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Hi guys. I'm a married 38. I have of recent found myself looking for men to pull me off on differant websites.
I'm a little bit scared as ive never taught of myself been interested in men.
Can anyone help me even just to chat to me.
Mullingar area
Thanks
Aston Villa Supporter
05-02-15, 20:23
Just get your lips around it and everything else falls into place!!!
Im pretty sure I can help.....
Hi guys. I'm a married 38. I have of recent found myself looking for men to pull me off on differant websites.
I'm a little bit scared as ive never taught of myself been interested in men.
Can anyone help me even just to chat to me.
Mullingar area
Thanks
You could explain your desires to your wife....They say thats what you should do......keep nothing secret............I do have my doubts.
oneoneeight
10-07-15, 01:04
My missus just found out about my bisexual preferences & experiences. I want to grow old with that girl, but just can't help myself experimenting with a dude every now and then. I can not imagine being in relationship with a bloke, though, kissing him good night etc .... Ugh. It sends shiver down my back. But a bit of an oral action, well now, that's a totally different story. I could never live without my girlfriend but I also like a bit of cock sucking every now and then.
I think it is absolutely crucial to be 100% honest with yourself ... Can't say you're straight if you like to perform a fellatio or want to ride a mans butt. Also you're not bisexual if your dick doesn't get hard when sees a pussy. As much as we would love it to be, that's just not the way it works.
I know, it's not easy when you realise you might be someone you would hate to be ... It's extremely difficult and heart breaking. You want to fight it in every possible way and use every single thing you can to turn the situation around ... But it doesn't work. You can't fool the nature. If something isn't rushing the blood to your penis, it just isn't. And it won't be, no matter how hard will you try. It's not your conciousness that dictates sexual drive, therefore you can not change it. The only option to get up and perform is a substance, that will help you emulate who you would like to be. For some people it's highly unacceptable, some people like medications, some people smoke certain leaves to get the effect.
Therefore, all you can actually do, is to start loving yourself the way you are, not the way you think other people would like you to be. Otherwise, you will spend your life in a ping-pong match, trying to adjust to everybody else and never being actually trully happy.
oneoneeight
10-07-15, 01:16
To be honest the best is to accept the other person's smell and taste. This is where the virtuallity collides with reality. Fantasies meet real life. You become embarrassed, thinking you should have never let that happen. But after few weeks you would actually like to try that again. And become embarrassed again ...
I used to fool myself thinking the whole bad experience will help me get out of this curious state and help me forget about my desires, become straight again. But guess what? it never did. All it did is to make me feel really low and embarrassed about myself.
The conclusion? If you want to have sex with another guy, go out and do it. Just accept the way he smells and tastes so you can get full pleasure out of the whole experience. If you can't do that, then you're better off not trying that sort of activities as it will might affect your mental health.
My missus just found out about my bisexual preferences & experiences. I want to grow old with that girl, but just can't help myself experimenting with a dude every now and then. I can not imagine being in relationship with a bloke, though, kissing him good night etc .... Ugh. It sends shiver down my back. But a bit of an oral action, well now, that's a totally different story. I could never live without my girlfriend but I also like a bit of cock sucking every now and then.
I think it is absolutely crucial to be 100% honest with yourself ... Can't say you're straight if you like to perform a fellatio or want to ride a mans butt. Also you're not bisexual if your dick doesn't get hard when sees a pussy. As much as we would love it to be, that's just not the way it works.
I know, it's not easy when you realise you might be someone you would hate to be ... It's extremely difficult and heart breaking. You want to fight it in every possible way and use every single thing you can to turn the situation around ... But it doesn't work. You can't fool the nature. If something isn't rushing the blood to your penis, it just isn't. And it won't be, no matter how hard will you try. It's not your conciousness that dictates sexual drive, therefore you can not change it. The only option to get up and perform is a substance, that will help you emulate who you would like to be. For some people it's highly unacceptable, some people like medications, some people smoke certain leaves to get the effect.
Therefore, all you can actually do, is to start loving yourself the way you are, not the way you think other people would like you to be. Otherwise, you will spend your life in a ping-pong match, trying to adjust to everybody else and never being actually trully happy.
