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Curvaceous Kate
15-07-14, 08:24
I recently did a bit of role play domination with one of my regular clients, as I know before we met he really only met up with Domme's and although I know he is enjoying the GFE I thought it would be a bit of fun. However, I by no means consider myself to be a Domme, as I have seen many real ones in action and believe myself to be far too much of a pussy cat to reach those levels.
However... after the session was over he was insisting that I should add domination to my favourites, saying that I had done a better job than some of the other Escorts he had chosen for offering this service.
I have thought about it and I still don't feel that I should, after all, I've only got a paddle, a cane and a strap-on (which I need L-plates for) and I'm very green behind the ears.
So... I'm now wondering what exactly do clients want from a Domme? Should there be levels of domination offered?, i.e. if I could put down that I was a grade 3 Domme (light domination) then I would be happy, but I'm no where near the level 1 say of Sexy Jessica or Miss Alisha and I believe the clients that see them would consider me a joke.
What do you look for in a Domme?
Hi Kate, firstly thanks for your open and honest email. It is refreshing to see such an approach in a business where service providers often become jaded.
With regard to your question, I think that domination is far more psychological than being about inflicting pain. For me, it is about giving up control to an attractive woman who likes kinky play. If you want to discuss some more, please pm me.
hottrod101
15-07-14, 10:36
I recently did a bit of role play domination with one of my regular clients, as I know before we met he really only met up with Domme's and although I know he is enjoying the GFE I thought it would be a bit of fun. However, I by no means consider myself to be a Domme, as I have seen many real ones in action and believe myself to be far too much of a pussy cat to reach those levels.
However... after the session was over he was insisting that I should add domination to my favourites, saying that I had done a better job than some of the other Escorts he had chosen for offering this service.
I have thought about it and I still don't feel that I should, after all, I've only got a paddle, a cane and a strap-on (which I need L-plates for) and I'm very green behind the ears.
So... I'm now wondering what exactly do clients want from a Domme? Should there be levels of domination offered?, i.e. if I could put down that I was a grade 3 Domme (light domination) then I would be happy, but I'm no where near the level 1 say of Sexy Jessica or Miss Alisha and I believe the clients that see them would consider me a joke.
What do you look for in a Domme?
Hi Kate, first thanks for your honesty.
I think a lot of guys would like u just to take control, speak "bossy" to them , order them into certain positions, get them to wear some undies or tights/stockings, make them worship you (enjoyment for both parties!), use the toys/strapon on them if they wish, and finish with a nice HJ or BJ or penetration depending on what you or the guy prefers...
You are well equipped already with the paddle cane and strapon!
You might want to invest in a few toys to "start with" , for loosening up so to speak!
I think most guys would love this, without moving to the other levels of bondage, pain, etc
Hope this helps
Curvaceous Kate
15-07-14, 11:30
Hi Kate, first thanks for your honesty.
I think a lot of guys would like u just to take control, speak "bossy" to them , order them into certain positions, get them to wear some undies or tights/stockings, make them worship you (enjoyment for both parties!), use the toys/strapon on them if they wish, and finish with a nice HJ or BJ or penetration depending on what you or the guy prefers...
You are well equipped already with the paddle cane and strapon!
You might want to invest in a few toys to "start with" , for loosening up so to speak!
I think most guys would love this, without moving to the other levels of bondage, pain, etc
Hope this helps
Thank you to both of you.
How would I make this level of domination expressed without going into full details on my advert? Is there any BDSM jargon that I'm not aware of that describes this for those in the know? Mild domination?
hottrod101
15-07-14, 14:04
Kate
I don't know if there is a technical term but if I saw "light dom with happy ending of your choice " I'd be more than happy!!!
:-)
Hi Kate, firstly thanks for your open and honest email. It is refreshing to see such an approach in a business where service providers often become jaded.
With regard to your question, I think that domination is far more psychological than being about inflicting pain. For me, it is about giving up control to an attractive woman who likes kinky play. If you want to discuss some more, please pm me.
What an interesting and thought provoking reply....... now you are making me think .................
What an interesting and thought provoking reply....... now you are making me think .................
As you are me! Which bit is making you think? Please share your thoughts. I would be very interested.
Curvaceous Kate
15-07-14, 20:11
confused.com
Hmmm... so what possibily would one hope for with mild domination?
