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I have a friend with a disability by all means a nice guy keeps himself well, he has had trouble with escorts turning him down all the time as soon as he mentions 'disability' all the time with non national escorts, its fine its up to a girl if she dont want to take a booking but this is a widespread problem I know because I rang on his behalf several times, its certainly as I saw not a language barrier thing as it was the same thing u were understood until u mentioned 'disability' then the escorts say 'they dont understand', an escort can see who she wants if she wants but the escorting scene in general is certainly discriminatory towards disabled people
saoirsemac
26-03-12, 18:30
the thing with seeing clients with a disabilty is most require outcall to there homes, and there is nasty people out there who have used this to get an escort to call out,
i never have an issue with a client with a disabilty, i do ask what is the level and maybe what it is,
as i like to look it before the booking, so i know whats ahead of me,
I think u are wrong to said that some girls do not have a problem with disability but in many cases planning the appointment with location (apartment, stair, hallway, discretion) can be little headache to deal with.
I dublin long ago i saw 1 disable client, i only saw he was in heel chair when i saw him from my window, i was staying at the time in flat with stairs to 2nd floor in very small building i had to get changed put my jean take off my make up and go down stair to fold his chair and bring it up into to the flat and when he finish same going back again with the chair, i think it is more the inconvenience more than we dont like.
Some of escorts as myself are very paranoid about discretion if the flat is not adequate and will attract look i will simply avoid the client. Not because i dont want them but simply for the inconvenience in many time he may cause, if many buidling or walking way were more disable friendly it will make the appointment more easier for girl to take them
I have a friend with a disability by all means a nice guy keeps himself well, he has had trouble with escorts turning him down all the time as soon as he mentions 'disability' all the time with non national escorts, its fine its up to a girl if she dont want to take a booking but this is a widespread problem I know because I rang on his behalf several times, its certainly as I saw not a language barrier thing as it was the same thing u were understood until u mentioned 'disability' then the escorts say 'they dont understand', an escort can see who she wants if she wants but the escorting scene in general is certainly discriminatory towards disabled people
I'm glad I'm not alone then. I don't see people in wheelchair. Most of them had difficulty to accept it, which adds to the reasons I don't see them.
I'm glad there are escorts who can stomach it just as I once was able to. It's just not worth it to be making this job even more complicated for yourself.
Luckily we have the little tickbox in the escorts profiles, that makes it obvious wether the escort does or doesnt see disabled clients, so I would guess this thread isn't neccesary?
Sounds like your friend has a case to bring to the Equality Tribunal, under the Equal Status Act. Form ES.1 should do the trick...oh, wait. Nevermind.
Most of them had difficulty to accept it, which adds to the reasons I don't see them.
I'm glad there are escorts who can stomach it just as I once was able to.
All I can say to you Anna is you never know what’s around the corner, and I hope for your sake nothing ever happens to you or someone in your family that would result in you or them becoming disabled in some way as you sound as if you really couldn’t “stomach” them. :(
Wow, something hit a nerve with someone, somewhere, then.
Julius Caesar
27-03-12, 08:30
I have a family member with disabilitys and I know he finds it very difficult to get girls so he travels to foreign shots to get laid I witnessed his rejection from girls on many occasions and the poor fella gets heart broken. Now to the point that was made I can see the point of view from the escorts not going on out calls to see people with disabilitys as they can't tell if the guy is genuine cos 6 out of 10 callers are liars and timewasters so it's a judgment call
It's also possible that one or two disabled clients have given the others a bad name. I seem to remember some issues a while back.
It's also possible that one or two disabled clients have given the others a bad name. I seem to remember some issues a while back.
I do think that this is a pretty pointless statement. People generally give others a bad name. Most of us here are behind a keyboard and able enough to type and pass comment regardless of a disability are we not?
I'm glad I'm not alone then. I don't see people in wheelchair. Most of them had difficulty to accept it, which adds to the reasons I don't see them.
I'm glad there are escorts who can stomach it just as I once was able to. It's just not worth it to be making this job even more complicated for yourself.
