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Would be good to hear all opinions from escorts and punters on this, watch and enjoy:- Taboo | Prostitution | Video | | National Geographic Channel (http://channel.nationalgeographic.com/series/taboo/4595/Videos/07671_00#tab-Videos/07671_00)
JR.
BootSlick55
15-04-10, 00:10
Sex is a basic need, i suppose. Why see it as taboo to engage in something that satisfies this basic need. Even more so if it is not available to him through more 'normal' channels (for whatever reasons). Interesting to see the service is Dutch-government funded. This seems an enlightened approach.
What is the auld bag near the end on about............
Abusive???
There is absolutely nothing abusive about what is going on there...........
It doesn't stop being abusive simply because the men are disabled
And then, more bullshit..........
If the men are unable to have egalitarian and wanted sexual relationships with others, I'm afraid it does not become ok that they then are abusive sexually
And anyway, this was all taking place in Holland, where it is all legal, not that it's not legal here but you know what I mean............
EnglishTaylor
15-04-10, 13:53
i would just like to say, i welcome disabled clients, however the ones im having trouble with is the ones who are profoundly deaf or so they say, ive had 2clients now who can only communicate by text & unfrotunately i cant see them due to safety issues with giving info out. Has any other ladies had this problem?? i feel guilty that i cant arrange to see them & im sure they think im being discrimanate against them xx
i would just like to say, i welcome disabled clients, however the ones im having trouble with is the ones who are profoundly deaf or so they say, ive had 2clients now who can only communicate by text & unfrotunately i cant see them due to safety issues with giving info out. Has any other ladies had this problem?? i feel guilty that i cant arrange to see them & im sure they think im being discrimanate against them xx
Do you mean communicating with then to arrange an appointment, as in, safety issues disclosing your location???
dark-knight
15-04-10, 19:19
Could you not use the private message service here on EI to arrange an appointment?
I think it's about giving out an exact location via text or Pm without actually talking to the person that's the problem...........
You never know who you're giving out the info to, not that you really know talking to someone either............
I guess the ladies use their instints when talking to someone on the phone and they don't get this via PM's or texts........
I think the idea is that she can confirm you are close to the location and going to go ahead with the appointment before giving the full location details........
It could be the missus texting or PM'ing them.................:eek:
This is just my take on it.........
I'm sure Taylor or some of the ladies could shed more light on this..........
Everyone has needs - everyone deserves to have their needs met.
Galway_Stud
20-04-10, 22:42
true looked a the video link hot escorts wow he was a lucky man
Natural_brownsugar
28-04-10, 17:22
i would just like to say, i welcome disabled clients, however the ones im having trouble with is the ones who are profoundly deaf or so they say, ive had 2clients now who can only communicate by text & unfrotunately i cant see them due to safety issues with giving info out. Has any other ladies had this problem?? i feel guilty that i cant arrange to see them & im sure they think im being discrimanate against them xx
Hi, I met last night in Kildare a client he was Deaf... He was so sweet and nice had no problems with him! How can i tell the girls that he is not a faker? Because I felt so yeah, not sorry but lot of girls are getting bitchy!
I mean when you do youre job good, and keep it real, you dont get fakers!
I had just twice a bad client! But never again! so..
Hi, I met last night in Kildare a client he was Deaf... He was so sweet and nice had no problems with him! How can i tell the girls that he is not a faker? Because I felt so yeah, not sorry but lot of girls are getting bitchy!
I mean when you do youre job good, and keep it real, you dont get fakers!
I had just twice a bad client! But never again! so..
See us “crips” do make the best clients. :D
Just out of curiosity, a guy is a quadroplegic and has no feeling below the neck. I assume he would still be sexually frustrated and like most men in need of relief. Now how does that happen, can he still preform, I mean blood still flows through paralysed limbs and appendiges so can he still get erect?
Hi, I met last night in Kildare a client he was Deaf... He was so sweet and nice had no problems with him! How can i tell the girls that he is not a faker? Because I felt so yeah, not sorry but lot of girls are getting bitchy!
I'm sorry but I fail to see where the bitchyness was in Taylor post that you quoted...........
