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I had my one and only visit to an escort last year. I met with Tiffanytees. She was great and was fantastic about my disability, a spinal chord injury.
Since then though I've struggled. I struggled with good old catholic guilt. I struggled with worries about sti's, even though I've been checked out.
Has anyone else had similar experiences to me?
We all have worries mate! I get paranoid over many things, but mostly you have to realise that all your fears are irrational.
Did you have safe sex? Then why worry about an STI.. And, as you said, you got checked out. It seems like you're thinking up every possible barrier (i.e. religion, health worries etc.) to stop you from having sex. It's like you're putting it out of your hands, even though the decision is undeniably in your hands. You cannot live fearing every repercussion.
I am not religious in the slightest so I can't really approach that subject without rubbing off some of my atheist bias upon whatever opinion I may conjure. Although, I do think that no God would ever want you to feel guilty about committing a sexual act; it's the most natural thing ever!
Are you going to consign yourself to a life without sex?
Good luck mate!
I had my one and only visit to an escort last year. I met with Tiffanytees. She was great and was fantastic about my disability, a spinal chord injury.
Since then though I've struggled. I struggled with good old catholic guilt. I struggled with worries about sti's, even though I've been checked out.
Has anyone else had similar experiences to me?
Firstly I’d like to say to you mate I’m really pleased you had such an enjoyable time with Tiff, he’s a great lady. :)
As for the Catholic guilt thing my advice would be to ask yourself what is it you’re doing that is so wrong when you compare it with some of the things that the very people who preach right from wrong every Sunday on the alter have done to so many people for so long?
You need to try and let this thing go and enjoy yourself.
Best of luck amigo. :)
Podgegun great advice from the last two posts . All I can add is listen to it .
Well said lads
doc
Let go of your worries. We are all trying to connect, to be a part of a whole. It's the "Man is not an Island" thing. I want all of these lovely ladies on my island to share the experience of what is called life. God or evolution created this drive called sex and there is nothing that should make you feel guilty. It is what we are. There is nothing to worry as long as you are practicing safe sex.
carlos marvado
23-03-11, 19:55
I think this is an aspect of the type of service that escorts provide which is generally overlooked by everybody.......general public, media, legislature etc.
An escort I know very well (not Tiffany) told me about how she had seen a client who was also paralysed as a result of a spinal-cord injury and that his carer had facilitated him by bringing him to the escort. I know this does not help you podgegun, but from what the escort told me, she was moved by this experience. If you were ablebodied, you would probably think nothing of going out to clubs or wherever to meet women and maybe even engaging in casual relationships until you met the right person.
I can see that your religious/moral beliefs are causing you difficulties, plus your health concerns, but if you deny your obvious physical needs and/or emotional needs for some form of human physical contact, this probably will not be of benefit to you either.
You obviously enjoyed your time with Tiffany greatly, and as many escorts here point out, their health is very important to them because without it they could'nt work, so the vast majority of them will take whatever precautions are necessary. If you have any issues with your immune system, I would suggest using condoms/female condoms for oral and maybe no kissing.
What you have to reconcile within yourself is the conflict between chastity and your morality on the one hand and your human physical and emotional needs on the other. Good luck with your decision.
Hi Guys,
Firstly thank you all for your genuine and comprehensive replies. They were very much appreciated.
I'm still a little confused. One minute on here phoning an escort, the next vowing never to do it again.
I'm comfortable enough now to say I'm going to give the whole dating/gf thing another go and hope to settle that way. I am comfortable enough also to say I won't rule out visiting another escort in the future, taking your advice into account.
I realise it is ok for me to do this. Especially with the difficulties I've faced in my life, maybe i should cut myself some slack.
Thank you all again.
TiffanyTees
20-04-11, 18:16
Firstly I’d like to say to you mate I’m really pleased you had such an enjoyable time with Tiff, he’s a great lady. :)
As for the Catholic guilt thing my advice would be to ask yourself what is it you’re doing that is so wrong when you compare it with some of the things that the very people who preach right from wrong every Sunday on the alter have done to so many people for so long?
