View Full Version : I hate grading an escorts appearance
Ric Hardgear
14-07-10, 09:16
:banghead:I hate grading an escorts appearance
Why can I not leave a review without having to describe her appearance? I know from escorts that they hate being described as" fairly attractive",its very hurtful,guys write reviews and tick all the very happy boxes ,describe how they had the time of their lives,great sex ,really friendly ,then tick the box "fairly attractive",its like a smack in the mouth for the girls.We all know that beauty is subjective ,and we all know that model type looks are not common in the escort industry,but saying that there are alot of beautiful girls out there,beautiful normal looking girls,not glossy mag looking girls but attractive girls,not modelesque but attractive,So as not to offend an attractive escort can we please have an opt out for the attractive section ,
thanks Ric
:banghead:I hate grading an escorts appearance
Why can I not leave a review without having to describe her appearance? I know from escorts that they hate being described as" fairly attractive",its very hurtful,guys write reviews and tick all the very happy boxes ,describe how they had the time of their lives,great sex ,really friendly ,then tick the box "fairly attractive",its like a smack in the mouth for the girls.We all know that beauty is subjective ,and we all know that model type looks are not common in the escort industry,but saying that there are alot of beautiful girls out there,beautiful normal looking girls,not glossy mag looking girls but attractive girls,not modelesque but attractive,So as not to offend an attractive escort can we please have an opt out for the attractive section ,
thanks Ric
yes that seems a good idea alright i mean if the escorts pictures are verified there is really no point in having to comment.
thehighwayman
14-07-10, 09:37
I don't like the word fairly attractive either. But sometimes you have to put that in as it's the nearest. You would be lying sometimes if you said they were all very attractive. Maybe another word would be better used or just attractive instead of fairly attractive.
Ric Hardgear
14-07-10, 10:04
I don't like the word fairly attractive either. But sometimes you have to put that in as it's the nearest. You would be lying sometimes if you said they were all very attractive. Maybe another word would be better used or just attractive instead of fairly attractive.
And that is a very good point, if another punter has a different opinion of attractiveness, I dont want my reviews to be perceived as untrustworthy
Ric Hardgear
14-07-10, 10:11
Yes just use the word attractive ,and drop fairly. its irionic dont ya think how sensitive some users are on the boards ,yet we have the facility to be very insensitive,in every review we post ,its not very pc,in fact its very sexist
Yes just use the word attractive ,and drop fairly. its irionic dont ya think how sensitive some users are on the boards ,yet we have the facility to be very insensitive,in every review we post ,its not very pc,in fact its very sexist
Alot of this stuff is usually covered in the review text. Rarely would you see a guy meeting a girl that he likes the look of and not mentioning anything about it. On the other side of the coin a guy that doesnt like the looks of a girl usually says it too although some could be a bit nicer and more considerate in the way they say it.
Westside.
Ric I'm sure using the services of an escort is not very pc either.....not sure this site is the pillar of pc'ness!
This has been quite a topic here at HQ today, but it is universally agreed that rating an escort on the merit of their appearance is very subjective, and really although it is a guideline for other punters, really the overall service should be considered.
Bear in mind that the accuracy of the pictures are also graded, and that should be another factor to consider.
I hope that helps?
Ric Hardgear
14-07-10, 15:43
Thanks for your fairly helpful reply ...but,it dosent help me if i want to opt out of grading her appearance,also it dosent remove the "fairly attractive" description.
vampirejackie
14-07-10, 15:49
Thanks for your fairly helpful reply ...but,it dosent help me if i want to opt out of grading her appearance,also it dosent the "fairly attractive" description
Well , to be honest, what is the difference in grading her in all the other ways, on her performance, etc, or on her appearance. The whole point of reviews are that they are one persons opinion, and to say you are happy to grade her on one thing, but dont want to on another is 'fairly' hypocritical :-), so dont really see the point of having an opt out for just this one bit. Just my opinion :-)
Well , to be honest, what is the difference in grading her in all the other ways, on her performance, etc, or on her appearance. The whole point of reviews are that they are one persons opinion, and to say you are happy to grade her on one thing, but dont want to on another is 'fairly' hypocritical :-), so dont really see the point of having an opt out for just this one bit. Just my opinion :-)
do you not think if the escort looks exactly like her pics...does exactly as her profile says and the punter has a good time and leaves happy it is a bit unfair on the escort and the punter to have to leave "fairly attractive" i mean the photos are verified and where they are the attractive thing is in the eye of the beholder and really serves no use except maybe to downgrade the lady...imo
Ric Hardgear
14-07-10, 16:35
[QUOTE=vampirejackie;249294]Well , to be honest, what is the difference in grading her in all the other ways, on her performance, etc, or on her appearance. The whole point of reviews are that they are one persons opinion, and to say you are happy to grade her on one thing, but dont want to on another is 'fairly' hypocritical :-), so dont really see the point of having an opt out for just this one bit. Just my opinion :-)[/QUO
SO YOUR CALLING ME A HYPOCRITE?