I want your advice because I like the way you write and seem very knowledgeable. I love gay porn and watching it and only recently discovered this after a lifetime of loving and being attracted to women. I figured I was bisexual and decided to explore but didn't enjoy the experiences at all and was then even more confused. I like watching gay porn as it seems more raw and passionate but I've never had emotional or physical feelings towards a man in real life.
I am physically and emotionally attracted to women but with men not at all, but gay porn is hot to me. This is not me in denial or anything, in fact I wish I could make sense of what the hell is going on with me.
Have you any thoughts on this?
funcorkguy
17-08-15, 10:22
think we all have the bi/gay tendency for exploring sex fun
give it a try if u don't like it ,put it back in its box
I too enjoy gay porn but found an experience with a man devoid of the same passion as with a woman. Each to their own i guess but i don't find men attractive as women
rick1981ireland
11-10-15, 16:09
If your still looking just to chat for some helpful advice give us a message, sometimes just a having a chat is the best cure.
I started having bi feeling very early on around 18 and experimented with my old friend who by chance was after the same thing at the time :D .
Your best exploring your feeling to see how you feel, there is no harm in it. It might lead to nowhere or open doors you never thought possible.
I'm in the same boat. My wife hates and won't give a bj so I always fantasise getting a bj from a man but too nervous
blue rebel
29-11-15, 20:14
I'm in the same boat. My wife hates and won't give a bj so I always fantasise getting a bj from a man but too nervous
hi Patrick I was like you until I went to a male masseuse in cork recently and he gave
me one of the best bjs I ever had and to my amazement I returned the favour and liked
it so much I have been back since so I just say to you try it and if you don't like it at least
you will know only then.
think we all have the bi/gay tendency for exploring sex fun.I am physically and emotionally attracted to women but with men not at all, but gay porn is hot to me. This is not me in denial or anything, in fact I wish I could make sense of what the hell is going on with me.
Curvaceous Kate
06-01-16, 08:15
think we all have the bi/gay tendency for exploring sex fun.I am physically and emotionally attracted to women but with men not at all, but gay porn is hot to me. This is not me in denial or anything, in fact I wish I could make sense of what the hell is going on with me.
No we don't. I've never been interested in my own gender sexually. I have wished I was at times, because my inability to be flexible on the matter has put a damper on things, but that is just the way it is with me. It does mean that there are people who do not have bi tendencies though, as I am one of them.
I spent several years visiting gay bars and occasionally massage parlours and usually left more frustrated than I was when I arrived. I finally figured out that, as a sub guy, what I really wanted was to be fucked by a woman. Strap-ons didn't do it for me because I couldn't see how the woman could get sexual pleasure out of it. A few years ago I discovered the world of TS/TV escorts and now I can satisfy my urges with an occasional but regular visit to a professional escort. In almost all cases I have found that if you treat the escort right you will have a great time, and I have met some great people TS?TV and, indeed, women, over the last 4 years. My only problem now is to ensure that I don't go outside my budget and start visiting too often (purely for financial reasons). To any guy, like above, who says he likes cock but isn't that into men, I say the answer is obvious!
OpenMindOllie
06-02-16, 14:38
We are a real couple bisexual, and we like to enjoy with the healthy.
Peter crossdressing and that it isnt he is gay, TS/TV, it another form to explore the sex, and give pleasure to and seduction to mens and womens...
The most important is open mind, and respect to the other, in that way sure you can enjoy with a real experience bisexual.
https://www.escort-ireland.com/escorts/ann-peter-real-married-couple-spanish-duo-escort.html
Please come to Dublin, you are exactly the type of couple I have been waiting for here :)
Same as OP. Married until recentlyenough. Like doing anal and had spoken to the ex about having sex with a man. Met a TS recently and loved getting it hard. Would have no problem giving either, though the reacharound would be different! Love pussy, love tits, now liking dick.
I'm a free man now and intend to continue exploring this new me.
FatBastard
22-06-16, 11:09
I had no idea so many people thought the same as me.
Am attracted to women, but always wanted to blow a man. So I did last year.
Loved the D, just not what the D is attached to :dunno:
Fantastic thread. Thank you everyone above. Yes, i still havent tried being with a TS or TV but am going to soon. It is not about being with a man but about experiencing D for me also. Because I have a small one myself I am also curious as to how a big or medium one feels like.