FetishCherry
15-07-14, 20:21
Thank you to both of you.
How would I make this level of domination expressed without going into full details on my advert? Is there any BDSM jargon that I'm not aware of that describes this for those in the know? Mild domination?
Mild Domination indeed. so no punishment, no extreme pain, no humiliation just Sensual Domination.
FetishCherry
15-07-14, 20:28
I recently did a bit of role play domination with one of my regular clients, as I know before we met he really only met up with Domme's and although I know he is enjoying the GFE I thought it would be a bit of fun. However, I by no means consider myself to be a Domme, as I have seen many real ones in action and believe myself to be far too much of a pussy cat to reach those levels.
However... after the session was over he was insisting that I should add domination to my favourites, saying that I had done a better job than some of the other Escorts he had chosen for offering this service.
I have thought about it and I still don't feel that I should, after all, I've only got a paddle, a cane and a strap-on (which I need L-plates for) and I'm very green behind the ears.
So... I'm now wondering what exactly do clients want from a Domme? Should there be levels of domination offered?, i.e. if I could put down that I was a grade 3 Domme (light domination) then I would be happy, but I'm no where near the level 1 say of Sexy Jessica or Miss Alisha and I believe the clients that see them would consider me a joke.
What do you look for in a Domme?
For some guys Domination means punishment and humiliation but for most guys Domination means just the lady in control
Davidontour
15-07-14, 20:56
confused.com
Hmmm... so what possibily would one hope for with mild domination?
For some it might be about role play (lady boss, teacher etc), for others simply the lady being in charge, perhaps a little light bondage with tape and maybe a blindfold.
I would expect that most who are into 'hardcore' domination would visit a professional domme and it's worth mentioning that many do not offer sexual services. An escort who can deliver light domination (and the cane/paddle/strap-on may be all you need toy-wise) as well as being proactive sexually (HJ, BJ, instigating penetration) is something I believe a lot of guys would go for. You have several on this page already.
If you feel comfortable doing so, it's certainly worth adding light domination to your favourites.
Curvaceous Kate
16-07-14, 07:44
For some guys Domination means punishment and humiliation but for most guys Domination means just the lady in control
So perhaps blindfolds, sensory play, tie and tease, a little spanking, using them as a sex slave? I can do all that. :)
Curvaceous Kate
16-07-14, 10:24
It seems like a rather grey area. Personally, I love a woman to be in control, and I'm much more into the kinky side of sex than the vanilla side, although I also enjoy that. On the other hand, I'm not into pain or humiliation, and I much prefer if the woman that I am with is nice to me rather than being bossy or bitchy(I have an anti-authoritarian streak!). It would appear that a lot of what is involved in Domination/Submission is psychological rather than just physical, so to answer the original question might involve writing a thesis!
I look forward to reading it :)
Davidontour
16-07-14, 16:04
So perhaps blindfolds, sensory play, tie and tease, a little spanking, using them as a sex slave? I can do all that. :)
I think it's fair to say that apart from the ladies who specifically advertise on EI as offering dominatrix services, very few potential clients would expect the word 'domination' to mean more than the activities listed above, and I think the client replies on this thread so far tend to confirm this.
Domination can be a lot of fun as part of a role play scenario and any pain inflicted can be very light or largely symbolic.
Many guys prefer to have the lady in charge and when some playful domination is combined with enthusiastic sexual skills, the effect can be absolutely mind blowing. Trust me on this one.
As Barry mentioned, domination can be a grey area, but communication is the key and when an escort is happy to listen to the client's wishes before an appointment, there's absolutely no reason why it can't be a fun and rewarding experience for both, not to mention being something a little different.
I have visited a few escorts in the past with the specific aim of recieving domination. Only one really worked for me and I will most definitely be going back. :)
Curvaceous Kate
16-07-14, 16:13
I think it's fair to say that apart from the ladies who specifically advertise on EI as offering dominatrix services, very few potential clients would expect the word 'domination' to mean more than the activities listed above, and I think the client replies on this thread so far tend to confirm this.
Domination can be a lot of fun as part of a role play scenario and any pain inflicted can be very light or largely symbolic.
Many guys prefer to have the lady in charge and when some playful domination is combined with enthusiastic sexual skills, the effect can be absolutely mind blowing. Trust me on this one.
