way back, long before we had EI with its photographs, reviews and menus of favourites, we had to do with discreet ads - from which we had to deduce various cues and clues as to what may be on offer. The telephone call was given acute attention to see if it would offer more cues and clues.

Along the way, the In Dublin magazine ads began to offer more and more clues and cues.
But it was only when you actually met the lady in question, that you could begin to check her boundaries and establish what these boundaries were. And indeed, those boundaries could change from visit to visit - no problem with that.

The thing is that when you met a lady with whom you clicked, you became a regular visitor of hers.

Now everything was not all light erotica and great encounters back in those days - but over time, you built up a number of regulars who suited your requirements.

Not having a "menu" of favourites, you had to "suck it and see" (to uncoin a phrase). A bit like real life - and all the better for that.

My fond memory is of various ladies who each had their own set of oral skills. No doubt the same skills are being deployed out there today - but, but, but.............

Nowadays, my impression is that too often the box is ticked (against the stopwatch).
There is a lot of "gobble, gobble, gobble" and "slurp, slurp, slurp" - a lot of effort being expended (and the box being ticked).

My roseate memory is of one lady who used to barely touch (tantalise) the lingham with her tongue, another who used an ice cube to exquisite effect, another who used to trickily use strands of her hair to tantalise the lingham as she moved around the general area, another whom I always mentally referred to as "Queen of the frenulum", and on and on and on.

These ladies knew that oral delights (both ways) are a delicacy of infinite variations - and not a generic exercise consisting of "gobble, gobble".

No doubt there are oral artistes out there today just as in the past - but, I don't seem to come across them.

I just wonder if the proliferation of porn today is a contributory factor. I am not a habitual user of porn - but from what I've come across, there appears to be a lot of "gobble, gobble".

Today, we have so many beautiful ladies coming our way, with so much information available to us. I just wonder if there is a generalised feeling that with such a wide range of favourites being available, that there is no need to make oral the exquisite experience it should be.

Also, with a lot of the ladies now being so mobile, there appears to be less opportunity to become a regular with all the advantages that brings.

Don't get me wrong. I would certainly not like to go back to the old days.

But I do get wistful for the oral delights of yesterday. No doubt, I will come across an oral artiste again - and when I do, I will get over my natural laziness and leave a review proclaiming her gifts.

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Originally Posted by Hardtoplease

For quite a while, I have wondered why I have not felt compelled to leave a review. Apart from the obvious reasons of laziness.

Nearly all of my encounters have been most pleasant and pleasurable. All the desired boxes have been ticked. But maybe, just maybe, it is because there is a large element of box ticking involved in encounters nowadays, that is at the root of what I see as a change over the years.

Because I am an aficionado of all things oral, it is in this area that I've noticed most change.

Way back, long before we had EI with its photographs, reviews and menus of favourites, we had to do with discreet ads - from which we had to deduce various cues and clues as to what may be on offer. The telephone call was given acute attention to see if it would offer more cues and clues.

Along the way, the In Dublin magazine ads began to offer more and more clues and cues.
But it was only when you actually met the lady in question, that you could begin to check her boundaries and establish what these boundaries were. And indeed, those boundaries could change from visit to visit - no problem with that.

The thing is that when you met a lady with whom you clicked, you became a regular visitor of hers.

Now everything was not all light erotica and great encounters back in those days - but over time, you built up a number of regulars who suited your requirements.

Not having a "menu" of favourites, you had to "suck it and see" (to uncoin a phrase). A bit like real life - and all the better for that.

My fond memory is of various ladies who each had their own set of oral skills. No doubt the same skills are being deployed out there today - but, but, but.............

Nowadays, my impression is that too often the box is ticked (against the stopwatch).
There is a lot of "gobble, gobble, gobble" and "slurp, slurp, slurp" - a lot of effort being expended (and the box being ticked).

My roseate memory is of one lady who used to barely touch (tantalise) the lingham with her tongue, another who used an ice cube to exquisite effect, another who used to trickily use strands of her hair to tantalise the lingham as she moved around the general area, another whom I always mentally referred to as "Queen of the frenulum", and on and on and on.

These ladies knew that oral delights (both ways) are a delicacy of infinite variations - and not a generic exercise consisting of "gobble, gobble".

