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experienced punter
13-11-08, 18:22
I met this mixed race beauty from Paris while in the company of a friend 3 weeks ago We talked endlessly after my friend left & when it was time to leave she was very enthusiastic that we meet again same time/place a week later we didn't exchange no.'s Anyway a week later I was nice & early for my date waiting over an hr. Yep u guessed it no show from her:o, My friend met her few days later she told him to send her apologies & to tell me that she would see me in a couple of days Yes I waited around again no show no excuses She popped into my friend again yesterday at his business address to pass a message to me that she wanted to see me on Sunday at a certain Bar.. Now I'm not a gullible sort as it is hard to trust people these days but something tells me to give her another chance despite having made up my mind a few days ago that I wouldn't waste anymore time with her Should I meet her on Sunday? Any Opinions?:o
thehighwayman
13-11-08, 18:35
If your gut feeling says you want to see her, then see her. If theres no show this time then it's three strikes and out for her.
I met this mixed race beauty from Paris while in the company of a friend 3 weeks ago We talked endlessly after my friend left & when it was time to leave she was very enthusiastic that we meet again same time/place a week later we didn't exchange no.'s Anyway a week later I was nice & early for my date waiting over an hr. Yep u guessed it no show from her:o, My friend met her few days later she told him to send her apologies & to tell me that she would see me in a couple of days Yes I waited around again no show no excuses She popped into my friend again yesterday at his business address to pass a message to me that she wanted to see me on Sunday at a certain Bar.. Now I'm not a gullible sort as it is hard to trust people these days but something tells me to give her another chance despite having made up my mind a few days ago that I wouldn't waste anymore time with her Should I meet her on Sunday? Any Opinions?:o
Ah what a shame ............ think that you shouldnt bother she wont show - still you are an experienced punter and not a dater...............BIG DIFFERENCE........She doesn't have to show or do what you want to do cos you aren't paying her to do so.........
Too bad shame cos i think that guys should be trying to meet women and have real relationships......so maybe try for the third time after that - joke over......fingers crossed.
I wonder if there are women out there that if they knew their husbands/boyfriends did see escorts how their reaction would be - relief that they didn't have to fain headaches or kick em out.........not sure what i would do - change the locks probably.
Good luck and i think you definitely should go..........dont wait an hour though 20 mins and then knock it on the head.
Lizzy
If the roles were reversed , do you think she would show up ? If you go and she doesn't show up , you'll be kicking yourself for being so daft for days . I suggest you leave a msg with your friend in the off chance she does show up and you're not there , and if she does see him whenever that should suffice as to why you weren't there . Tell your friend to give her your number if he sees her . Its a risk turning up in hope , you've no number to call her on and anything could happen that could prevent her showing . There's nothing worse than suffering a head fuck that you saw coming , best of luck E.P.
I met this mixed race beauty from Paris while in the company of a friend 3 weeks ago We talked endlessly after my friend left & when it was time to leave she was very enthusiastic that we meet again same time/place a week later we didn't exchange no.'s Anyway a week later I was nice & early for my date waiting over an hr. Yep u guessed it no show from her:o, My friend met her few days later she told him to send her apologies & to tell me that she would see me in a couple of days Yes I waited around again no show no excuses She popped into my friend again yesterday at his business address to pass a message to me that she wanted to see me on Sunday at a certain Bar.. Now I'm not a gullible sort as it is hard to trust people these days but something tells me to give her another chance despite having made up my mind a few days ago that I wouldn't waste anymore time with her Should I meet her on Sunday? Any Opinions?:o
Tell your friend to tell her your busy Sunday.Dont mind giving excuses ,your busy and thats it.Tell him while he is talking to her to pass on your no on to her and to tell her to text you whenever.This way your throwing the ball on her court totally.If she wants to meet you she will make the effort.A date or relationship or whatever is 50 / 50.Let her make some effort for a change,you've made enough ,now its up to her.
lets see if she'll kick the ball,
Westside.
bu the way in case i forget.Dont go sitting around waiting aimlessly for her text.Might never come,dont forget to carry on living.
Can't wait to hear wests "deep" thought on this one!!!!! :D :D :D
Paws
LMFAO!!!!!
It's like I can read his mind ffs!!! :D
Paws
Tell your friend to tell her your busy Sunday.Dont mind giving excuses ,your busy and thats it.Tell him while he is talking to her to pass on your no on to her and to tell her to text you whenever.This way your throwing the ball on her court totally.If she wants to meet you she will make the effort.A date or relationship or whatever is 50 / 50.Let her make some effort for a change,you've made enough ,now its up to her.
lets see if she'll kick the ball,
Westside.
bu the way in case i forget.Dont go sitting around waiting aimlessly for her text.Might never come,dont forget to carry on living.
