Respect???????

Before anyone starts i am not a troll and i am not trying to stir up trouble im just looking for ordinary decent opinions.
I am a happily married man to a wonderful woman and enjoy a good sex life with my wife. I frequent escorts occasionaly just to have something different a bit of variety if you like.
The question i am asking for your opinions on is i suppose is it fair to her am i demeaning my marriage and my love for her.
i do know that i love her very much and i suppose if it was the other way around i know it would destroy me if she was cheating on me regularly.
What are your opinions sorry to break anybodys mood but id love some opinions and thoughts on this from both punters and escorts

And the guilt kicks in like a big old mule being attacked by a wild dog !!!

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Originally Posted by n73

And the guilt kicks in like a big old mule being attacked by a wild dog !!!

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Its not really a case of guilt mate its just the aspect of the reason behind doing it that i cant figure out

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Originally Posted by johnycash26

Its not really a case of guilt mate its just the aspect of the reason behind doing it that i cant figure out

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Quite simple mate,
1) variety is the spice etc. etc.
2) you have testicles !

Married a long time , punting a long time, always looked on it as a bit of fun with beautiful women .
Never cossed my mind as cheating .If that's what it has become to you time to take a break .: doc

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Originally Posted by dr love

Married a long time , punting a long time, always looked on it as a bit of fun with beautiful women .
Never cossed my mind as cheating .If that's what it has become to you time to take a break .: doc

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Thats a very good statement and thank you very much for your reply it sums up a littlt how i feel and i dont think i need to take that break lol

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Originally Posted by johnycash26

Thats a very good statement and thank you very much for your reply it sums up a littlt how i feel and i dont think i need to take that break lol

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Fair play , you are probably wondering with the good sex life at home why you see escorts ,we are but simple men , when you start to bring the guilt home with you ,well that is entirely different .: doc

I don't know what percentages of guys on here are married, but I'd guess in the majority, but it is a fair point, and one which I think was covered well by another poster a few days ago in this thread: https://www.escort-ireland.com/board...t=63956&page=2

"i love my wife more than anything else on this planet,i never met anyone as kind hearted or good looking and i do feel guilty the very very odd time i meet an escort but the way i see it,if my wife cant deep throat and wont take it up the ass,or even let me cum inside her mouth. . -I mean we only live life once and its something i just have to get out of my system every once in a while. . . In every other way possible i treat her as best i can. I have a fault and no ones perfect?

The answer to your question is yes, it does demean a marriage, breaks the contract that you both entered into (presuming you both claim to be monogamous). Does it diminish your love, no I feel the emotional connection that I have with my wife as a result of our combined experiences with each other do not diminish because I like to have random girls give me blowjobs.

But good topic and I think it's interesting to see what reaction comes to the post.

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Originally Posted by johnycash26

Before anyone starts i am not a troll and i am not trying to stir up trouble im just looking for ordinary decent opinions.
I am a happily married man to a wonderful woman and enjoy a good sex life with my wife. I frequent escorts occasionaly just to have something different a bit of variety if you like.
The question i am asking for your opinions on is i suppose is it fair to her am i demeaning my marriage and my love for her.
i do know that i love her very much and i suppose if it was the other way around i know it would destroy me if she was cheating on me regularly.
What are your opinions sorry to break anybodys mood but id love some opinions and thoughts on this from both punters and escorts

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Whatever way we try to look at it, it is cheating. I have said it before, and I'm not being critical of them, but I cannot understand those guys that visit escorts when they have a good sexual relationship at home.
I only started visiting escorts several years after my home sex life disappeared and I would stop if things changed at home, but that is highly unlikely. Either way, it is demeaning to the marriage, and my love has dissipated over time, but it has kept me sane.

Im not judging a married man seeing escorts but its is ridicules to say that it is not cheating, if u are married and seeing escorts u could at least man up instead of giving some half hearted excuse that the women u actually love is ur wife and escorts are just for sex.

You are not technically cheating. Cheating would involve forming a new relationship and forming emotional bonds, which can lead to the breaking up of your marriage. Visiting an escort for an hours of fun and returning home to your wife a happier and better husband is over all a good thing for everyone. I personally am in a relationship-well three to be exact-and I can tell you I as a woman like the variety of dealing with different personalities. But I am not a typical female. :)

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Originally Posted by Violette

You are not technically cheating. Cheating would involve forming a new relationship and forming emotional bonds, which can lead to the breaking up of your marriage. Visiting an escort for an hours of fun and returning home to your wife a happier and better husband is over all a good thing for everyone. I personally am in a relationship-well three to be exact-and I can tell you I as a woman like the variety of dealing with different personalities. But I am not a typical female. :)

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meeting an escort can obviously cause a break up in a marriage, hence the cheating part....going out getting drunk and sleeping with a women is also cheating. there doesnt have to be an emotional bond to consitute it as cheating.