No doubt there are oral artistes out there today just as in the past - but, I don't seem to come across them.

I just wonder if the proliferation of porn today is a contributory factor. I am not a habitual user of porn - but from what I've come across, there appears to be a lot of "gobble, gobble".

Today, we have so many beautiful ladies coming our way, with so much information available to us. I just wonder if there is a generalised feeling that with such a wide range of favourites being available, that there is no need to make oral the exquisite experience it should be.

Also, with a lot of the ladies now being so mobile, there appears to be less opportunity to become a regular with all the advantages that brings.

Don't get me wrong. I would certainly not like to go back to the old days.

But I do get wistful for the oral delights of yesterday. No doubt, I will come across an oral artiste again - and when I do, I will get over my natural laziness and leave a review proclaiming her gifts.

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You sound hard to please :wave:

'blowjobs were better in my day'

brilliant :D

I can understand what you're saying, there seems to be a 'sexual archetype' nowadays. It's like a process in this day and age; oral one way = oral the next = doggy = spoons = missionary = come shot. Don't forget that the current generations are living in the 'porn revolution', and unlike many of us here, have probably grown to believe that that is what sex normally consists of. The term coined is 'vanilla' sex.

In my opinion, as a result in that, people are pushing the boundaries and trying to cram as much as they can in a session, otherwise they feel sexually unfulfilled, even after ejaculation. This seems to be more apparent in the high number of reviews where people are repeatedly saying, 'a robotic service', 'nothing mind blowing' and the like. The other issue is that escorts are having to compete and became more diverse in their sexual prowess to capture clients, and it's a domino effect, as this results in escorts listing as much as they possibly can, so clients 'expect' those services to be available, disregarding the fact that in some situations, escorts might not be comfortable doing certain things with certain clients. This also encourages escorts that have no intention to provide said services at all, just listing everything to anchor their potential clients.

Another issue is that due to the recession, people are looking for 'value for money' (a term that I personally find distasteful), so, it means more people are looking for shorter bookings with as many services as possible, also in the hope that they will get to stay a little over the paid for time. There are more references lately that we have to remove for 'stayed well over my paid time' and 'not a clock watcher at all', as other clients expect the same treatment.

It seems that people just aren't taking the time to enjoy the encounters these days, it's just like an 'all you can eat' buffet; you pay a single rate and try to stuff as much in as possible. Perhaps this leads to a decline in 'quality' (again, a distasteful term), but I'm sure you catch my drift?

I stopped watching porn a long time ago, and it is healthier as I seem to get more aroused with my imagination rather than relying on the visual aspects. If you watch the Jason Gordon-Levitt film, 'Don Jon', you will see that the character's sex life is 'numbed' due to his habitual porn watching, and cannot even get off with a real woman without it (in real life, Gordon-Levitt is a self proclaimed feminist).

I agree that today's modern means really gives clients a lot more of a heads-up in terms of what to expect, but I'm afraid that prodigality and being spoiled for choice has skewed people's expectations, sadly.

Very well said samlad.

I think far to many clients have over indulged in porn and forget how to enjoy the "moments " with the escorts. To me the sensation of a caress and stroking, done correctly and teasingly can be more erotic than the slurp slurp of a blow job. And equally doing the same to an escort can have a rewarding impact. I feel most guys go to an escort with the view its grab and pull and forget its a real person they are with, not a commodity etc. A number of escorts have told me a lot of guys are rough and inconsiderate to the escorts feelings and and don't respect their (escorts) bodies. My advice treat the experience as an adventure, to explore and heighten your pleasure zones.

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Originally Posted by rubberlover

I think far to many clients have over indulged in porn and forget how to enjoy the "moments " with the escorts. To me the sensation of a caress and stroking, done correctly and teasingly can be more erotic than the slurp slurp of a blow job. And equally doing the same to an escort can have a rewarding impact. I feel most guys go to an escort with the view its grab and pull and forget its a real person they are with, not a commodity etc. A number of escorts have told me a lot of guys are rough and inconsiderate to the escorts feelings and and don't respect their (escorts) bodies. My advice treat the experience as an adventure, to explore and heighten your pleasure zones.

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^^^he knows!