As Barry mentioned, domination can be a grey area, but communication is the key and when an escort is happy to listen to the client's wishes before an appointment, there's absolutely no reason why it can't be a fun and rewarding experience for both, not to mention being something a little different.
I have visited a few escorts in the past with the specific aim of recieving domination. Only one really worked for me and I will most definitely be going back. :)
That's the bit that concerns me!!!
Also, I don't really like it too much if I am told what to do, so for me it would have to be more a matter of, these are the things I enjoy and take your pick, thank I want this, that and the other!!!
Davidontour
16-07-14, 16:45
That's the bit that concerns me!!!
Also, I don't really like it too much if I am told what to do, so for me it would have to be more a matter of, these are the things I enjoy and take your pick, thank I want this, that and the other!!!
There was a lack of communication beforehand in my early experiences. Knowing exactly what is available and agreeing in advance makes all the difference.
Curvaceous Kate
16-07-14, 20:27
There was a lack of communication beforehand in my early experiences. Knowing exactly what is available and agreeing in advance makes all the difference.
I actually meant that the client can say, these are the things I enjoy, so you can choose from those, rather than the other way round, but of course bearing in mind what I am happy to offer too. I suppose the easiest way round it would be for me to write up a list of available services within the realms of fetish/domination and send it to the potential client, who as you say, can tell me where their interests lie within it and then we can take it from there with in or out of a role play situation.
I may take some time to think about that for the future.
It seems like a rather grey area. Personally, I love a woman to be in control, and I'm much more into the kinky side of sex than the vanilla side, although I also enjoy that. On the other hand, I'm not into pain or humiliation, and I much prefer if the woman that I am with is nice to me rather than being bossy or bitchy(I have an anti-authoritarian streak!). It would appear that a lot of what is involved in Domination/Submission is psychological rather than just physical, so to answer the original question might involve writing a thesis!
I would be the opposite. Do what the woman says lol.
Curvaceous Kate
16-07-14, 20:47
I would be the opposite. Do what the woman says lol.
And you do it very well kaz ;)
Davidontour
16-07-14, 21:29
Domination sounds fun.:D
It is trust me! :D
Curvaceous Kate
17-07-14, 08:01
Domination sounds fun.:D
wanna be my guinea pig?
wanna be my guinea pig?
now that sounds fun, to be used by you:)adult-gimp
hottrod101
17-07-14, 11:04
wanna be my guinea pig?
Me, me, me... !! :)
Davidontour
17-07-14, 11:28
Me, me, me... !! :)
Ahem can we have an orderly queue here please. :D
Curvaceous Kate
17-07-14, 11:40
Ahem can we have an orderly queue here please. :D
You do realise this is all your fault :p
Davidontour
17-07-14, 11:41
You do realise this is all your fault :p
Happy to take the credit / blame for this one :D
wanna be my guinea pig?
It would be my pleasure.. lol.
I don't know what is but that could be the charm about it. Imagine going from that onto the next bit after. Would probably need wheeled out. :D
Curvaceous Kate
17-07-14, 16:55
It would be my pleasure.. lol.
I don't know what is but that could be the charm about it. Imagine going from that onto the next bit after. Would probably need wheeled out. :D
I'll have to invest in some wheel chairs so I will!
I can see the lure of being bossed by a woman. Although domination with a pad is something else lol. I suppose a lot of acting goes into it? A script would be nice...:D
cantgetenuff
17-07-14, 23:13
Evening Kate et al.
I've been to several different dom’s on this site and each has their own area of expertise but the one thing that is universal is the control of the mistress is paramount to both parties.
I also now have a good idea what I'm looking for in a session as well
IMHO I would also distinguish session between sensual or sadistic along with light/mild/severe.
I think it would be fair to say some mistresses wont entertain a more sensual domination session and I’d imagine some mistress aren’t into some of the more sadistic theme as it may just not be their kicks.
I’ve found the most rewarding sessions are the one’s that are well planned in advance with the mistress after reviewing the mistress available services and expressing which one I’m interested in.
Knowing what services are available by a mistress is critical to ensuring a good session. A sub looking for a service which the mistress is not willing to offer can make the mistress uncomfortable and leave the sub/slave unintentionally frustrated and result in a poor session....
Mistress4u
20-07-14, 15:01
Hi Katy
I always say that Domination its a very big "area " and involve loads of fetishes. Every session might be different that's why I love it and find interesting.