"Deep" or not its as good advice as EXP will get. on the money!
Move on and have more respect for yourself. You are being a wimp. Dont waste your time, there are plenty of other girls out there.
If you see your friend again, be honest and say you have been messed around.
If she REALLY wanted to see you, she would have done, or at least given you a phone number
Now go and find someone else, you deserve to be treated with respect
Grab life, dont wait for it to come to you!
best of luck
Rory
tigergirls
15-11-08, 03:22
You are an experienced punter - this must be very hard on you to encounter a NORMAL situation with a girl. If she does meet you, and we venture into a sexual relationship make sure you don't keep looking at your watch to see if your hour is up. And move ass dont have her do all the work. Finally, forgive her if she doesn't do rimming, owo, anal or all the other things on your mental list.
dont bother with her man, go out and book an escort instead for an hour, its a lot handier, you know what you are getting, you can leave when you want, you dont have to listen to her, you dont have to buy her a present or sit in a restaurant listening to her moaning about her life and hey you dont have to keep replying to text messages. Leave her where she is lol only meesing man , best of luck with the date
experienced punter
15-11-08, 10:10
You are an experienced punter - this must be very hard on you to encounter a NORMAL situation with a girl. If she does meet you, and we venture into a sexual relationship make sure you don't keep looking at your watch to see if your hour is up. And move ass dont have her do all the work. Finally, forgive her if she doesn't do rimming, owo, anal or all the other things on your mental list.
Ah tigergirls jeez I Have to erm Woo her first :rolleyes:
experienced punter
15-11-08, 10:17
Tell your friend to tell her your busy Sunday.Dont mind giving excuses ,your busy and thats it.Tell him while he is talking to her to pass on your no on to her and to tell her to text you whenever.This way your throwing the ball on her court totally.If she wants to meet you she will make the effort.A date or relationship or whatever is 50 / 50.Let her make some effort for a change,you've made enough ,now its up to her.
lets see if she'll kick the ball,
Westside.
bu the way in case i forget.Dont go sitting around waiting aimlessly for her text.Might never come,dont forget to carry on living.
Yes I took the advice of Westside above she had reasons to go to my friends office yesterday so he gave her my no. she can ring I may have blown it altogether but hey so be it lets wait & See.....
experienced punter
15-11-08, 10:34
dont bother with her man, go out and book an escort instead for an hour, its a lot handier, you know what you are getting, you can leave when you want, you dont have to listen to her, you dont have to buy her a present or sit in a restaurant listening to her moaning about her life and hey you dont have to keep replying to text messages. Leave her where she is lol only meesing man , best of luck with the date
Thanks RodeoMan for your advice though I know u were only messing but theres a lot of truth in what u said bout the moaning thing too! I guess its a simple case of men & women are emotionally different (sorry girls!)
DollyDarling
15-11-08, 10:46
If you get near the time, and want to go, then go. If you get near the time and dont want to go, then dont go. If you like the girl, you should just keep going for it. Time and destiny will work itself out. You dont need to feel in control. Just follow your instinct. Destiny will lead you where it may. If you go, find something else to do in the area just in case she isnt there. Dont waste a trip for nothing, if your favorite store or cafe is in the area, make a point of going there. Balance the trip, so whatever SHE does, you have done something nice for yourself. She most likely is a messer. Sounds like a MAJOR messer to me, but no matter. Messers can be great fuck buddies too:):p
tigergirls
15-11-08, 10:49
Yes, we do moan and cry and laugh - we express ourselves. That why men are more lightly to kill themselves than we woman. (sorry guys but that's a fact) Jesus, if guys didn't shoot their load men would be dead before 30
You are an experienced punter - this must be very hard on you to encounter a NORMAL situation with a girl. If she does meet you, and we venture into a sexual relationship make sure you don't keep looking at your watch to see if your hour is up. And move ass dont have her do all the work. Finally, forgive her if she doesn't do rimming, owo, anal or all the other things on your mental list.
LOL - thats the funny thing you ever posted girls - I like it!
annasavicha
16-11-08, 12:49
What if your friend made up storry that she want to see you on sun?
You ll be thinking it s her not showing up,and ur friend will have a little laugh at you.
I ve no idea how good friends are u,but it s just a suggestion.....
Otherwise if she did not showed up,seems she found something more 'important' to do,dont let anyone make anything more important than yourself,and if they do,u don't really need them....
And there s a third chance-she might of felll sick or something....