Luckily we have the little tickbox in the escorts profiles, that makes it obvious wether the escort does or doesnt see disabled clients, so I would guess this thread isn't neccesary?
this is my first time logging in since I started this thread lastnite I am shocked at your attitude but moreso the ignorance of your post, how u wish to label people with disabilities paint them all with the same brush, people can acquire a disability through accident or ill health too so I hope that never happens u because not only will u not be able to accept it but society will not be able to accept u..disabled people have tried throughout the years to gain a more equal and inclusive society for themselves and have come such a long way with independent living in the community and much improved access Thanks be to God your attitude is very much in the minority
I've no doubt John Rambo can confirm all that I have stated here with respect to disabled people now living in an inclusive society
Julius Caesar
27-03-12, 10:53
this is my first time logging in since I started this thread lastnite I am shocked at your attitude but moreso the ignorance of your post, how u wish to label people with disabilities paint them all with the same brush, people can acquire a disability through accident or ill health too so I hope that never happens u because not only will u not be able to accept it but society will not be able to accept u..disabled people have tried throughout the years to gain a more equal and inclusive society for themselves and have come such a long way with independent living in the community and much improved access Thanks be to God your attitude is very much in the minority
I've no doubt John Rambo can confirm all that I have stated here with respect to disabled people now living in an inclusive society
Hey bro I think your being a bit harsh I'm not disabled so I can't say how they would feel about her statement but it's her choice and if she finds it difficult it's up to her cos as we all know escouts have a hard enough time as it is with a lot of clients. I'm not saying she's right and I'm not standing up for her either but sometimes you can post something and it can be taken up wrong.
Curvaceous Kate
27-03-12, 11:40
I will admit that when I have advertised on here, I have clicked on the 'do not see disabled' button. This is purely because I'm working in a place with very limited resources and I don't know the area very well. I can't give advice and I don't know if I'm going to be in a disabled friendly environment. However, back in England with my own apartment I know what I have at my disposal, so I can be more flexible.
I'm not trying to defend anyone here, but please also consider, that many disabled people have qualified carers, who know how to look after their needs and how to respond to them respectfully and without embarrasment. Of course if the disability is low key and easy for them to manage it is not a problem, but this is not always the case, so I think rather than saying 'I'm disabled' it is better to say what the disability is and how it might impact on the booking and allow the Escort to decide if this is something she is comfortable with.
With regards to discretion, this is also a valid reason. I have met one young chap a few times at his own place and it was fine, although his hygiene was not that great, as he had problems cleaning himself. I did ask him to clean again, but he again didn't do a good job, so I used a wet wipe. That I can cope with, but when he came to mine on one occasion, he parked his car erratically in the private car parking area, so I had to ask him to park it again and he had mobility problems and I was 2 flights up, with no lift. Needless to say it did not go unnoticed by the neighbours.
He was actually a lovely young chap, who was unfortunate and had suffered a heart attack and I didn't want to stop seeing him, but I had to say that I couldn't see him at mine again.
With reference to your introduction Skeletor, I personally would not take a booking third hand from anybody. I would have asked you to get him to ring me himself, because communication is vital and if your friend was not able to communicate with me, how do I know he will understand me if I have to ask him to stop doing something?
I'm afraid nothing is black and white with regards to disability. I know some ladies that Escort who have been nurses in a previous life and they may feel more confident with some disabilities that I wouldn't, but in some cases it is also a matter of considering the safety of the disabled person as well, so not always that they just can't be bothered or think it's not nice etc.
I do think that this is a pretty pointless statement. People generally give others a bad name. Most of us here are behind a keyboard and able enough to type and pass comment regardless of a disability are we not?
I don't think it's a pointless statement. I was alluding to particular cases a couple of years back. If an escort remembers those and doesn't have the phone numbers of the individuals involved then she might wonder if the person calling her is one of them, and decide not to take the risk.
Sexy_Jessica
27-03-12, 13:47
I hope for your sake nothing ever happens to you or someone in your family that would result in you or them becoming disabled in some way as you sound as if you really couldn’t “stomach” them. :(
totally agree, to be disabled can happen to anyone, had some small carcrashes in the pastens, just stupid aquaplaning, though i will die or end on the wheelchair, My car just turned on the road a few times, but nothing happened to me (was my fault as i love to drive fast), before i buyed my apartment, i looked also on such things like if this has an disabled acces for the wheelchair persons, if lift is big enough to entry with wheelchair etc. It sounds maybe paranoid from me, but you never know what can happend to you.