When the guy ask you for domination service just tell him what you comfortable with and what you offer and after its his choice to book appointment or not.
Loads of guys who ring me for the first time say - I want to try domination but I dont like the Pain - and I always say that it doesn't need to involve pain. Like guys all ready said domination can be also more Physical.
Loads of guys also can't go back home with bruises allover them ;-)
If you enjoyed it just "play and experiment" with it a bit :-)
Everybody start somewhere :-)
I started over 10 years ago in London when met some Mistress and did some work with her. Found it very exiting and started exploring Domination a bit more ;-)
I know and meet some guys for few years now and along the way I learned some things from them to ;-)
Good communication its a key. New guys I usually ask to send me a PM or e-mail to explain exactly what they are looking for and that allow me to prepare and plan the session better.
Curvaceous Kate
20-07-14, 15:57
Hi Katy
I always say that Domination its a very big "area " and involve loads of fetishes. Every session might be different that's why I love it and find interesting.
When the guy ask you for domination service just tell him what you comfortable with and what you offer and after its his choice to book appointment or not.
Loads of guys who ring me for the first time say - I want to try domination but I dont like the Pain - and I always say that it doesn't need to involve pain. Like guys all ready said domination can be also more Physical.
Loads of guys also can't go back home with bruises allover them ;-)
If you enjoyed it just "play and experiment" with it a bit :-)
Everybody start somewhere :-)
I started over 10 years ago in London when met some Mistress and did some work with her. Found it very exiting and started exploring Domination a bit more ;-)
I know and meet some guys for few years now and along the way I learned some things from them to ;-)
Good communication its a key. New guys I usually ask to send me a PM or e-mail to explain exactly what they are looking for and that allow me to prepare and plan the session better.
Thank you, really good to hear from someone who has experience behind them providing the service. I agree that communication is key and I think I need to work out where my limits and interests lie and then go for it. :)
Ladyvonteese
20-07-14, 18:54
Personally its the best erotic mind fuck ever, when compatible.
All the best Lady Von Teese
Curvaceous Kate
20-07-14, 21:40
Personally its the best erotic mind fuck ever, when compatible.
All the best Lady Von Teese
That is the key! How do you find that key?
cantgetenuff
20-07-14, 22:34
Actually Mistress4U made a really good point, three questions:
1. Light/mild/severe
2. sensual/sadistic
3. marks/no marks
I've forgotten to ask for no marks on a recent occasion and had to spend the following week on holidays wearing knee length shorts all week in 35°C which presented its own form of torture and amused the mistress in question as well as I told her the prospect of the following week.
Can I just say as well, this is all ment to be fun as well. Slaves/subs may be scream/winching in pain on the outside but on the inside you should be smiling at least....
ENJOY....:)
Curvaceous Kate
20-07-14, 22:54
Actually Mistress4U made a really good point, three questions:
1. Light/mild/severe
2. sensual/sadistic
3. marks/no marks
I've forgotten to ask for no marks on a recent occasion and had to spend the following week on holidays wearing knee length shorts all week in 35°C which presented its own form of torture and amused the mistress in question as well as I told her the prospect of the following week.
Can I just say as well, this is all ment to be fun as well. Slaves/subs may be scream/winching in pain on the outside but on the inside you should be smiling at least....
ENJOY....:)
I do think it is important to be professional in this area at all times, it's not like sex where you can be guided by your own natural instinct, which is why I have been hesitant. If and when I do it, I want to get it right. This thread has been invaluable and I'm very grateful to the contributions for helping me with my decisions.
The only Domination i do is verbal,i would never physically harm by bitches, i send them the bank and shopping etc.... i guess i'm only into financial domination? :paddy-smiley7:
Hmmm........How about I book Mistress4U again and you take the money at the door?
Short latex ensemble obligatory but you could sit in the corner counting it while she did her thing with me;)
Ladyvonteese
20-07-14, 23:23
Hi Kate,
Just been writing to add to this thread but think its best when we meet up for that coffee I will have a chat about this due to copy right issues honey. As I have another website other than www.ladyvonteese.com which did have 55 pages on it which I am sure if your thinking of starting in this business or just wish to know more about what its about, the laws involved in fetishes or for those who have an interest in all sorts of fetishes it would be very helpful, however I have taken it down to add more pages to it and do the up dates which is going to take a bit of time due to the volume of stuff thats on it honey
All the best
That is the key! How do you find that key?