Have been to three men and one ts now. Love getting the D. Took.some of the advice here and just accepted the way they looked, smelled and tasted. Haven't done the CIM and I'm sure I'm shit at BJs, but I've never cum like I have when there's a rockhard d in my ass.
Im bi now and happy with it.
FatBastard
24-07-16, 14:47
Fantastic thread. Thank you everyone above. Yes, i still havent tried being with a TS or TV but am going to soon. It is not about being with a man but about experiencing D for me also. Because I have a small one myself I am also curious as to how a big or medium one feels like.
I went on Grindr. Put up a faceless pic and an honest profile (fat bastard who wants to suck a dick for the 1st time) and had someone at the door in less than an hour :eek: and I'm in a shitty town, not even a big city.
Done what I offered for a bit, he wanted me to ride him but I just couldn't get it up seeing a mans hairy arse (whereas in the presence of a beautiful woman it wont go down), so went back to oral, he came, I came, super fun experience. But I don't think I would do it again. Not that I didn't enjoy it, but it's like I have it out of my system if you know what I mean? I'd like to see an MF duo sometime if the guy was genuinely bi
FatBastard
24-07-16, 14:55
Have been to three men and one ts now. Love getting the D. Took.some of the advice here and just accepted the way they looked, smelled and tasted. Haven't done the CIM and I'm sure I'm shit at BJs, but I've never cum like I have when there's a rockhard d in my ass.
I'm bi now and happy with it.
Good on ya mate, if only more people would just be honest with themselves and have a good time, and fuck what box you tick on a form. I was stupid, and took the CIM. It was one of the hottest experiences of my life, but I've no idea who the guy was or what his history is. Got tested soon after and a few times since and been all clear. But it was very hot.
I have been with several TS/TVs and have to confess to loving it with financial constraints the only thing between me and weekly visits. I have also been to the Boilerhouse several times but haven't gone very far (apart from mutual hjs) because of worries about SDTs etc. One time I did meet a nice guy of medium size and his real concern about cleanliness (he insisted on a condom before I gave him a bj) led to me being fucked by him. We did swap phone numbers and I rang him a few weeks later for a meet. He said he would love to meet but could I lend him €200 because his car was broken. That was the end of that. I am quite happy to pay for service but not by trickery!
FatBastard
30-07-16, 05:57
Nice one mate, sounds fun.
I find it fascinating the whole supply/demand for casual sex between the genders like that.
You can be a fat, ugly, awkward bastard in a small town and still have a relatively decent looking guy come to the door within the hour for some adult fun, little small talk trousers off lets go then fucks off at the end.
Just seems so much easier if i was gay, but I've tried, the thought of kissing a hairy man is a bit of a turn off. While I can appreciate a nice male figure, when it was bent over in front of me inviting me in, it was the most unsexy thing ever and i couldn't get it up.
So since I love the female form, and dicks, I think I need to visit a TS/TV!
Codownlad32
15-10-16, 23:21
Ive no problem letting a guy suck me off but I don't think I could suck a guy, although I have had plenty of wanks thinking about it. Ive sucked and fucked a ts with no hesitation, its funny how the mind works lol
Heya would love to chat with you...
LovelyCouple33
20-06-17, 23:20
I visited an escort couple with my wife, found on this site, we have fantasies about me being with a man, I didn't go too far but a mutual handjob and brief sucking and it was exhilarating. We plan to explore again when we meet the right couple. I think I'm bi curious, for now at least. I'm lucky to be able to openly discuss it with my wife and explore it with her beside me. I would feel burdensome if I had to hide or suppress the urges
Have you guys tried cross dressers no attraction to guys but love Ts and TV and put a slim guy in stockings and suspenders and I'm all over him. Really nice to dress as well.
Have you guys tried cross dressers no attraction to guys but love Ts and TV and put a slim guy in stockings and suspenders and I'm all over him. Really nice to dress as well.
I'd love to put on panties for you
I visited an escort couple with my wife, found on this site, we have fantasies about me being with a man, I didn't go too far but a mutual handjob and brief sucking and it was exhilarating. We plan to explore again when we meet the right couple. I think I'm bi curious, for now at least. I'm lucky to be able to openly discuss it with my wife and explore it with her beside me. I would feel burdensome if I had to hide or suppress the urges
Interested in bi guy to play with ?
Hi drew can you help me please, looking for someone with experience
Hi there. Would you have a name for the masseur in cork? Thanks