Respect yourself and eachother, every girl has the right to decided to see who she wants, but dont´s insult them or hate them we all are human.
Curvaceous Kate
27-03-12, 13:53
totally agree, to be disabled can happen to anyone, had some small carcrashes in the pastens, just stupid aquaplaning, though i will die or end on the wheelchair, My car just turned on the road a few times, but nothing happened to me (was my fault as i love to drive fast), before i buyed my apartment, i looked also on such things like if this has an disabled acces for the wheelchair persons, if lift is big enough to entry with wheelchair etc. It sounds maybe paranoid from me, but you never know what can happend to you.
Respect yourself and eachother, every girl has the right to decided to see who she wants,but dont´s insult them or hate them we all are human.
I totally agree with this Jessica and you wrote an excellent post.
Apologies if I added to the generalision the OP made. It was nt meant as an insult. I just tried to show that even escorts can take only so much.
I have nothing extra against people in wheelchair compared to what I feel against all other people. I just don't want to have sex with them unless I find the particular person attractive. So I have made a decision not to escort people in wheelchair.
For the vast majority of clients it is of paramount importance, that I am ok doing what I do with them. Unfortunately the reactions of this minority has proven the opposite. They would rather if I forced meself into servicing them regardless of my feelings, because that is the right thing to do.
Well, dear ones, this is sex we are selling here and I dont want to end up disgruntled like some DCG, so I wont be forcing myself into having it with anyone, even if I'm getting paid for it.
I'm not the one being judgemental here. Maybe you'd see more honesty around here if you could try to be at least bit more openminded.
It's ridiculous to suggest that someone should be compelled to do something they're not comfortable with. Naturally I was the first to mention the Equal Status Act (which applies to discrimination in the sale of goods and services), but quite frankly I find some of it quite draconian and anathema to common sense. Even if as Eileen went onto mention, if full scale legalisation and regulation occurred, we're talking about human beings here, and they must have some choice in who they get intimate with, even if they're doing it for money.
experiencedguy
28-03-12, 11:54
I'm not the one being judgemental here. Maybe you'd see more honesty around here if you could try to be at least bit more openminded.
Agreed. People make judgements all the time. Take the assumption that you were a lesser person for not seeing disabled clients. Would those clients go to see a traveler woman, even a disabled escort? Would they make the same assumption about themselves just because of a lack of attraction?
Then, if we follow that train of thought and expect an escort to see everybody that rings them..... well, there's another name for that kind of escort and it usually involves a third party who's making money off their back.
In short, it's a service industry, and you can be refused service. Get over it, go somewhere else, and check the profiles.
FYI, I have disabled friends and nearly ended up that way myself.
MatureEbonyPru38F
12-04-12, 05:06
Actually, there are wheelchair users who are quite fit - http://www.ukscreen.com/cast/lhamill is a case in point. Very dishy. I would. NOTE: He was not born disabled. And that is the situation with many men I have met. Illness, a car crash, an accident at work. Everything changed in a flash. The need to suddenly make your 3 bedroom semi accessible. And discover all over again how to date, how to make love.
But on a serious note, don't give escorts a hard time over our right to see or refuse a client, as long as she makes her final decision with grace and good manners. Be thankful if a lady says she doesn't want to see you, she hasn't just said, sure, come on over, I'll astral travel while you're with me and distance myself from the experience because only the money is important to me. The same with escorts that won't see clients from certain ethnic backgrounds, etc.
Every one that says no to you has spared you an experience even more negative than rejection over the phone.
Wheelchair access isn't just about lifts and stairs either. I know the apartment I shall be using in Maynooth is reasonably wheel chair friendly and one of the rooms more so than the other. But the bathroom is standard and I don't travel with a urinal pot, so if a client in a wheel chair wants to use the bathroom where I stay, this will be a challenge. Some men in wheel chairs will avoid drinking in the run up to a booking or date, to avoid the mortification of needing a hand to take a piss ... or more.
Even some of the best hotels only have a limited number of rooms with accessible bathrooms and wet rooms. The apartment I shall be at in Dublin, again, I have no idea what the facilities will be like. I am just grateful to have a place to see clients where I won't be at the mercy of some hotel management objecting to my presence. The last complication most ladies need for an eventuality that may not happen is insisting on accessible only accomodation. It would severly limit our choices in an already hostile working place.