You need to try and let this thing go and enjoy yourself.
Best of luck amigo. :)
Hes a great Lady! I thought you knew me better than that lol
Love and Licks Tiff (Ladyboy NOT)
Hes a great Lady! I thought you knew me better than that lol
Love and Licks Tiff (Ladyboy NOT)
Jesus Christ I’m so sorry about that Tiff I’m a total dick I didn’t see that before, sorry babe. :o
Let me just clear things up, TIFF IS ALL WOMAN!!!!! :)
TiffanyTees
24-04-11, 22:10
Jesus Christ I’m so sorry about that Tiff I’m a total dick I didn’t see that before, sorry babe. :o
Let me just clear things up, TIFF IS ALL WOMAN!!!!! :)
Thankyou hunnybun you are forgiven ..... lol xx
I had my one and only visit to an escort last year. I met with Tiffanytees. She was great and was fantastic about my disability, a spinal chord injury.
Since then though I've struggled. I struggled with good old catholic guilt. I struggled with worries about sti's, even though I've been checked out.
Has anyone else had similar experiences to me?
I'm very sorry to hear that your fun has been spoilt by your upbringing - catholic guilt? To hell with it.
Education is the only way to free yourself from those hobgoblins. If you are confident in your knowledge of what is and is not safe sexually then you need not worry about STI. Professional escorts are well informed and careful; you have far less risk with such ladies than with someone you meet in a nightclub or whatever.
Similarly to get yourself out from under the yoke of guilt you have to broaden your mind and realise that catholic guilt is just a form of mind control used to subjugate the ignorant masses. All that rubbish is a relic of the dark ages, let it go.
Finally I suggest that you have another visit to an escort: you may find that the guilt subsides as your experience and pleasure increases.
We only get the one life & it sounds like yours is tough enough without permitting worries to add to your burdens - enjoy yourself any way you can & the very best of good luck to you with it mate.
I think at the end of the day podgegun you have to ask yourself this questions, do you think everything that you’ve went though in your life having to overcome and live with your disability and when you look around at all the really bad people in this world doing really bad things to other people that you’ll somehow burn in hell for all eternity just because you enjoyed the company and compainionship of a beautful lady every now and then? Your answer, no mate you wont.
Life is for living and enjoying it best you can, simple pleasure in life such as this is only one of them.
If you can afford it get out there as much as you can and enjoy yourself and let go of this religious guilt stuff as it doesn’t matter.
ladiesman217
25-04-11, 21:07
I think at the end of the day podgegun you have to ask yourself this questions, do you think everything that you’ve went though in your life having to overcome and live with your disability and when you look around at all the really bad people in this world doing really bad things to other people that you’ll somehow burn in hell for all eternity just because you enjoyed the company and compainionship of a beautful lady every now and then? Your answer, no mate you wont.
Life is for living and enjoying it best you can, simple pleasure in life such as this is only one of them.
If you can afford it get out there as much as you can and enjoy yourself and let go of this religious guilt stuff as it doesn’t matter.
^ The king has spoken...
And may I just add: dude, you only live once. So do the things you enjoy and for the love of God don't be afraid to try new things. You can live your life and enjoy it while still being morally conscious. And regardless of what society says, spending time with and enjoying the companionship of a b-e-a-utiful woman is not a mortal sin :D (oh wait, JR already covered the mortal sin bit... buggery:banghead:)
Jesus Christ I’m so sorry about that Tiff I’m a total dick I didn’t see that before, sorry babe. :o
Let me just clear things up, TIFF IS ALL WOMAN!!!!! :)
I can confirm that :-) Tiff is an extremely attractive woman
I can confirm that :-) Tiff is an extremely attractive woman
As soon as you get the chance again go see her and enjoy bro .: doc