She quite clearly said she welcomes disabled clients and that she felt guilty about not being able to see his because of the security issue............
Where's that bitchy???
I mean when you do youre job good, and keep it real, you dont get fakers!
I had just twice a bad client! But never again! so..
That's BS, sadly most do get fakers, even the good ones who do a good job and "keep it real".............
You had 2 bad clients, does that mean that you're not good???
Just out of curiosity, a guy is a quadroplegic and has no feeling below the neck. I assume he would still be sexually frustrated and like most men in need of relief. Now how does that happen, can he still preform, I mean blood still flows through paralysed limbs and appendiges so can he still get erect?
I’m no expert on SCI’s (spinal cord injuries) but as far as I’m aware if the spinal cord is damaged above the waist or higher this will cut-off completely or reduce the strength of the electrical signals sent from the brain down through the spinal cord. This all depends on how badly damaged the cord is, if could be perhaps if you’re lucky enough to have a bruised cord which would result in some loose of sensation to a complete spinal cord break which would result in having no sensation at all from the point of injury downwards. Blood flow has nothing at all to do with paralysis it’s the electrical signals from the brain that controls movement throughout the body.
So basically it would depend on how badly the SCI was which would determine if the person was able to have an erection or not and sensation.
If there’s anyone here who has a SCI my apologies if I’ve got anything wrong as I said I’m no expert on the subject but this is only the basics of what I know, please feel free to correct me on anything I might have got wrong.
Experienced Punter esq
03-05-10, 10:28
ya with SCI u really have no probs getting an erection maintaining it can be problematic sometimes ejaculating too but hey make the best of what you've got! give it plenty of practice pulling your mickey often...
ya with SCI u really have no probs getting an erection maintaining it can be problematic sometimes ejaculating too but hey make the best of what you've got! give it plenty of practice pulling your mickey often...
LMFSO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :lmao::lmao::lmao:
And I am sure there are male escorts that would provide for disabled ladies, though I must admit I never thought about that option before
Silly question, but are there male escorts who provide for disabled female clients? Unlike what people usually think and/or believe single women definitely have needs that cannot be replaced by shopping. And I guess disabled women are no exception.
Excellent point Mademoiselle Avenante, I imagine you’re totally right. I am ashamed to say I have never thought of the fact disabled women must have the same sexual needs, wants and desires as guys. I only hope there are male escorts out there who do see disabled ladies.
It would be good also if there were any disabled ladies here on the site lurking but who have never felt comfortable coming forward and telling their stories.
MatureEbonyPru38F
13-05-10, 02:12
There are male escorts listed on the TLC web site who cater for disabled women. The TLC web site gets regular "applications" from male hopefuls who reckon they'd like to become escorts for the TLC female visitors. They send in a pick of their dick, a hotmail address, a pay as you go mobile and no web link. And we say, no thank you, establish a professional presence and come back with a serious looking application. As a result, there are fewer male escorts on the site than we would wish, but at least we can rest in peace that some serial sex offender or ex con just out of prison hasn't been endorsed as a sensitive intimate companion.
There are a couple of disabled women who post on the TLC forum as well.
xxx
Pru
MatureEbonyPru38F
13-05-10, 02:38
What I liked about the piece was the introduction. If more carers, PA's, Support Workers, and parents, could be more open minded about the sexual needs of their charges, what a difference it would make. I remember one petrified man in his 30's, with advanced Duchennes Muscular Dystrophy (DMD) who sneaked me in when his mother went out for a hospital appointment. He'd waited weeks for this opportunity, when she would leave him alone so he could lose his virginity. And he was so jumpy through-out, that as soon as the first round was over, he wanted me to leave. He didn't want to chance his luck. Fortunately, he was talked round, but I know he was mightily relieved when I left and she still hadn't returned.
His room had all of lifes comforts and luxuries crammed in to make him comfortable. But what he was screaming out for was sex. And there are many like him, that would die of shame if any one knew what they wanted. They'd feel like they were being labelled as perverts for wanting what every one else gets so casually.
xxx
Pru
Sexy Sandy 69
19-05-10, 18:53
I fully understand what Taylor was saying in relation to deaf guys & text messaging, it's just too damn dangerous to give out location details in a text messages, you really don't know who is texting you.