Jaysus you have a very pleasant demeanour,do I really have to repeat my views here on discussing a girls looks,?
She is an escort who provides a service,If i get ripped off your damn well sure I will grade that service.Your fairly stupid reply cant seem to grasp the difference between a punter being allowed to judge her work and the superfical aspect of your grading system regarding her attractiveness IMO:
vampirejackie
14-07-10, 16:52
[QUOTE=vampirejackie;249294]Well , to be honest, what is the difference in grading her in all the other ways, on her performance, etc, or on her appearance. The whole point of reviews are that they are one persons opinion, and to say you are happy to grade her on one thing, but dont want to on another is 'fairly' hypocritical :-), so dont really see the point of having an opt out for just this one bit. Just my opinion :-)[/QUO
SO YOUR CALLING ME A HYPOCRITE?
Jaysus you have a very pleasant demeanour,do I really have to repeat my views here on discussing a girls looks,?
She is an escort who provides a service,If i get ripped off your damn well sure I will grade that service.Your fairly stupid reply cant seem to grasp the difference between a punter being allowed to judge her work and the superfical aspect of your grading system regarding her attractiveness IMO:
:clapping:
do you not think if the escort looks exactly like her pics...does exactly as her profile says and the punter has a good time and leaves happy it is a bit unfair on the escort and the punter to have to leave "fairly attractive" i mean the photos are verified and where they are the attractive thing is in the eye of the beholder and really serves no use except maybe to downgrade the lady...imo
Remember by replacing that without something else it could easily be more degrading to escorts. Just something to keep in mind.
Sincerely,
Westside.
Could have swore I replied to this topic, was it deleted and if so sorry if I offended anyone but I'd still like a reason as to why. :confused: I know I didn't agree with a lot of the replies but ain't re-typing the whole thing again.
vampirejackie
14-07-10, 17:31
Could have swore I replied to this topic, was it deleted and if so sorry if I offended anyone but I'd still like a reason as to why. :confused: I know I didn't agree with a lot of the replies but ain't re-typing the whole thing again.
hiya, no one has deleted any posts in here to my knowledge.
Could have swore I replied to this topic, was it deleted and if so sorry if I offended anyone but I'd still like a reason as to why. :confused: I know I didn't agree with a lot of the replies but ain't re-typing the whole thing again.
Nope anon. There wasnt any post deleted on this thread at all.
just checked through it,
Westside.
Basically I said I have no problem with the current system, if some people find the wording offensive then ok change it but if someone was to call me fairly attractive fine, I'd be happy with that, enfact in my case it would be a real compliment, but if we are honest reviews are not there to boost a ladies ego, it is to inform others on your experience and if a lady is fairly attractive it is not an insult to her in saying that, I know my standing on the looks scale and while beauty is in the eye of the beholder there is a universal opinion on what is attractive and what isn't, obviously with a certain degree of accuracy and the ladies themselves know the score.
I don't mean to offend anyone but I as far as reviews are concerned I ain't going to lie and say a lady that I find average looking is anything but average. Like I said reviews are their to help others make a decision as to whether they want to see a lady or not, they are not there to boost the ladies ego, and yes obviously they are not there to insult them either but like I said, we all know our standings on the looks scale so unless she is kidding herself she shouldn't be insulted.
I'm not wording this entirely like I would hope to, it's difficult while typing on a phone.
vampirejackie
14-07-10, 18:12
I have asked if there can be an option on this category for 'Do Not Want to Rate'. I will let you all know if this can be added.
Basically I said I have no problem with the current system, if some people find the wording offensive then ok change it but if someone was to call me fairly attractive fine, I'd be happy with that, enfact in my case it would be a real compliment,.
anon think your being a bit modest here! lol! i would put you down as very attractive x
vampirejackie
14-07-10, 18:59
I have asked if there can be an option on this category for 'Do Not Want to Rate'. I will let you all know if this can be added.
It has added to the techies list to look at, its not a quick change.
anon think your being a bit modest here! lol! i would put you down as very attractive xThank you Alexis, coming from you that is a real big compliment :kiss::love1:
:banghead:I hate grading an escorts appearance
Why can I not leave a review without having to describe her appearance? I know from escorts that they hate being described as" fairly attractive",its very hurtful,guys write reviews and tick all the very happy boxes ,describe how they had the time of their lives,great sex ,really friendly ,then tick the box "fairly attractive",its like a smack in the mouth for the girls.We all know that beauty is subjective ,and we all know that model type looks are not common in the escort industry,but saying that there are alot of beautiful girls out there,beautiful normal looking girls,not glossy mag looking girls but attractive girls,not modelesque but attractive,So as not to offend an attractive escort can we please have an opt out for the attractive section ,
thanks Ric
I would think that is quite hurtful to the escort as well...i think possibly its some thing that should be looked at soon and maybe something alternative could be put in.