Well ask yourself this, if you didnt frequent escorts would you still have a happy marriage???? everybody's different. You have to work with what works for you and not worry about what the general consensus is! Treat your wife well and I wish you happiness.

Okay lets try some options here in terms of defining cheating.
1: beat the meat on your own.
2: pay someone [male or female] to beat it for you -/+ a massage but no carnal/kissing/etc etc
3: pay someone to shove a toy where the sun dont shine and u do the beating
4: pay to go to a peep show shop and beat the meat while watching some porno movies.

After all the payment is for their company, and any meat beating is ancillary:)

Cheating in this context is a moral issue and the interpretation seems to dwell on whether it involves horizontal jogging in some shape or form.

Is getting a rub down with a happy ending cheating?

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Originally Posted by euroirish

Okay lets try some options here in terms of defining cheating.
1: beat the meat on your own.
2: pay someone [male or female] to beat it for you -/+ a massage but no carnal/kissing/etc etc
3: pay someone to shove a toy where the sun dont shine and u do the beating
4: pay to go to a peep show shop and beat the meat while watching some porno movies.

After all the payment is for their company, and any meat beating is ancillary:)

Cheating in this context is a moral issue and the interpretation seems to dwell on whether it involves horizontal jogging in some shape or form.

Is getting a rub down with a happy ending cheating?

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you're talking rubbish pal.....

I'm not in a position to preach one way or the other as I'm not in a relationship. I think you half answered your own question when you state that you would be destroyed if your partner was doing it. Double standards ?

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Originally Posted by johnycash26

Before anyone starts i am not a troll and i am not trying to stir up trouble im just looking for ordinary decent opinions.
I am a happily married man to a wonderful woman and enjoy a good sex life with my wife. I frequent escorts occasionaly just to have something different a bit of variety if you like.
The question i am asking for your opinions on is i suppose is it fair to her am i demeaning my marriage and my love for her.
i do know that i love her very much and i suppose if it was the other way around i know it would destroy me if she was cheating on me regularly.
What are your opinions sorry to break anybodys mood but id love some opinions and thoughts on this from both punters and escorts

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It has always struck me that men and women are so incompatible sexually! Our sexual responses are different. Our need for sex over time is also different. A man's sex drive pretty much stays throughout life whereas a woman's diminishes over time (especially after the menopause).

I'm not saying this to justify cheating, merely to try to make sense of why it is so much more common for men to visit escorts than for women to do the same.

The adage " Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" is probably truer than we know!

I would like to think that I'd give up seeing escorts if I ever got married. However, I'm realisitic enough to know that it will be very hard to stop no matter how dedicated a spouse I may be.

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Originally Posted by Morpheus

It has always struck me that men and women are so incompatible sexually! Our sexual responses are different. Our need for sex over time is also different. A man's sex drive pretty much stays throughout life whereas a woman's diminishes over time (especially after the menopause).

I'm not saying this to justify cheating, merely to try to make sense of why it is so much more common for men to visit escorts than for women to do the same.

The adage " Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" is probably truer than we know!

I would like to think that I'd give up seeing escorts if I ever got married. However, I'm realisitic enough to know that it will be very hard to stop no matter how dedicated a spouse I may be.

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This is what i also believe i dont think i can give up the variety.

My one weakness and bad habit is beautiful women and i just love beautiful women

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Originally Posted by dr love

Married a long time , punting a long time, always looked on it as a bit of fun with beautiful women .
Never cossed my mind as cheating .If that's what it has become to you time to take a break .: doc

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interesting reasoning doc :)
what is it then if not cheating?!! would you call it cheating if your wife was seeing male escorts?!

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Originally Posted by Violette

You are not technically cheating. Cheating would involve forming a new relationship and forming emotional bonds, which can lead to the breaking up of your marriage. Visiting an escort for an hours of fun and returning home to your wife a happier and better husband is over all a good thing for everyone. I personally am in a relationship-well three to be exact-and I can tell you I as a woman like the variety of dealing with different personalities. But I am not a typical female. :)

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you said it
and thank christ for that!!

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Originally Posted by Violette

You are not technically cheating. Cheating would involve forming a new relationship and forming emotional bonds, which can lead to the breaking up of your marriage. Visiting an escort for an hours of fun and returning home to your wife a happier and better husband is over all a good thing for everyone. I personally am in a relationship-well three to be exact-and I can tell you I as a woman like the variety of dealing with different personalities. But I am not a typical female. :)

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Viollete that really is rubbish!!

If you are in a committed relationship or married and you have sex with another woman other than your partner without their knowledge or consent...It is cheating!!! Full stop!!! It's not up for debate..it can't be argued..It is...What it is!!!

Swinging on the other hand is different as it is mutual and consenting...both are there and getting sexual pleasure with the knowledge and consent of their partner!!!

Me..I'm single so I don't have to worry about this, also... I can honestly say I have never cheated!!!

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Originally Posted by TheCelticDream

Im not judging a married man seeing escorts but its is ridicules to say that it is not cheating, if u are married and seeing escorts u could at least man up instead of giving some half hearted excuse that the women u actually love is ur wife and escorts are just for sex.