I have seen disable clients, I used to see a guy who was bed bound, his carers used to pay me, go out for an hour then come back, I used to tell them when I was leaving, they had no problem arranging it for the guy.
Sandy of Newcastle x
What I liked about the piece was the introduction. If more carers, PA's, Support Workers, and parents, could be more open minded about the sexual needs of their charges, what a difference it would make. I remember one petrified man in his 30's, with advanced Duchennes Muscular Dystrophy (DMD) who sneaked me in when his mother went out for a hospital appointment. He'd waited weeks for this opportunity, when she would leave him alone so he could lose his virginity. And he was so jumpy through-out, that as soon as the first round was over, he wanted me to leave. He didn't want to chance his luck. Fortunately, he was talked round, but I know he was mightily relieved when I left and she still hadn't returned.
His room had all of lifes comforts and luxuries crammed in to make him comfortable. But what he was screaming out for was sex. And there are many like him, that would die of shame if any one knew what they wanted. They'd feel like they were being labelled as perverts for wanting what every one else gets so casually.
xxx
Pru
Very well said pru. Several of my male friends and a lady all who have hight level disability are so sexually frustrated and would feel like a pervert if they asked a carer for assistance to meet their needs. A female wheelchair user i know can only ask one of her five careers for her vibrator if she wants it when she is in bed.
I will have to start lobbyont the irish goverment for grants to visit escorts. Imagine the look on Mary Harneys face.
Experienced Punter esq
28-05-10, 19:31
What I liked about the piece was the introduction. If more carers, PA's, Support Workers, and parents, could be more open minded about the sexual needs of their charges, what a difference it would make. I remember one petrified man in his 30's, with advanced Duchennes Muscular Dystrophy (DMD) who sneaked me in when his mother went out for a hospital appointment. He'd waited weeks for this opportunity, when she would leave him alone so he could lose his virginity. And he was so jumpy through-out, that as soon as the first round was over, he wanted me to leave. He didn't want to chance his luck. Fortunately, he was talked round, but I know he was mightily relieved when I left and she still hadn't returned.
His room had all of lifes comforts and luxuries crammed in to make him comfortable. But what he was screaming out for was sex. And there are many like him, that would die of shame if any one knew what they wanted. They'd feel like they were being labelled as perverts for wanting what every one else gets so casually.
xxx
Pru
ya thats an excellent & very thoughtful post I hadnt been reading this forum recently, u see society first & foremostly does not see people with disabilities as sexual beings as sick people & some personal assstants/carers simply think that way too, I've been lucky in this regard with personal assistants but either way a personal with a disability needs to be clear with his carer that these needs need to be fulfilled & he needs these sexual urges to be released he must tell his carer to set him up on the bed for example(undress wash him ) to meet his girlfriend or escort! I'd advise any person with a diability use an escort fora callout tell the carer to get u ready off u go......
Irish Sean
31-05-10, 17:11
Silly question, but are there male escorts who provide for disabled female clients? Unlike what people usually think and/or believe single women definitely have needs that cannot be replaced by shopping. And I guess disabled women are no exception.
Yes I don't have any problem seeing disabled clients and would be able to show them a good time.
When you read stories like Ebonypru and EbonyRenee’s it really does show you how hard it is for some disabled people to have some kinda of sex life, pretty sad, but fair play to both ladies for trying their best and doing everything they could to help both lads out, nice one ladies.
John.
Natural_brownsugar
24-06-10, 15:13
I'm sorry but I fail to see where the bitchyness was in Taylor post that you quoted...........
She quite clearly said she welcomes disabled clients and that she felt guilty about not being able to see his because of the security issue............
Where's that bitchy???
That's BS, sadly most do get fakers, even the good ones who do a good job and "keep it real".............
You had 2 bad clients, does that mean that you're not good???
That guy was deaf! Lot off girls want you to call them and make an appointment! When you are deaf you can't call someone and make a booking with out a strage voice/tone... Lot of girls hang up! when he text the girls that he was deaf they were so rude. he showed me some reply's!