No broad will ever boss me around.
No broad will ever boss me around.
Why not? I can think of lots of ideas and I'm not even an escort. It's very psychological.
Letting a woman take over just does it for me. I'd rather get led than lead.
lostintransit73
22-07-14, 14:32
wanna be my guinea pig?
Mmmmmmm if that's a general offer count me in.
To me, domination is all about activating a particular turn on and sublety is sometimes the most effective approach. Good role play can bring the magic of ones hottest fantasies into reality. A confident move by a lady to command the interaction or to activate a subs feeling of having no free will or escape is all that is required sometimes to bring about an overwhelming sexual rush.
I often think how much fun it would be to act out a certain sexy move from a movie a few times with a lady, eg Sharon Stone / trying wrists of her victim or maybe a vampiress straddling her victim and pinning him down whilst grinning at his demise.
Personally, I find actual pain a turn off.
Mistress4u
22-07-14, 16:47
Hmmm........How about I book Mistress4U again and you take the money at the door?
Short latex ensemble obligatory but you could sit in the corner counting it while she did her thing with me;)
We might just treat you to that with a tour together to Dublin sometime in the near future ... :buttkick:
O yeah that's sounds like a good plan :-) while I start dealing with you Sophie will say "Is that's all what you brought with you? " And I will say : "come on , you were so close to get your wish come true and you ruined it by bringing not enough money ??? "
and guess whats will happen next .......... ;-)
Mistress4u
22-07-14, 17:16
Personally its the best erotic mind fuck ever, when compatible.
I agree with that 100% :-) Lately had session with a submissive girl and a guy. And I have to say that when the chemistry is wright between everybody involved the whole experience its erotic and horny as hell.
O yeah that's sounds like a good plan :-) while I start dealing with you Sophie will say "Is that's all what you brought with you? " And I will say : "come on , you were so close to get your wish come true and you ruined it by bringing not enough money ??? "
and guess whats will happen next .......... ;-)
will await his reply.... :bigok:
Does that mean that the less money I bring the deeper the consequences?;)
Wish I was in Dublin today if it does:p
Mistress4u
22-07-14, 21:31
Does that mean that the less money I bring the deeper the consequences?;)
Wish I was in Dublin today if it does:p
Doesn't matter how much you will bring it will never be enough hahaha
confused.com
Hmmm... so what possibily would one hope for with mild domination?
Have experienced plenty of dom sessions, and for me it usually works.
My fantasies are always school based and cp in nature,#
It is usual to want more than one gets, or is realistically able to take.
Such sessions always also consist of being sexually aroused and touch regularly during sessions, and end with a Happy ending. Ofthe done by the girl and sometimes being forced to do it yourself, with extra punishment for failure, which usually makes you come
Most men have very specific requirements as to what they want/don't want.
Why not? I can think of lots of ideas and I'm not even an escort. It's very psychological.
Letting a woman take over just does it for me. I'd rather get led than lead.
That appeals to me too....letting the woman take over.....But then she has to read your mind and figure out what you think you want.
Sexy_Jessica
25-07-14, 01:17
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M2Hb-DsCXiw
Curvaceous Kate
25-07-14, 08:17
I've made up a basic check list with the things that I would be willing to offer now. If anyone would like to see it, please pm me with an email address and I'll send it on x
the person dominating does anything they want to the other person... for their own pleasure/ amusement.
Looked at the list Kate, many good options. Bondage is something I'd be interested in. Sensory play from what I have read is pure psychology and sounds interesting. Following orders, teacher and cunnilingus.
Davidontour
25-07-14, 18:19
Looked at the list Kate, many good options. Bondage is something I'd be interested in. Sensory play from what I have read is pure psychology and sounds interesting. Following orders, teacher and cunnilingus.
As long as you're comfortable with having a dominant female in charge, you will have a lot of fun.
I was in my teens when I first realised I enjoyed BDSM, years before I even knew what it was. It's only quite recently and mainly thanks to the internet that I've been able to properly explore this aspect of my sexuality and it's been fantastic. Push your boundaries and enjoy yourself.
I just think being bossed by a woman and an experienced woman at that is very enticing. Almost like when I had dreams of a school teacher at my old school bossing me to do sexual acts on her lol.