I met this mixed race beauty from Paris while in the company of a friend 3 weeks ago We talked endlessly after my friend left & when it was time to leave she was very enthusiastic that we meet again same time/place a week later we didn't exchange no.'s Anyway a week later I was nice & early for my date waiting over an hr. Yep u guessed it no show from her:o, My friend met her few days later she told him to send her apologies & to tell me that she would see me in a couple of days Yes I waited around again no show no excuses She popped into my friend again yesterday at his business address to pass a message to me that she wanted to see me on Sunday at a certain Bar.. Now I'm not a gullible sort as it is hard to trust people these days but something tells me to give her another chance despite having made up my mind a few days ago that I wouldn't waste anymore time with her Should I meet her on Sunday? Any Opinions?:o
Experienced Punter..
Thrust your gut. If you feel that this lady may show up, go and see what happens. maybe she has a good reason for standing you up....maybe not.
Is it not better to regret doing something than regretting never giving it a chance??
You have nothing to loose.... Go, have a beer and if she shows, great, you have the start of something great, if she doesnt show, well then you know, have afew beers and draw a line under it.
good luck, what ever you decide.
tigergirls
16-11-08, 16:05
Just reading your post again ... Maybe she fancies your friend and using you as an excuse to call and see him.
when is this date taking place, you have gripped the nation with this story, please update us on outcome
experienced punter
16-11-08, 16:38
when is this date taking place, you have gripped the nation with this story, please update us on outcome
Yep Rodeo & everyone thanks for the opinion although ladies some of the things said were to put it mildly Silly, I left it to her we meet at 7.30 (I hope! ) As she rang ME lastnite(I had left my no, with friend during the week to give to her), I'm pretty cool about what may happen i.e will she turn up!, the balls got a good scrubbing anyway the knob is shining Boss aftershave is on Wish me Luck!;)
Yep Rodeo & everyone thanks for the opinion although ladies some of the things said were to put it mildly Silly, I left it to her we meet at 7.30 (I hope! ) As she rang ME lastnite(I had left my no, with friend during the week to give to her), I'm pretty cool about what may happen i.e will she turn up!, the balls got a good scrubbing anyway the knob is shining Boss aftershave is on Wish me Luck!;)
Oh E Punter, dont let her think you are that easy on a first date, keep it in yur pants FFS!
Just remember what the T girls said - dont offer her money and dont ask if she does extra ball!
Good luck man, relax be yourself - she is probably just as nervous - bet shes never had a date with an "experienced punter" before!
experienced punter
17-11-08, 11:18
For anyone thats still interested I waited around from 7.30 til 9.30 she did not ring nor text I had made alternative arrangements to meet friends & had a great night, I did not lose any sleep nor will I but I must admit it still is very annoying noone likes to me made look a fool of...:on
For anyone thats still interested I waited around from 7.30 til 9.30 she did not ring nor text I had made alternative arrangements to meet friends & had a great night, I did not lose any sleep nor will I but I must admit it still is very annoying noone likes to me made look a fool of...:on
Sorry to hear that Ex P.
At least now you know... Is it not better to have found out rather then spending the next few weeks wondering... what if....
Move on, there are plenty of fish in the sea....treat your self to extra dose of who ever you fancy...
Peter The Perfect Plumber
17-11-08, 18:57
For anyone thats still interested I waited around from 7.30 til 9.30 she did not ring nor text I had made alternative arrangements to meet friends & had a great night, I did not lose any sleep nor will I but I must admit it still is very annoying noone likes to me made look a fool of...:on
who wants someone like that anyway?Anyway its best to do what you did.As far as being made a fool out of,i rather feel a bit fooled than be ignorant and undignified like she is.By the way another tip for you.Play cool.If she texts or phones or if she sees you or whatever ,play along and let on like its not important.Nothing will annoy her more than to think it didnt bother you whether she turned up or not.Living well is the best revenge ,remember that.
Sincerely,
Westside.
For anyone thats still interested I waited around from 7.30 til 9.30 she did not ring nor text I had made alternative arrangements to meet friends & had a great night, I did not lose any sleep nor will I but I must admit it still is very annoying noone likes to me made look a fool of...:on
Nobody likes to be made a fool of correct, but from what i see she is the one that is the fool and NOT you......her loss and yes its going to niggle you to say the least for a little bit but hey there are plenty of fish in the sea - although right now thats really not what you want to hear - light at the end of the tunnel etc.,
Just don't think that all women behave this way because i think i can talk for the majority of this board they don't. I may have forgotten - keep your chin up!
My fondest love to you xxx Lizzy