Basically I said I have no problem with the current system, if some people find the wording offensive then ok change it but if someone was to call me fairly attractive fine, I'd be happy with that, enfact in my case it would be a real compliment, but if we are honest reviews are not there to boost a ladies ego, it is to inform others on your experience and if a lady is fairly attractive it is not an insult to her in saying that, I know my standing on the looks scale and while beauty is in the eye of the beholder there is a universal opinion on what is attractive and what isn't, obviously with a certain degree of accuracy and the ladies themselves know the score.
I don't mean to offend anyone but I as far as reviews are concerned I ain't going to lie and say a lady that I find average looking is anything but average. Like I said reviews are their to help others make a decision as to whether they want to see a lady or not, they are not there to boost the ladies ego, and yes obviously they are not there to insult them either but like I said, we all know our standings on the looks scale so unless she is kidding herself she shouldn't be insulted.
I'm not wording this entirely like I would hope to, it's difficult while typing on a phone.
but my point still seems the way to go...if the lady has verified pics and you can see what she looks like...what is to be gained by you or anyone else saying you think she is fairly good looking...do you get what im trying to say?
but my point still seems the way to go...if the lady has verified pics and you can see what she looks like...what is to be gained by you or anyone else saying you think she is fairly good looking...do you get what im trying to say?Thats ok when you are talking about the few ladies that use amateur pictures but lot of the time a ladies face is not shown or the pictures eventough are marked verified aren't really accurate due to the amount of airbrushing or the photgrapher was very generous with his skills. I see your point, I just don't agree with it, that doesn't make you right or me wrong, it's like everything else as far as reviews are concerned, open to interpretation..
What's going on?? I'm agreeing with Anon again!! I'm also agreeing with Alexis.....
Ric Hardgear
14-07-10, 23:01
I have asked if there can be an option on this category for 'Do Not Want to Rate'. I will let you all know if this can be added.
WHOA there have you being drinking on the job?So your position as message board manager is to reply to this with a sarcastic applause,and belittle mine and others opinion by pulling some pm about rating this thread??
You missed the point of me using the word "fairly" in reply to samlads comment I used the word to emphasise how negative the pronoun is percieved,{no offence samlad just making a point},but then again humourless Vacuous Jackie missed my point,Jeeze I think I may have an enemy here
Brunette Tess
15-07-10, 05:51
Whether a girl is being rated out of ten, or there are three levels of attractiveness to choose from, it is always going to be insulting to an escort to get 'fairly' attractive in her review. I know in the past my escort friends and I have questioned this and said 'what the hell is that supposed to mean?' We don't care so much anymore of course, but either way that word definitely has negative connotations... We wouldn't say to you guys after an appointment, 'oh, you were fairly good in bed, your cock is quite sufficient, thank you'..... lol, I know it's not the punters who have put this option in the reviews though, but maybe it could be changed to Attractive (meaning pleasant on the eye), Pretty (Good looking, girl next door), Stunning (modelesque or just incredibly beautiful) Maybe that might be a nicer way to describe ones looks.
But as you all say, beauty is most definitely in the eye of the beholder, and thank god for that or 3/4 of the world would never get a shag!
We wouldn't say to you guys after an appointment, 'oh, you were fairly good in bed, your cock is quite sufficient, thank you'..... lol
I've heard much worse. But I have very few illusions about myself, so I wasn't bothered especially.
Dirty Harry
17-07-10, 20:19
a very interesting thread i can understand that when writing a review for an escort it can be hurtfull to tick the box fairly attractive some escorts may get up set after all they are ladies with feelings....but in my opinion fairly attractive dosen't mean bad i suppose attractive would be a better word ...but i think what could hurt an escort more and cause more hassel for her business is when you tick the favorite enjoyed box example an escort might give a owo or cim to a client that she felt comfortable with but it might not be on her favorite enjoyed list and i think if you got that kind of service and tick the box in this case would be far more hurtfull for the escort also more so than the fairly attractive to show respect a gentlman would not let the hole world know if he got extra during a service that was not on the ladies favorite list also :)
punterminator
17-07-10, 20:29
An interesting thread indeed. I've often wondered how the ladies deal with it. My fragile ego certainly couldn't take it. I'd be lying in a corner somewhere, crumpled into a ball weeping uncontrollably..
In my profession, I'm judged and graded daily but that's on merit. If I get a slating I know I just have to knuckle down, take it on board and improve. Same can't be said for physical appearance.
Personally, I never really look at that mark. I'm more interested in accuracy of photos. However, if a girl chooses not to display her face in the pictures, then this becomes somewhat important.
I wouldn't be hugely upset to see it go though. If I arrive at the door and am met by westside's sister, I'll just politely say "Sorry, you're not what I was expecting" and walk out. I did it twice today..
Just wondering if iits is necessary to grade escort appearance or I can leave this option and simply there will be nothing about ecsort look in review. I am asking coz what I think appearance is not everything, I met one time escort when she opened the door I thought she wasn't really my type but I went wit appointment anyway. And i am glad I did coz things she did for me I never forget, I got one of the bests services ever, even better than with some much much prettier ones. Today I think I would visit her again if she was around, maybe not my type, but still really sexy she had this so called sex-appeal.