Curvaceous Kate
25-07-14, 18:51
I just think being bossed by a woman and an experienced woman at that is very enticing. Almost like when I had dreams of a school teacher at my old school bossing me to do sexual acts on her lol.
We can do that :)
We can do that :)
If you get me anymore excited I will implode lol. Will have to make it a good session. A real sexual fantasy. Even with my bag it is all set up lol. :D
Davidontour
25-07-14, 19:03
I just think being bossed by a woman and an experienced woman at that is very enticing. Almost like when I had dreams of a school teacher at my old school bossing me to do sexual acts on her lol.
I started off by seeing a domme to enact a lady boss/bad employee scenario and just kept on trying new things with each visit. I wouldn't necessarily recommend hot wax and needles on your first time mind you, but your teacher scenario will be great. :D
Curvaceous Kate
25-07-14, 19:05
If you get me anymore excited I will implode lol. Will have to make it a good session. A real sexual fantasy. Even with my bag it is all set up lol. :D
If you would like to complete the form for me and send it back to me and then we can talk about the scenario a little closer to the time. I would be very happy to do that one with you though. I do have a secret weapon ;)
Downloaded it to my Kindle. Do I E mail it back with answers on it?
Sexy_Jessica
25-07-14, 19:59
domination has many "faces", itīs not about just to beat up someone, for me itīs more about control, doesnīt matter physical or psychological.
Lately i am into online domination a lot, i have slaves from all the world they just do what i want and this make me happy as i fele the power over them even when i am not with them ;-)
Here someone from USA who also did a clip for me and humiliate himself infront of the cam, barked as a dog and all just for me as i ordered it to him.
Yesterday for example i ordered him to get naked in the office and take a pic for me, have a look:
https://twitter.com/IAMYOURPHOTOPIG/status/492271342599696384
I have over 500 pics & clips from similar people like him and most of them also gave me permission to publish them. This is online power for me, i would say itīs also type of domination.
So domination is variety of many facets.
Curvaceous Kate
25-07-14, 20:19
Downloaded it to my Kindle. Do I E mail it back with answers on it?
yes please :)
Don't think I have any software to edit it.
Curvaceous Kate
02-08-14, 06:05
Don't think I have any software to edit it.
Kaz if you don't have word, can you cut and paste it to a notepad and add the extra info there?
Or... being all subby like, you could always write it out again from scratch, adding the detail and post it back to me :)
Curvaceous Kate
02-08-14, 06:07
very very good
lol, what's very good :)
I'm now the proud owner of a leather gimp mask and a pin wheel, a pvc sheet and some leather clothing :D Other items to follow in the post ;) It's like Christmas here :)
Davidontour
02-08-14, 09:31
lol, what's very good :)
I'm now the proud owner of a leather gimp mask and a pin wheel, a pvc sheet and some leather clothing :D Other items to follow in the post ;) It's like Christmas here :)
Reminds me of that lovely carol; 'Deck the sub with boughs of holly' :D
Your list sounds like a lot of fun. :)
Curvaceous Kate
02-08-14, 12:12
Reminds me of that lovely carol; 'Deck the sub with boughs of holly' :D
Your list sounds like a lot of fun. :)
I now have a hood, chastity device, nipple tassels, fist, training butt plugs and a ticklying thingy lol. All kitted out to be Naughty Kate now :)
Davidontour
02-08-14, 18:10
A ticklying thingy you say? I'll be round first thing in the morning :)
I now have a hood, chastity device, nipple tassels, fist, training butt plugs and a ticklying thingy lol. All kitted out to be Naughty Kate now :)
Oh Kate you tickle my fancy anyhow. Can i use that ticklying thingy on you next week? :kiss:
Curvaceous Kate
02-08-14, 18:54
Oh Kate you tickle my fancy anyhow. Can i use that ticklying thingy on you next week? :kiss:
Only if you want an early death :) haha x
Curvaceous Kate
03-08-14, 12:24
My first mild Domme session seemed to go well :) Happy days!
Curvaceous Kate
03-08-14, 17:47
That's pretty much my take on it anyway.
I would add a few things.
I really love a lady who ties you up and really takes the time to tease you, practically get you off....but not quite. I've nearly tried to break free of the restraints a few times. Blindfold is excellent when used correctly. I find that changing pitch of voice, and focusing on different areas is best.
