Afternoon all.
Was thinking about this, this morning. Has anyone unintentionally got emotionally involved with and escort or an escort with a client?
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Afternoon all.
Was thinking about this, this morning. Has anyone unintentionally got emotionally involved with and escort or an escort with a client?
lol. could of been worse though, he could of lost his knob in 'nam :p
seriously though has this ever happened to anyone?
I was just thinking as I have meet some escorts who I've got on with quite well and I was thinking about escorts with regular clients and how easy it could be for them to unintentially become emotionally involved.
Just thinking there could be interesting stories in this with happy and disasterous endings. If some of you are willing to divulge a story; obviously without using names or telling private personal info.
Actually I know of such a case with a happy ending (they got married).
Even though my policy is - Never have, never will
it's difficult to keep emotions out of such an intimate and humane thing.
unless youre a robot.
i'd be shocked if anyone said they didnt feel anything when they were with an escort.
Sorry, I enjoy every minute I spend with the ladies I meet, I am very fond of a lot of them but emotionally attached is a very strong word; especially when trying to achive such a thing in a few brief encounters!!
I agree you feel a connection within the moment, but I mean something beyond that.
You could have a very enjoyable one night stand with someone and see them with someone else and it not bother you; but I feel being emotionally involved is something else. Thinking about that person alot being the 1st sign.
But with a regular client, the client and escort are having regular interactions and I don't think it's implausible that the fondness between them starts to mean more to one or both parties involved. Seems quite common going by the poll. I'm not necessarily meaning love but fancy, wanting to date them.
just a thought, want if an escort hates the sight of a client,but, needs the incomes, now that must also happen.
I really only see the same girls now and it can be nice to go on a date etc... But I always keep this in the back of my mind. This is her job and you are a punter. After she spends this special time with you she starts all over again with the next guy. Some girls are soo good at their job that they can make you think that you ARE the special one. Yeah right. She doesn't kiss the other guys like that, just you. Yeah Right again. Nobody else has my private number just you. Yeah right again.
Now I dont want to seem totally negative here, maybe you have found a girl that is really into you, but usually this rarely happens. Best of luck anyway but proceed with caution.
Seeeeeerious caution.
I'm not saying this is a situation with me, just curious about the subject; and I'm asking both ways. Are there any escorts on here that have fell for there clients?
edited bit: The first half of that is how I view the situation in personal experience. Sometimes you can't help but like the girl; I'm not saying emotionally involved in my case but it is what sparked the thought that someone could feel a lot stronger especially if they are seeing regularly
Interesting results in the poll so far,almost 50/50,best for both client and escort to treat it solely as a business transaction,while some fondness might occur for either side,for me personally there has never been that spark(chemistry)that happens in private life,admittedly also very rare,only a couple of times in fifteen/twenty years.
I dated an escort once ,everything was great at the begining,then we had our first row over owo,she didnt like it,I said but its on your favourites,things got from bad to worse when she had her headaches,and I would submit a negative review,in the end I didnt recognise her anymore she had photoshopped her pics
i did once happened so fast that i fell of my feet, went to see an escort monday, she took a shine to me, tuesday we txt each other all day and wednesday night we went out and had a brilliant night together and it went from there, but now i look back and think fuck i was trying to live a dream, every mans dream to try and date a beautiful but fantastic escort, i had enjoyed it when it was happening, but it got complecated and it turned out bad, and i lost not a beautiful lady but a good friend as well, so these days i just go do what i have to do and leave its easier!
non of these comments pro and con, suprise me, think about, you conduit one the most private human bonding actions, and believe no one comes out of it with no emotional links, please, gentlemen, why the act in it`s slef was in the wild rebuild the race, we have taken it to new level ,but, we are what we are human, for good or bad, we do feellllllllllllllllllll
sorry to hear that you lost a good friend man, i admire your honesty in the above quote, i got very personal with one escort we used to ring and text each other every day and had some great times together, i really enjoyed her company and we got on well too in fairness it was never going anywhere so in the end it just frizzeled out and we went our separate ways and no real harm was done, we still send the odd text and email now and again, but i often think if things had stayed going the way they were would we of fell for each other or would we of both got badly hurt
escorts meet with men they don't want to sleep with/don't have any connection with/don't like all the time!
it's all part of the job. it's the trying to overcome this feeling of NOT wanting to sleep with them and go through with it, is when it becomes unhealthy for the escort. which is what happened to me, which is why i don't do it anymore. I still find the whole business absolutely interesting though.
there was one client that i definitely had a huge atttraction to, and wouldnt have said no if he wanted to see me again separate to escorting, but i dont think he saw me in that way. And there was one client who was unwashed, totally rude and treated me like shit, tried to have anal repeatedly while i kept saying no, practically choked me with his cock while he watched football on tv. and i STILL had to sleep with him. shudder, that was bad, and that was when i decided to quit.
It's so nice to meet so many lovely people, some really really nice men, but it isnt worth it for me when i felt myself being degraded like that.
Anyway sorry bit of a ramble there,
all in all, i'd say it's pretty dangerous territory, but it's a difficult one because as someone said, it is such a bonding experience. The body releases a hormone called oxytocin, which is also present in breastmilk, which is a bonding hormone, and thats what causes that after sex glowy feeling, and the desire to cuddle in females.
so there, bit of science for you.
sorry for going off topic.
Come one, all this "intimate bonding" talk is twaddle. Both sexes are quite capable of having sex with someone and not getting emotionally involved. I put it to you that the vast majority of escorts and regular punters are those types of people.
i am quite stunned at the resulte of this poll - the idea of me becoming emotionally attached to an escort based on one or two meetings is nigh on impossible - based on my life to date that is
to be honest - and forgive me, serious, for a moment- i am generally most surprised at how quickly and how often couples become 'attached'- i think i am something an emotional black hole
i sometimes envy such passion in others but more often thn not am most happy that i am the way i am
different strokes etc etc
There was one lady i couldn't get out of my mind for a while afterwards. And then it passed. I wouldn't call it emotionally attached - she just pressed the right buttons.
I used to fall in love ten times a day.... and then, sadly, I grew up!