Im not bitchy to taylor I don't know her, i speak about it in general! This deaf guy came on msn webcam, so I knew he was serious!
And yes often the girls who have the real bad experience with clients said something before what pist them off! Also I worked once with a girl who had realy old picture's of herself, on daily base clients walk away, ore ask their money back, ore even just run away!
So yeah I know where my opinion is coming from Luther! I got robt once, I didn't hide my money stupid mistake! Learn from it and had a fake garda on the door! He thought I was illegal and wanted to scare me for free sex... I just simple told him to piss off ore i would call the real garda for him!
I only don't do physical disabled because of the appartment's where i often are not okay for it... when there is a lift ore im on the groundfloor i do. Mental disabled i don't do, im not a made for that...
thehighwayman
26-06-10, 19:45
Well done to EbonyPru and EbonyRenee. I hope theres more escorts that choose to do this special thing if not I hope it inspires more to do so. I just take it for granted phoning an escort and walking into an appartment. We sometimes don't realise what it's like for disabled people. It's difficult for all disabled people to see escorts or have any sort of sexual activity I'm sure but it must be really hard for housebound people. Alot of planning goes into it. If theres carerers or friends they can trust and escorts like Pru and Renee then theres no reason why they should miss out.
Silly question, but are there male escorts who provide for disabled female clients? Unlike what people usually think and/or believe single women definitely have needs that cannot be replaced by shopping. And I guess disabled women are no exception.
Somehow I suspect I am going to regret asking this, but why only single women?
magicalman9357
12-10-10, 19:49
Some very good and interesting points here. I guess at the end of the day it's a personal choice whether or not to participate. Personally if I were an escort I would have no problem at all visiting disabled clients but I also realise that's easy for me to say being male and not being an escort.
From what I understand this guy os from England so why is he going to Holland to meet an escort ?
The man who drives the car is his dad ?
mature abby
28-05-11, 18:32
ive had 2 clients text proclaim to be deaf too
i did meet one an he was deaf an dumb an as i can sign we got along great but it did take a lot of texting back an forth
the other i guy i felt was just a player
ive also seen many disabled clients an one of my favorite clients that ive seen for years is wheelchair bound
Abby xx
TiffanyTees
30-06-11, 13:14
DEAF clinets can be a worry and a chew but all the gents who have claimed they where deaf actually where . Reason I was apprehensive with one gent was the fact I could speak to him in the car with his phone on his speakers but once he left the car he could not hear very well. Thought it was a con at first
Have a gent in a wheelchair you should call him speedy as have never known anyone go that fast all the time in his chair he has a heart of a lion.
There is a lovely soldier here am sure visits other ladies here. He refuses to use a wheelchair and has 2 full false legs and can walk better than I can as I can trip over on a snooker table lol
A Disability is only disabiliating if you let it be so Tiff x
DEAF clinets can be a worry and a chew but all the gents who have claimed they where deaf actually where . Reason I was apprehensive with one gent was the fact I could speak to him in the car with his phone on his speakers but once he left the car he could not hear very well. Thought it was a con at first
Have a gent in a wheelchair you should call him speedy as have never known anyone go that fast all the time in his chair he has a heart of a lion.
There is a lovely soldier here am sure visits other ladies here. He refuses to use a wheelchair and has 2 full false legs and can walk better than I can as I can trip over on a snooker table lol
A Disability is only disabiliating if you let it be so Tiff x
Hope you’ve nothing but good things to say about your favourite Northern Irish wheelchair client Tiff. ;) :kiss:
TiffanyTees
30-06-11, 18:36
Hope you’ve nothing but good things to say about your favourite Northern Irish wheelchair client Tiff. ;) :kiss:
Hey up my darling
hows you speedy lol always good things hun we go way way back .hope you still got good brakes my dear
Im back up in the North again soon and do hope you are keeping fit and well .
