OK, Used to see this girl for a while in a 'Friends with Benefits' capacity for about a year and I broke it off because she was starting to get serious, Don't get me wrong she is a stunning girl with an amazing body and the sex was amazing, I just did not want a relationship and I made that clear from the start.
We have always remained friends and last night she offered to reignite the 'Friends with Benefits' clause and as yet I have not responded because I am afraid it would ruin the friendship that we have and I still don't want to be in a relationship.
So my question is should I go for it and risk it or back away politely and hang on o the friendship ???
Any and all comments welcome ????
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In a Dilemma and need advice
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23-06-11, 01:43comicbookguyIn a Dilemma and need advice
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23-06-11, 06:39doodlebugTwo thoughts, you have already gone past the friends with benefits if she had begun to feel serious, although you backed off. She remained friends because that was all that was on offer, and something is better than nothing. Although she has suggested reigniting the clause I doubt she has lost the feelings she had for you and in the back of her head hopes it will get serious.Quote:
Originally Posted by comicbookguy
There is a theory that man and woman cannot be just friends that one or both always wants more.
If you want to keep her as a good friend don't go there with the clause, explain that her friendship means more to you than the benefits.
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23-06-11, 07:53ForrestThere is a saying: 'Don't look a gift horse in the mouth'.Quote:
Originally Posted by comicbookguy
There is a stunning lady friend who wants to have a sexual relationship with you, one that you have previously enjoyed. As long as you again make it clear that it is purely that, 'Friends with benefits', I don't see a problem. Declining the offer may have an effect on your friendship too.
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23-06-11, 07:58oneeyedreilly
By the sound of things, there's only one person going to be hurt here and one way or the other, I think you need to sit down with this young lady and explain why you don't want to be in a relationship. It won't stop her from wanting one but might help her in some way. Having said that, it's either friend or girlfriend, there's nothing in between in my experience.
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23-06-11, 08:15TomEAI personally think friends with benfits is one of the best things to have, get it over and done with, leave, and nothings changed when you see them next, although if you dont want to get serious with the girls and you actually consider her a friend i wouldnt go down that road again if i was you, she got too serious last time and someone will probably end up getting hurt if it happens again.Quote:
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Stay with being just friends, see how it goes, you never know somewhere down the line you might actually wanna get serious with her -
23-06-11, 08:31Eugen
There's no right answer here. Either way you both win or loose.
The only important thing is be honest with her and yourself.
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23-06-11, 08:44tuam shamI sense that you are fighting off feelings too for her! You say she's stunning and ye get on great maybe your unwilliness to commit is the real reason your concerned about reignigting your friends with benefits clause...Quote:
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Why not give the relationship a go she could be your sole mate -
23-06-11, 09:12English NinaNow their is great ADVICE !!!! HONESTY !!! Something some people don't know how to put in place !!Quote:
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23-06-11, 09:15English NinaQuote:
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This is another fair point!!
I hope your taking this all in Young Boy !!!
Whatever you decide make sure it suit's you and your feeling's and more importantly be TRUE to yourself ad think careful before you Proceed......
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23-06-11, 09:17davedrave
lovers come and go but a true friend is for life,if it ends in tears you could ruin your friendship forever.......................just have a good think about it
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23-06-11, 13:40lovethegirlsNo no no. Dont do it trust me no no no.Quote:
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23-06-11, 13:45skywalker85
GO 4 IT, if ya dont you will never no if it would have worked out or not, and if it doesnt then it was never ment to be.
But ofcourse do what you feel is best 4 you, lifes all about taking chances :D
Right jus nticed you dont want to be in a R.ship just yet, well then you hav answered that already yourself Remain Friends and if anything develops well then let it take its own course :)
another things is if you see her walking down the street with another man, dont get jealous as you had your chance and didnt take it,
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23-06-11, 13:53WD-40
its hardly a dilemma,
last thread i read the guy was felling sorry for himself cos he punts too much and spent 1600 euro in a day or sumtim...............i say, fuck it mate your rich.
now your confused bcos your friend wit the amazing body wants to fuck you...........
may all our problems be little ones eh -
23-06-11, 16:11comicbookguy
Thanks ALL :)
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23-06-11, 16:16mathsteacher
what age is this girl?
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23-06-11, 16:20comicbookguyShe is 35 and I am 37, i just want to be certain of what I want before speaking to her.Quote:
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23-06-11, 16:23NaughyYanna
oh mathsteacher, will u do the talk talk or just talk talk?
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23-06-11, 20:06mathsteacher
35 nice, yeah mate take your time dont rush in, and send me on her number
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23-06-11, 20:07comicbookguy999 or 1-800 you wish ;)Quote:
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23-06-11, 20:07mathsteacher
i think u have got wrong end of stick here anna, naughty anna!
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23-06-11, 20:08mathsteacher
is she copper? ah this just gets better
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23-06-11, 21:53skywalker85I love a girl in uniform :pQuote:
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http://www.coolbuddy.com/gallery_pic...exy-police.jpg -
23-06-11, 21:57comicbookguy
Not a cop but i'm sure she would don a uniform if asked, She is game for anything and very liberal sexually :D
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23-06-11, 22:00skywalker85Sounds great F**k it get in there, no 2nd thoughts :DQuote:
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23-06-11, 22:08comicbookguyTrust me she is, but I want to keep her as a friend too.Quote:
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Aaaaarrrrrrgggggghhhhhhhhhh, I don't know what to do :shrug::sad::scratchchin::thinking: -
23-06-11, 22:14BruceAlmighty
Me likey role-playing....
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23-06-11, 22:22ForrestSpeak to her. Explain the thoughts and feelings you have expressed here. You have been 'fuck buddies' before and survived so why can't you be 'fuck buddies' again as long as you are honest and upfront with her.Quote:
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23-06-11, 22:31comicbookguyThats how we got together the first time and after about 8 months she wanted more out of it so we stopped th benifits bit and remained friends, I'm afraid the friendship my not survive a second round :(Quote:
Originally Posted by Forrest