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Tightsmonster
19-09-11, 20:42
Is it possible to get the escorts to answer the question wheather they are disabled friendly fairly, ie if they offer services to disabled clients the answer is yes if not the answer is no. I know it's up to the escorts who they choose to see and who they don't that is their choice and I have no problem with that and I know that it is difficult for them with so many types of disability but please don't answer yes if they don't want to provide a service. That way we all know where we stand, pardon the pun
MatureEbonyPru38F
20-09-11, 10:21
Well, does the question relate to the ladie's ability to see past a physical or behavorial difference, or is it about whether there are stairs to navigate to get to her working premises? Every time I get an enquiry from someone who mentions a disability, I find I have to feel guilty for asking him to be more specific about the disability, as if asking is rude. But I do need to know if it is something that I would be equipped to handle. I am no super-woman!
Before you go to see a lady who has ticked this box, contact her to let her know the specifics of your disability. A guy could be paralysed from the waist down and still be very hunky to look at. A guy could have a condition that means he drools a lot ... yet he expects the lady will automatically be able to switch off and kiss him as passionately as she would Brad Pitt. If your disability means you have a catheter attached or tend towards incontinence, it's best to say so upfront even if this 9 out of 10 ladies will turn you down - you'll be happy with the 1 that had a chance to make a fully informed decision.
You just have to be realistic.
An escort is human. You don't even have the benefit of time to develope sufficient rapport that makes her see and admire you as a person as it would be in a relationship with a consenting civilian. Don't ever make the assumption that payment is a short cut to getting a fairy-tale encounter. Not even the able-bodied punters can guarantee this!
xxx
Pru
Well, does the question relate to the ladie's ability to see past a physical or behavorial difference, or is it about whether there are stairs to navigate to get to her working premises? Every time I get an enquiry from someone who mentions a disability, I find I have to feel guilty for asking him to be more specific about the disability, as if asking is rude. But I do need to know if it is something that I would be equipped to handle. I am no super-woman!
Before you go to see a lady who has ticked this box, contact her to let her know the specifics of your disability. A guy could be paralysed from the waist down and still be very hunky to look at. A guy could have a condition that means he drools a lot ... yet he expects the lady will automatically be able to switch off and kiss him as passionately as she would Brad Pitt. If your disability means you have a catheter attached or tend towards incontinence, it's best to say so upfront even if this 9 out of 10 ladies will turn you down - you'll be happy with the 1 that had a chance to make a fully informed decision.
You just have to be realistic.
An escort is human. You don't even have the benefit of time to develope sufficient rapport that makes her see and admire you as a person as it would be in a relationship with a consenting civilian. Don't ever make the assumption that payment is a short cut to getting a fairy-tale encounter. Not even the able-bodied punters can guarantee this!
xxx
Pru
I think that is really nicely and honestly put, from the escorts point of view. Good on ya Pru.
Tightsmonster
22-09-11, 21:49
Let me explain the reason I posted this thread. I have been in contact with an escort who advertised as disabled friendly but when I tried to make an appointment I received a message saying she didn't see dsiabled clients. In response to Ebonypru38F I have had some wonderful encounters with some great escorts and I always tell them about my disability when booking. I did say in the original post I understand how difficult it is for escorts dealing with disabled clients, eg Physical Ability Access ect. I am not looking for Super-woman I have never made the assumption that payment is going to lead to a fairy-tale encounter. Just don't answer yes to the question of disabled friendly if escorts don't want to see disabled clients.
Ebony Amber
22-09-11, 21:59
I think there may be a stigma to saying no. I'm sure some escorts just put yes down as they feel it would be rude not to as they don't want to be seen to be discriminating. Sad but true.
I think these ladies need to realise that there is nothing wrong with not being comfortable with seeing a disabled client and that stating no will be far more useful for the client who won't need to bother calling them.
Sadly EI can't force anyone to tell the truth on their profiles so things like seeing disabled client etc will never be perfectly accurate. Personally if I was a client with a disability of any kind I think I would prefer to contact escorts that will take bookings via pm. That way the lady can be prepared and also have time to have a think. Being on the phone puts a lot of pressure on an escort.
Hope that helps :)
MrNiceGuy2010
26-09-11, 14:58
Let me explain the reason I posted this thread. I have been in contact with an escort who advertised as disabled friendly but when I tried to make an appointment I received a message saying she didn't see dsiabled clients. In response to Ebonypru38F I have had some wonderful encounters with some great escorts and I always tell them about my disability when booking. I did say in the original post I understand how difficult it is for escorts dealing with disabled clients, eg Physical Ability Access ect. I am not looking for Super-woman I have never made the assumption that payment is going to lead to a fairy-tale encounter. Just don't answer yes to the question of disabled friendly if escorts don't want to see disabled clients.