And these disabled friendly rooms in hotels are not as lush as rooms for standard use. But the odds on having a client that will book and have special needs are so low that why would I want to opt for the not so lush room on the off-chance that I'll get a client that needs those facilities. I don't think I've ever had a disabled client book me while I was on tour in Ireland and I've visited quite a few times. So if I suddenly had a guy ring up and say, I'm in a wheel chair, can you see me, would he start ranting if I said I can't see him, even though my profile is probably ticked to say yes, I would?
I used to request disabled friendly rooms when touring in hotels, but then realised that the rooms really were more functional than aesthetic and not to my personal liking. And no one ever came that needed them, so I sat it out for nothing, explaining to non disabled clients why the room was the way it was.
There are as many disabilities as stars in the sky. Aspergers clients? Some are quirky darlings? Some are intensely brooding and rude, causing offence every time they open their mouths, while oblivious of the impact of what they say. Cerebral palsy? One of my regulars once bit down quite hard on my nipple by accident while suckling. That frigging hurt. I still tense up a little during foreplay with him, because I'm afraid it might happen again. Thankfully, he cares enough to not want to hurt and does his best. But would a guy booking me for a one off treat care if his poor co-ordination might hurt me?
Does he swallow? With some disabilities, a client may present with little or no control over the swallow function, resulting in a tendency to drool as saliva gathers, that the average person unconsciously swallows automatically. Yet some guys with this condition are obsessed with DFK (Deep French Kissing), and often the first a lady knows is when he's trying to thrust his tongue down her throat and wetting her face into the bargain. I personally do not like excessive bodily fluids. But I can be assertive enough with a client to say, no, I'm not doing that. Some ladies might feel like the world's worst bitch if they had to say "no" to anything a disabled guy asked for.
So, you have well meaning ladies who don't want to be hurt by accident, don't trust that the environment they work in is comfortable enough, don't trust themselves to have the "stomach" to deal with certain spontaneous physical actions, or are not sure they would be understood or be able to understand. If you expect a woman with a poor grasp of English to feel she can communicate with someone with speech difficulties, when she can barely communicate with the guy who hasn't, what does that say about you?
There are many reasons that a lady may so no to any kind of client. I believe it is a lady's right to tick not to see disabled clients. I believe that anyone with a disability or phoning on behalf of someone with a disability and approaching a lady who had not indicated that she provides this level of service is simply spoiling for a fight and frankly, a rebel without a cause. The one lady you find unattractive or unappealing, may be the one lady equipped physically, mentally and emotionally to see a man with any disability.
On the hygeine issue, I give the guys that are bed ridden or in a wheel chair a bed bath. But that is no excuse to turn up filthy. Every lady appreciates the effort. Scratch the area with your finger (if you can) and sniff it (if you can). If you do and it does not either smell neutral, or of fresh soap, then that bodily odour smell is going to be extremely offensive to another party. This is as true of disabled men as it is of able men. Just that those with little or no social experience underestimate the role of the sense of smell for arousal or disgust. They're focusing on the visual or kinesthetic.
No one can force an escort, who receives no consesional support from government or any authorities, to take on a client with special needs if those needs are going to impact her bottom line. No Body exists to subsidise her for tagging on an extra 15 minutes to a half hour booking so the guy who is normally dressed by his carer can struggle to take his own clothes off or put them back on at the end of the booking. Or to slip on her jeans and take off her make up so she can go down-stairs to the lobby to assist the guy who didn't have the courtesy to tell her over the phone that he has special needs.
Best advice, if you have special needs, make your first approach by email or pm to the lady. Don't just say that you are disabled. Give us some credit and state in a couple of sentences how your disability changes the landscape, so to speak. Men with premature ejaculation or anorgasmia use the TLC web site because they consider themselves disabled. But that's too wide a blanket. Disability could be Tourettes, Duchennes Muscular Dystrophy, Spina Bifida, Cerebal Palsy, the wearing of a catheter (forgotten the name for this permanent pouch), drooling or blindness. Each is different and has different needs and implications. And a lady deserves, without any pressure, social or political, to say, yes, the resources I have available to me are enought to give me the option to fuck your brains out should you wish. And you may be related to, best friends with, or a carer to a disabled person. But until you have to fuck them, you cannot understand that it is not always as easy as dropping one's knickers.
xxx
Pru
I will see disabled clients when facilities at the accommodation are suitable. I have been on the tLC website for a long while.