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+1

I think it's better than the other option, leaving your wife for another woman.

I'm single (22 years old) and never seen an escort before so I'm a bit jealous tbh :o

:lmao:

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Originally Posted by akasomeoneelse

+1

I think it's better than the other option, leaving your wife for another woman.

I'm single (22 years old) and never seen an escort before so I'm a bit jealous tbh :o

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How come AKA? Just curious... I'm sure you have good reason..

Go enjoy yourself, your young and single...go for it I say!!! :)

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Originally Posted by kidkool

How come AKA? Just curious... I'm sure you have good reason..

Go enjoy yourself, your young and single...go for it I say!!! :)

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I will, the biggest problem is who do I go for? So many to choose from and so little money :)

Such a quandary... at what point do the decisions made by the little head undermine the commitments that you've made with your heart and the big head?

It's ultimately your own decision where you're going to delineate between the black and white... and how subtle your shades of grey are going to be.

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Originally Posted by akasomeoneelse

I will, the biggest problem is who do I go for? So many to choose from and so little money :)

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thats reality for most of us man!

My stance is if you engage in sexual relations with someone other than your partner it is cheating. Unless however your partner is fine with it- then it is an open relationship.

The morals I won't go into to deeply as it is long and complicated but the simplest way I can put my opinion is this.
If your partner found out what you were doing would it upset them? If yes then what you are doing is not very nice. But if it is going to happen I think it is better to go and have a casual meeting with an escort where discretion is normally assured than indulge in a full blown emotional affair. As cynical as this sounds- men are men. The majority of them cheat. And so do women!

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Originally Posted by kelso

thats reality for most of us man!

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I suppose it would be worse if ye had money and nobody to see lol.

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Originally Posted by johnycash26

Before anyone starts i am not a troll and i am not trying to stir up trouble im just looking for ordinary decent opinions.
I am a happily married man to a wonderful woman and enjoy a good sex life with my wife. I frequent escorts occasionaly just to have something different a bit of variety if you like.
The question i am asking for your opinions on is i suppose is it fair to her am i demeaning my marriage and my love for her.
i do know that i love her very much and i suppose if it was the other way around i know it would destroy me if she was cheating on me regularly.
What are your opinions sorry to break anybodys mood but id love some opinions and thoughts on this from both punters and escorts

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Wow, this stuff never ceases to amaze me. Why in the name of God get married if you are still going to want to have loads of casual sex. Why bother getting married??? Why not live the free and single life and when you are tired of that THEN get married.

You are betraying your wifes trust. I don't doubt that you love and worship her but come on.

I'm single I am hurting no one and so in this instance I do get to be a little bit judgemental. The predominant reason for this is because of the amount of patronising condescension I get from a lot of married blokes I know because I am single.

Yeah I'm single but I ain't a hypocrite.

That being said, I havent walked in anyone else's shoes so believe me when I say I am not judging too harshly. I do have large amounts of respect for most folks.

Thank funk I am not in a relationship. Meet all the escorts I can guilt free.:)

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Originally Posted by EbonyAmber

My stance is if you engage in sexual relations with someone other than your partner it is cheating. Unless however your partner is fine with it- then it is an open relationship.

The morals I won't go into to deeply as it is long and complicated but the simplest way I can put my opinion is this.
If your partner found out what you were doing would it upset them? If yes then what you are doing is not very nice. But if it is going to happen I think it is better to go and have a casual meeting with an escort where discretion is normally assured than indulge in a full blown emotional affair. As cynical as this sounds- men are men. The majority of them cheat. And so do women!

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theres a lot of sense in this amber, a lot of sense

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Originally Posted by EbonyAmber

My stance is if you engage in sexual relations with someone other than your partner it is cheating. Unless however your partner is fine with it- then it is an open relationship.

The morals I won't go into to deeply as it is long and complicated but the simplest way I can put my opinion is this.
If your partner found out what you were doing would it upset them? If yes then what you are doing is not very nice. But if it is going to happen I think it is better to go and have a casual meeting with an escort where discretion is normally assured than indulge in a full blown emotional affair. As cynical as this sounds- men are men. The majority of them cheat. And so do women!

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when i started reading i thought i might be a fence sitter on this..lol, good post.

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Originally Posted by TheCelticDream

i thought i might be a fence sitter

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Whatever turns you on, bud, we're not here to judge :)

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Originally Posted by Headlad

Whatever turns you on, bud, we're not here to judge :)

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thats funny..ur mum said the exact same thing about you, she doesnt juge u at all. although im not sure if that is defo what she said or if she was talking to me.... you see, her mouth was full at the time and i wasnt the only one in the room.

Oh, 'your mum' jokes. How quaint.

:rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

of course it's cheating.
Would she be happy if she found out? or would everything she believed marriage and love to be get shattered?
stop cheating on her with escorts.