A little spanking never hurt anyone.
Strap on can be kinky as hell, but it can't be mechanical and must have the correct tempo for the mood. Smoothering is something I have tried recently, and I found it quite kinky.
Spitting can be okay, but you must be really able to do this well. Not everyone would like to get spat at in the face after handing over a few hundred quid.
And if you're a real expert, you may even try surprise the client. One lady in particular did this when she kneed me in the balls as I was leaving. Was not expecting it it at all. I was bent over outside the door and I found myself saying "you sexy, kinky bitch, I'm in love". Not saying that I want a smack in the balls every time.
My point is, you have to assess the mood, and adapt accordingly. Seduction is key for getting them to the right level in my opinion.
I personally could not to the knee balling thing or spitting in someones face. I do believe that it helps when you know someone a little and what makes them tick, where their sensitive areas are and what their pain threshold is like. The more you know, the better prepared you can be.
Davidontour
03-08-14, 18:30
My first mild Domme session seemed to go well :) Happy days!
It went phenomenally well. As a submissive with a fair amount of experience, I can tell you that you have the attitude, the toys and the skills and I loved every minute of it. Blindfolds and nipple clamps really get me going, but it's those hidden little extras and unexpected humiliations that make a scene really special. I had a hell of a lot of fun today. :D
Interesting to see the progression of this - mild domination is only a matter of confidence and paying a little attention. There is a massive stress in being the dominant, but you seem to have managed it well. This is a nice thread. So, tempted to try something a little serious ?
Curvaceous Kate
06-08-14, 08:14
Interesting to see the progression of this - mild domination is only a matter of confidence and paying a little attention. There is a massive stress in being the dominant, but you seem to have managed it well. This is a nice thread. So, tempted to try something a little serious ?
Maybe send a pm to explain what serious really is?
I myself and currently looking to meet someone for mild domination.
I am not over experienced in these matters although I have seen a couple over the years.
I will expect her to take control from start to finish verbally and in a commanding manner. ie. Telling me exactly what to do and when to do it ie. Lick her feet, clean her ass with my tongue, and hopefully she will make me suck her strap on before she uses it on me .
I would class that s mild domination .
Spanking, clamps, whips, wax and so on I class as bdsm.
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I personally could not to the knee balling thing or spitting in someones face. I do believe that it helps when you know someone a little and what makes them tick, where their sensitive areas are and what their pain threshold is like. The more you know, the better prepared you can be.
Although I have had it done to me, I do not get spitting. I see it as degrading, which is not something I seek in a domination session. However, I find that Mistress letting her saliva drip slowly into my mouth very erotic, for some reason.
slavetoyou
06-08-14, 12:22
Domination is many different things to different people.
To me it is my life, it is all I live for. The only purpose I feel is to serve my Mistress, to do whatever she wishes. It is how far I will go, what pain I will take, what disgusting acts I will do, what humiliation I will endure. It is handing over complete control to my Mistress. You cannot refuse to do anything that is asked of you, you hand over your soul.
All these acts are done to prove your devotion to your Mistress. Domination means to be dominated in every way.
Davidontour
06-08-14, 13:56
Domination is many different things to different people.
To me it is my life, it is all I live for. The only purpose I feel is to serve my Mistress, to do whatever she wishes. It is how far I will go, what pain I will take, what disgusting acts I will do, what humiliation I will endure. It is handing over complete control to my Mistress. You cannot refuse to do anything that is asked of you, you hand over your soul.
All these acts are done to prove your devotion to your Mistress. Domination means to be dominated in every way.
Once again I hugely admire your dedication. For me, domination is a recreational activity which I enjoy once or twice a month. I'm always open to new scenarios and activities, but to completely live the lifestyle as you do is something I can only imagine.
Although I have had it done to me, I do not get spitting. I see it as degrading, which is not something I seek in a domination session. However, I find that Mistress letting her saliva drip slowly into my mouth very erotic, for some reason.
Same boat re spitting.
I do not like to be dominated because I should be demeaned and treated in disgust, but because she should be exalted -if that makes sense. So being spat on is not for me, but the opportunity to taste her spit is cherished.
I do think a price/ punishment is to be paid to worship her and that her desires are obviously priority, but that is because she knows what she deserves, and that such opportunity comes at a price for appreciation - not that she is disgusted or repulsed by me.
I think it's quite nuanced.