One thing I wish to mention to disabled clients is:
Please be honest and give as much information about your disability and limitations as possible!
I had a call from a gent with disability. During the call I asked about his condition. He simply said, Yes everything is normal functional and okay. I am simply in a wheelchair. When i got to his hotel, I had a shock as he was around 2 feet tall with a severe spine curvature and massively excessive body hair. I had to lift him and the mechanics of sex were incredibly difficult. I found the booking VERY uncomfortable and had I known the full extent I would not have agreed to the booking. It was my problem entirely, but because of my feelings about it my problem became his problem. In an ideal world everyone would see past disability but I'm afraid that is not the reality.
I personally don’t have a problem whatsoever if an escort refuses to see me just because of my disability, I don’t take it personally as I just tell myself they don’t know me, all they know is my disability and so if that’s how and what they think of disabled people that’s fine, that’s their problem, their prejudges, NOT mine and in actual fact I’d rather her be completely straight up and honest and say she doesn’t feel totally comfortable seeing me for whatever reason rather than her agree to seeing me even though inside she’s not really happy as the appointment will most likely not be a good one and so this will help either people.
What I do have a problem with is the use of language sometimes, using such terms as “escorts who can stomach it” is downright insulting, offensive and hurtful.
If anyone was to come on here and said they couldn’t stomach seeing an Asian guy, a black guy, a Jewish guy, there would be mayhem but saying such a thing about disabled people seems to be acceptable, at the end of the day such words make you feel as if you’re subhuman and worthless
I remember a while back there was an Asian guy who came onto the board saying how some escorts refused to see him just because he was Asian. The number of responses from everyone saying how bad they felt for the guy just because of his race was huge, but the silence on this thread just goes to show you what people really think.
John make no mistake I won't tolerate and disrespectful posting in here .
The silence you mention would that not be that people know very little on the subject .: doc
Melindablondey
12-04-12, 20:15
I use to meet disabled people when i use to have app on the ground floor but since i moved my app is now on the second floor and would not be suitable to get a disabled person up only for that i dont have a problem with disabled people but i would call out to them if they wished no problem xxx
Am I the only one to find some of the posts on this thread really f***ing offensive?
LaBelleThatcher
15-04-12, 11:28
Best advice, if you have special needs, make your first approach by email or pm to the lady. Don't just say that you are disabled. Give us some credit and state in a couple of sentences how your disability changes the landscape, so to speak. Men with premature ejaculation or anorgasmia use the TLC web site because they consider themselves disabled. But that's too wide a blanket. Disability could be Tourettes, Duchennes Muscular Dystrophy, Spina Bifida, Cerebal Palsy, the wearing of a catheter (forgotten the name for this permanent pouch), drooling or blindness. Each is different and has different needs and implications. And a lady deserves, without any pressure, social or political, to say, yes, the resources I have available to me are enought to give me the option to fuck your brains out should you wish. And you may be related to, best friends with, or a carer to a disabled person. But until you have to fuck them, you cannot understand that it is not always as easy as dropping one's knickers.
xxx
Pru
Every word added up to an awesome post, but the conclusion above is the best of it.
Not every escort will have the qualities required to meet your needs (though I am sure most of them could manage a quick hand shandy, are you *SURE* that is all you want and deserve from your sex life?) so give the ladies that have those qualities a chance to do their best for you? Please?
It is only what you deserve.
LaBelleThatcher
15-04-12, 12:06
I personally don’t have a problem whatsoever if an escort refuses to see me just because of my disability, I don’t take it personally as I just tell myself they don’t know me, all they know is my disability and so if that’s how and what they think of disabled people that’s fine, that’s their problem, their prejudges, NOT mine and in actual fact I’d rather her be completely straight up and honest and say she doesn’t feel totally comfortable seeing me for whatever reason rather than her agree to seeing me even though inside she’s not really happy as the appointment will most likely not be a good one and so this will help either people.
What I do have a problem with is the use of language sometimes, using such terms as “escorts who can stomach it” is downright insulting, offensive and hurtful.
