View Full Version : Where do YOU stand on Gay adoption?
Where do YOU stand on Gay adoption?, and WHY?
I know this has apparently been done, but I would like to hear you opinions, I missed the previous thread.
As for me, I believe that people who find it harder to have a child whether they are gay/straight, potentially make for better parents. They have given parenthood much more thought and see it (parenthood) more as a gift.
It does seem that people see it as a right. And are not willing to invest the time with their offspring, but expect society to do the parenting for them.
With all the children in the system, I think people who want to give them a loving secure environment should be welcomed with open arms, regardless of the sexual orientation.
As for being teased at school, it's character building!
GL
i have no problem with gay couples adopting, just some ppls stupid, bigoted attitude towards it.
I also have no problem with gay adoption. As long as they can provide a loving and stable home for the child I dont see how there sex life comes in to issue on the subject
I have no issue with gay adoption.
I saw a documentry a while ago on adoption in the UK. There was one little boy who was adopted by a male gay couple. He wasn't a baby, maybe about 6 years old. Getting two dads seemed like a great option for him as he had already bonded with his natural mother, although she was permanently unable to look after him. He rejected the idea of getting a "new" mum as he loved his natural mother and didn't want to "replace" her, but he'd never had a dad and thought the idea of being adopted by a gay couple and having two dads was great.
Children need good parents. It doesn't matter if they are gay or straight. They just need to be ready and able to provide a secure loving home to the child.
I have also read journal articals , mainly involving lesbians , which not only promote the idea of same sex adoptions but also claim that the lesbians interact more with the children , espcailly in imaginary play, than the straight couples.
Do you feel that a child needs a positive female & positive male influence regardless of the whether they are the main care providers? (aunt, uncle, grandparent etc?) or are single sex parents enough?
baring in mind that just because there may be a mum & dad physically on the scene, they may not be mentally.
GL
I dont think it matters too much. It is important but not essential, I have met many people who were raised by sinlge paerents who turned out exceptionally well , so I dont buy that as a defence
I'm in the middle, not for it but not against it.
Do you feel that a child needs a positive female & positive male influence regardless of the whether they are the main care providers? (aunt, uncle, grandparent etc?) or are single sex parents enough?
I do think children benefit from having both male and female role models growing up, but I wouldn't use this as an argument against single sex parenting, as I think gay couples can make sure their child has role models of both genders by involving extended family, friends etc. A happy child who doesn't have a male parent for example can still have uncles, granddads, male cousins and male family friends in their life, and can also join clubs and have hobbies where they can interact with male role models, like karate club or sailing club or whatever it is they are into. I don't think it is critical to a child's development that they have a parent of each gender. One good parent can do a good job on their own. Two good parents of the same gender can do a good job. Unfortunately lots of children don't have a good upbringing, and that is sad. If there are good people willing and ready and able to provide a child with a good home, that's a positive thing. It doesn't matter if they are gay or straight, that shouldn't be a big question being asked, the important question is can they provide the child with a loving stable home.
bhoywonder
13-06-10, 17:34
doesn't bother me as long as the kid doesn't end up as irritating as this one
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7rUZG21vLlk