your mate always Tiff xx
saoirsemac
11-07-11, 04:41
one of my favorite and most lovely clients has muscle dystrophy he cant move anypart of his body
but he still gets erections etc and he cant wank, he still a human he still a man and still has sexual feelings
we are limited on what we can do but he enjoys himself, he hs told me the difficultly he has on getting escorts as they dnt understand his disabilty as he has 0 movement,
i have to put him to bed using his hoist and clean him etc but im trained in manual and handling and lifting thru collage so i have a slight advantage, he is truly one of the nicest men ive ever met and such a wonderful attitude which ive told him many times he one of the only house calls i do, and arranging at first was difficult coz he wanted to meet me as when i go to him he is alone and totaly vulerable and sadly someone cud take advantage of him!
i also have a family member who suffer another muscle wastings diease he in his 30's and lost mobilty in his late 20's he life was stripped form him and he spends most of his time in bed, and i wud happily arrange an escort for him obviously not tell him wat i do lol but just because u have a disabilty does not make u any less of man or women!
sad fact his some people can take advantage of these people
and for females not many men out their 4 them
MrNiceGuy2010
07-08-11, 12:25
[QUOTE=Experienced Punter esq;224023]ya thats an excellent & very thoughtful post I hadnt been reading this forum recently, u see society first & foremostly does not see people with disabilities as sexual beings.
Have 2 say i do not agree with what u said about society does not see people with disabilities as sexual beings.There r many different forms of disabilities.I myself have M.S but on a good day u would not think i have a disability.Also I think the site needs to look at equality issues when offering services to clients.If you are going to offer a service to able bodied people i am pretty sure that these same services have to be offered to disabled people as well.
Example.If a cafe has a male toilet it must also have a female toilet because of gender equality laws and if it has male and female toilet they MUST have a disabled toilet also due to equality laws again.
saoirsemac
07-08-11, 12:42
[QUOTE=Experienced Punter esq;224023]ya thats an excellent & very thoughtful post I hadnt been reading this forum recently, u see society first & foremostly does not see people with disabilities as sexual beings.
Have 2 say i do not agree with what u said about society does not see people with disabilities as sexual beings.There r many different forms of disabilities.I myself have M.S but on a good day u would not think i have a disability.Also I think the site needs to look at equality issues when offering services to clients.If you are going to offer a service to able bodied people i am pretty sure that these same services have to be offered to disabled people as well.
Example.If a cafe has a male toilet it must also have a female toilet because of gender equality laws and if it has male and female toilet they MUST have a disabled toilet also due to equality laws again.
right im not putting down ur post here but u cant compare an escort to a toilet for starters some girls dnt want to see disable clients now if mean providing a search for escort who disabled friendly u can already do that in the search here! as i said not saying anything bad i have a cousin with chronic ms and left bed ridden and one my favorite clients has MDnd is completely depentent to the point i use a hoist to put him to bed and then wash him etc which i do not mind at all if anything i take my hat off too for stayin on top off the ms! and keep it up
[QUOTE=Experienced Punter esq;224023]ya thats an excellent & very thoughtful post I hadnt been reading this forum recently, u see society first & foremostly does not see people with disabilities as sexual beings.
Have 2 say i do not agree with what u said about society does not see people with disabilities as sexual beings.There r many different forms of disabilities.I myself have M.S but on a good day u would not think i have a disability.Also I think the site needs to look at equality issues when offering services to clients.If you are going to offer a service to able bodied people i am pretty sure that these same services have to be offered to disabled people as well.
Example.If a cafe has a male toilet it must also have a female toilet because of gender equality laws and if it has male and female toilet they MUST have a disabled toilet also due to equality laws again.
You might not know this, but there is an option on an escort profile that shows if they are disabled friendly and we do have a disabled clients' section that JohnRambo (a disabled client and reviews mod) moderates.
MrNiceGuy2010
07-08-11, 13:59
[QUOTE=orlathmac;546311][QUOTE=mrniceguy2011;546294]
right im not putting down ur post here but u cant compare an escort to a toilet for starters some girls dnt want to see disable clients.
Sorry But i was not comparing a escort to a toilet.I was just using that as an example.I will often not tell the escort i have m.s because i dont feel i have 2.Who i am on this forum is not the person that turns up to the escort.
:)
[QUOTE=Experienced Punter esq;224023]ya thats an excellent & very thoughtful post I hadnt been reading this forum recently, u see society first & foremostly does not see people with disabilities as sexual beings.