If anyone was to come on here and said they couldn’t stomach seeing an Asian guy, a black guy, a Jewish guy, there would be mayhem but saying such a thing about disabled people seems to be acceptable, at the end of the day such words make you feel as if you’re subhuman and worthless
I remember a while back there was an Asian guy who came onto the board saying how some escorts refused to see him just because he was Asian. The number of responses from everyone saying how bad they felt for the guy just because of his race was huge, but the silence on this thread just goes to show you what people really think.
I am including this entire John because I *SO* get this too...(in case anyone is wondering where I stayed in training for sex worker rights issues over the years, it has been on other areas of marginalisation and alienation, like disability, that can be strikingly similar...and even more hurtful and destructive because you don't get the same option on hiding from them).
I am not someone who would ever have made a good escort for disabled people, but that is because of *MY* failings in terms of sensitivity to others and people skills, that affect other areas of my life too...but having said that I had one regular wheelchair user that I really looked forward to because we had the same sense of humour and wound up spending most of the time collapsed in laughter...and the useless legs, and the incontinency pads and the unpredictable semi paralysis (everybody is aware that paralysis isn't a always a rigidly defined cut off, sensitivity can come and go, or vary in different areas?) just DID NOT REGISTER compared to this lovely, joyful funny man who used his humour and wit to make the whole meeting fun *FOR ME* on terms *I* felt comfortable with.
u might want to read this thread again to read the terrible comment by an escort just try & be fair to posters & escorts alike
Sorry Darren, I've explained on the wrong thread. Here https://www.escort-ireland.com/boards/threads/87904-EI-Is-Not-Disabled-Friendly/page5 Sometimes I have problems with syntax. Apologies if it came accross as offending, which is not what i meant.
I totally and fully agree with what Darren has just said, it was never in question, never a problem or was never the issue that an escort has absolute and total right to see whoever she wants to see without having to give reasons to anyone, it was the humiliating detailed posts that followed which has been the cause of offensive to so many.
I would never ever want to or would try and pressurise anyone into meeting me if they didn’t want to or feel completely and totally comfortable in meeting because of my disability, I can fully accept that, what I can’t accept is the degrading language and attitudes by some over the past few days on an open forum which is supposed to be open to all and all inclusive.
My explanation and apology conveniently ignored...
And conveniently there is a point being made, that everyone feels that escort should never be questioned on who they don't decide to see. Unfortunately, I am the only escort willing to share my views on this topic (despite the fact that according to the OP it is a majority of escorts who chose not to see disabled people), and in my experience ALL the people who I had to refuse questioned me on that. Even John couldnt spare a chance to remind me of my unfortunate choices.
I wonder, why not more escorts feel free to share their choice not to see disabled people. Perhaps its because someone has an axe to grind here and it ain't me. Again, we are down to the attitude issue as obviously some people just cannot get over the fact, that escorts can chose who they will see, even if that means not to see a particular group of people.
I have explained and apologized. I have been ignored. Do I need to go hang myself to make you guys happy? Why not move on?
Curvaceous Kate
15-04-12, 20:20
My explanation and apology conveniently ignored...
And conveniently there is a point being made, that everyone feels that escort should never be questioned on who they don't decide to see. Unfortunately, I am the only escort willing to share my views on this topic (despite the fact that according to the OP it is a majority of escorts who chose not to see disabled people), and in my experience ALL the people who I had to refuse questioned me on that. Even John couldnt spare a chance to remind me of my unfortunate choices.
I wonder, why not more escorts feel free to share their choice not to see disabled people. Perhaps its because someone has an axe to grind here and it ain't me. Again, we are down to the attitude issue as obviously some people just cannot get over the fact, that escorts can chose who they will see, even if that means not to see a particular group of people.
I have explained and apologized. I have been ignored. Do I need to go hang myself to make you guys happy? Why not move on?
I've openly acknowledged that I don't tick the 'disable friendly' box on here when I advertise, because I find the word 'disabled' too ambigiuos. I would rather take each case as it comes my way and then I can judge if I am equipt enough mentally and physically to see them or not.
nautural bbw
04-11-12, 20:42
life has a way to deal some bad set of cards at times,when we least expect it.no one is immune from tragedy.that is all i have to say here
TiffanyTees
08-11-12, 12:13
Looking at the other side of the coin there is a well known escort here that charged extra because of a gentleman's disability.