Hello sir,i am also disabled but i am not wheelchair bound.If u want to send me a pm on your disability and how it affects you going on a punt i might be able to point you in the right direction to escorts who services disabled members.
Although I am happy to entertain clients with disabilities it's not always possible to see chair users due to accommodation issues. Some have suitable access, some don't.
MatureEbonyPru38F
15-06-12, 20:15
That to me is as bad as using fake pictures, or advertising a service that one blatantly has no intention of offering. You should report such a situation to EI so they can oblige her to amend her profile to something more truthful.
Let me explain the reason I posted this thread. I have been in contact with an escort who advertised as disabled friendly but when I tried to make an appointment I received a message saying she didn't see dsiabled clients.
Tightsmonster
19-06-12, 00:29
QUOTE=Ebonypru38F;805319]That to me is as bad as using fake pictures, or advertising a service that one blatantly has no intention of offering. You should report such a situation to EI so they can oblige her to amend her profile to something more truthful.[/QUOTE]
Well Pru, I didn't have to report it, she amended her profile after she replied to my pm. The lady is no longer in Ireland and as it's nine months since my original post it's does not matter at this stage. Thankfully I have had some wonderful encounters since with some beautiful ladies, as I said in the original post I don't have any problem with escorts who don't want to see Disabled clients whatever their reasons, one thing I have learned from speaking to ladies I've met is many of them have no problem with Disabled Clients, sometimes the problem is simply a case of access with the premises that they are using. They have said that a number still turn up without a mention of disability and they are then at a disavantage because they don't know what they will have to deal with in relation to Physical ability etc this is unfair to those that are willing to see someone with a disability, Please always make contact with the lady before hand that way she can be ready to give her best.
Mature Jenny
02-07-12, 19:40
[QUOTE=Ebonypru38F;582709]Well, does the question relate to the ladie's ability to see past a physical or behavorial difference, or is it about whether there are stairs to navigate to get to her working premises? Every time I get an enquiry from someone who mentions a disability, I find I have to feel guilty for asking him to be more specific about the disability, as if asking is rude. But I do need to know if it is something that I would be equipped to handle. I am no super-woman!
Before you go to see a lady who has ticked this box, contact her to let her know the specifics of your disability. A guy could be paralysed from the waist down and still be very hunky to look at. A guy could have a condition that means he drools a lot ... yet he expects the lady will automatically be able to switch off and kiss him as passionately as she would Brad Pitt. If your disability means you have a catheter attached or tend towards incontinence, it's best to say so upfront even if this 9 out of 10 ladies will turn you down - you'll be happy with the 1 that had a chance to make a fully informed decision.
You just have to be realistic.
An escort is human. You don't even have the benefit of time to develope sufficient rapport that makes her see and admire you as a person as it would be in a relationship with a consenting civilian. Don't ever make the assumption that payment is a short cut to getting a fairy-tale encounter. Not even the able-bodied punters can guarantee this!
xxx
Pru[/Q interesting . hope it helped both sides....i would also like to know a bit about the person im seeing
Curvaceous Kate
02-07-12, 20:08
I saw a chap today who wears leg braces and also has a problem with his hands not functioning as well as they could. I have seen him once before, so I knew what to expect this time. He's a lovely chap and apart from having to help him a little on and off with his clothes, there is little difference to the booking I have with him.
I know I can offer a service to him while I'm at my apartment back in the UK, as I know the building is disability friendly, however when on tour it is not always possible to know this is the possible unless you have been to the location before. There is also the aspect of the 'unknown'. The first time you see someone, you might be willing and happy to learn, but it doesn't mean you necessarily know what is involved. Some people are fiercely independent and don't like being helped and others (I imagine) would rather you did help so as not to waste time, so communication is also very important. If you can't get that communication right during the initial contact, how are you going to do it when face to face?
I guess what I'm trying to say is tht ticking yes to me, shows that I am happy to see disabled people, but it doesn't necessarily mean that I am able to accomodate your particular disability, either due to lack of facilities or ability/understanding, but if there is a way round it, then I would most certainly try.
LaBelleThatcher
07-07-12, 17:59
Just as my bran is fried with other things it occurred to me it might be simpler to offer the escort 3 options:
Yes
No
Explain and enquire
Number 3 would likely be the favourite because I am sure the majority of escorts are willing to deal with some disabilities depending on the venue at the time. In fact, a little explanation to the effect if box 3 is ticked might save a lot of awkwardness on both sides. :)