Have 2 say i do not agree with what u said about society does not see people with disabilities as sexual beings.There r many different forms of disabilities.I myself have M.S but on a good day u would not think i have a disability.Also I think the site needs to look at equality issues when offering services to clients.If you are going to offer a service to able bodied people i am pretty sure that these same services have to be offered to disabled people as well.
Example.If a cafe has a male toilet it must also have a female toilet because of gender equality laws and if it has male and female toilet they MUST have a disabled toilet also due to equality laws again.
Hey mrniceguy2011, before I reply to your post can you tell me exactly what your point is just in case I misinterpret anything that you’ve said.
MrNiceGuy2010
08-08-11, 10:37
[QUOTE=mrniceguy2011;546294]
Hey mrniceguy2011, before I reply to your post can you tell me exactly what your point is just in case I misinterpret anything that you’ve said.
Hi there Mr Rambo.Its ok now sir,i was just letting of some steam.
:)
MrNiceGuy2010
08-08-11, 10:54
[QUOTE=mrniceguy2011;546360][QUOTE=orlathmac;546311]
o defo agree ur buisness is ur buisness but an escort ur going to see nice to inform her too u know if it causes u any difficuilty etc
Thank u 4 replying Orlathmac.Aye i see your point about letting the escort know incase of difficuilty.I will only plan 2 go 2 a escort on my good days and i take Tadalafil the day before i see the escort.
Hope u got some sleep.
:)
The way I see it is like this mate and this is only my opinion from my own personal experience, I’m not an expert on the subject and can only give you advice on my own personal experiences and remember this is not coming from an able bodied bloke this is coming from someone who knows what they are talking about because I’m a wheelchair user and so have been there and got the t-shirt.
In my opinion mrniceguy I think it is very wrong and unfair not to inform the escort beforehand you are disabled. You cannot even begin to compare this business regarding equality with services. You have to remember the nature of this business were the lady you are going to see just like any woman has the right to be intimate or not intimate as she chooses. This is a very unique and sensitive matter where you are dealing with being sexually intimate with another human being and so they have the right without question who they feel comfortable with and who they don’t.
You also have to remember mrniceguy there are people in society who have never had much contact with a disabled person and find it difficult enough just talking to a disabled person and being is there company how do you think would feel for a girl again who may not have had much contact with people with disabilities in a normal situation never mind meeting them for an escort / client appointment?
I can tell you here and now it’s to both parties interests the you are upfront and honest about your disability when making the booking because if you do arrive there and have not told the lady you are disabled she may feel uncomfortable you will pick up on it and so for both parties this will have been a very difficult and awkward appointment for both of you.
Be honest, be upfront and tell the lady as it will make for a far better experience for both of you my friend. :)
MrNiceGuy2010
08-08-11, 17:34
The way I see it is like this mate and this is only my opinion from my own personal experience, I’m not an expert on the subject and can only give you advice on my own personal experiences and remember this is not coming from an able bodied bloke this is coming from someone who knows what they are talking about because I’m a wheelchair user and so have been there and got the t-shirt.
In my opinion mrniceguy I think it is very wrong and unfair not to inform the escort beforehand you are disabled. You cannot even begin to compare this business regarding equality with services. You have to remember the nature of this business were the lady you are going to see just like any woman has the right to be intimate or not intimate as she chooses. This is a very unique and sensitive matter where you are dealing with being sexually intimate with another human being and so they have the right without question who they feel comfortable with and who they don’t.
You also have to remember mrniceguy there are people in society who have never had much contact with a disabled person and find it difficult enough just talking to a disabled person and being is there company how do you think would feel for a girl again who may not have had much contact with people with disabilities in a normal situation never mind meeting them for an escort / client appointment?
I can tell you here and now it’s to both parties interests the you are upfront and honest about your disability when making the booking because if you do arrive there and have not told the lady you are disabled she may feel uncomfortable you will pick up on it and so for both parties this will have been a very difficult and awkward appointment for both of you.
Be honest, be upfront and tell the lady as it will make for a far better experience for both of you my friend. :)
thank u for the advice sir.I will be honest in the future.
:)