I told him to name and shame as I think its scandalous as her comment had been "because of your disability she will have to charge extra as she has to get her head around it . If I had been him I would of got out asap.
Since then he has met myself and other lovely ladies from here that treat him with the respect he deserves at no extra cost.
The thing is he is too nice to name that said lady here.
I know its personal choice if an escort is disable friendly but to charge them extra in my personal opinion is wrong.
Dont know how you other ladies feel about it .
Tiff xx
EnglishAlex
08-11-12, 19:21
Looking at the other side of the coin there is a well known escort here that charged extra because of a gentleman's disability.
I told him to name and shame as I think its scandalous as her comment had been "because of your disability she will have to charge extra as she has to get her head around it . If I had been him I would of got out asap.
Since then he has met myself and other lovely ladies from here that treat him with the respect he deserves at no extra cost.
The thing is he is too nice to name that said lady here.
I know its personal choice if an escort is disable friendly but to charge them extra in my personal opinion is wrong.
Dont know how you other ladies feel about it .
Tiff xx
Exactly the same as you do. How cold and callous to charge extra due to someone just because they have a disability. Taking advantage in the extreme. I'm really shocked at that Tiff. And get her head around what? If it's a problem, you don't meet the person. Simple really. Don't rip them off because of something they have no control over :mad:
It makes no difference whatsoever whether someone is disabled or not to me. As long as the place I'm staying at is suitable for them, that's the only thing I'd be concerned about. I spent time with a disabled gent recently and he told me about a lady refusing to see him because of his disability. Her loss as he's a lovely guy and wouldn't have been any bother at all.
Disabled Friendly Escorts do exist. The TLC trust are really useful and it might be worth ladies from here who are happy to see disabled clients to join the site. I must do just that too
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Exactly the same as you do. How cold and callous to charge extra due to someone just because they have a disability. Taking advantage in the extreme. I'm really shocked at that Tiff. And get her head around what? If it's a problem, you don't meet the person. Simple really. Don't rip them off because of something they have no control over :mad:
It makes no difference whatsoever whether someone is disabled or not to me. As long as the place I'm staying at is suitable for them, that's the only thing I'd be concerned about. I spent time with a disabled gent recently and he told me about a lady refusing to see him because of his disability. Her loss as he's a lovely guy and wouldn't have been any bother at all.
Disabled Friendly Escorts do exist. The TLC trust are really useful and it might be worth ladies from here who are happy to see disabled clients to join the site. I must do just that too
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One of the nicest and most disabled friendly posts I’ve ever read on this board, thank you Alex that really means a lot to a guy like me who sometimes feels socially and sexually excluded from the rest of society through no fault of their own. x :kiss: :love4:
I would just like to add my weight to what JohnRambo has said, and both Tiff and Alex comments. I have had dealings with the TLC Trust and they are a lifeline for those, as John so ably put it, who feel socially and sexually excluded from mainstream society.
l actually do not mind taking a disabled Client preference he could talk l mean comunnicate so l think there are bad disability out there than just a client in a wheel Chair think about the "Thalidomide (also known under the brand names Contergan® or Kevadon® in Canada and the United States) became infamous in the early 1960's in the context of one of the biggest drug disasters of recent history. So they are just human being..
English Lulu
21-12-12, 13:38
ive had no problem seeing disabled clients so long as i can accomodate theres a couple of apartments i work its impossible!!! i had one client didnt even tell me he was diabled and he turned up, stunning guy great crack and refused any help from me. he had no movement or feeling from waist down but boy could he throw himself round that bed ha ha.. great guy and just cause he has wheels in tow dont make him non human... how do u think a regular client would feel if thru no fault of his own ended up in a chair and was then refused... cmon its the fucking able bodied we should be mor worried about fucks sake!!! i mean god if we turned away any client cause they are not 'fit' then we may as well be working frikking tesco... i have one male friend and wen i say this guy is stunning he is drop dead... he wouldnt tell u on the fone he is disabled cause to him he isnt... so tell me what would one do wen he sits down to take his right leg off!!!??? sorry but this kinda wound me up a bit