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funlover12
09-02-14, 20:24
How did you learn that you had a fetish about/for something?
or did you more decide to have it, then eventually it became a fetish, and I mean fetish in the more......realistic meaning, not just a like for something which some people use the wrong word for just like they use addiction very lightly and wrongly
slavetoyou
10-02-14, 13:43
How did you learn that you had a fetish about/for something?
or did you more decide to have it, then eventually it became a fetish, and I mean fetish in the more......realistic meaning, not just a like for something which some people use the wrong word for just like they use addiction very lightly and wrongly
I don't think you can decide to have a fetish but you can discover you like something. It would be something that probably happened many years ago possibly in childhood or adolescence which you may not have even been aware of. This then can progress from here. I have had a foot fetish for as long as I can remember but this now has progressed to me becoming a 24/7 beck and call slave. My original fetish has developed into a monster as now I will do anything my mistress asks. The things I now do or endure for my Mistress were not always things I liked. But now my mistress has trained me to like them to the point where I want them to the extreme (well as much as I can take and in fact I want it to go beyond what I can take), so although it's not my original fetish I have developed a liking for other things.
I put my foot fetish down to submissive behaviour (probably my real fetish) and everything else is also linked to that. I endure all the pain and humiliation to prove my submission to my mistress and how she decides that has made me like things I didn't before and probably still don't like but I like the act of submission in enduring these things.
I have probably contradicted myself there but basically it's the fetish of feet and submission has made me like many things but I wouldn't have a fetish for them. A fetish is based on an experience that gave you pleasure, it is a sub conscious decision and you will not have control over it
Sofia Milani Mistress
11-02-14, 16:01
How did you learn that you had a fetish about/for something?
or did you more decide to have it, then eventually it became a fetish, and I mean fetish in the more......realistic meaning, not just a like for something which some people use the wrong word for just like they use addiction very lightly and wrongly
Fetish is a word that has been stigmatized by the psychology that considers this a paraphilia.
Actually is very common and we all have some fetish lifelong.
It's not something you choose, simply an object or a situation trigger
sexual arousal.
Excitation at seeing the feet of a woman or a man in his military uniform or fireman are very common fetish ...
However, there are also those like Formicophilia: Consists precisely in having orgasms being bitten by ants in Their genitals or nipples unusual.
Artistic89
11-02-14, 17:15
I learned about my fetishes through sexual experience, mostly in relationship.
It was something that I got into as I went along, and I guess because the unusual and demanding nature on the female side I was a little put off by this "weird" urge. As I went along however I learnt that everybody has their thing and it is up to the individual to find another person that would match or come close to your fetish expectations.
Matter is very intimate however, since fetish is deemed as something that is not in the conventions of regular sexual relationship/ intercourse.
I still have some trouble expressing my fetish towards escorts, as I am aware of its nature and that a lot of people find it rather repulsive.
I saw a porno of a girl playing with herself through her panties, then a chap licked her through the panties, and Hey Pesto!
laughingman
11-02-14, 21:30
I find it interesting that 99% of the posts in the fetish forum are related to domination
My fetish developed over time, I have a deep appreciation for the female tongue. I've yet to find a lady that can satisfy that particular 'need' or fantasy, there doesn't seem to be many with a similar fetish based on past threads
slavetoyou
11-02-14, 23:19
I find it interesting that 99% of the posts in the fetish forum are related to domination
My fetish developed over time, I have a deep appreciation for the female tongue. I've yet to find a lady that can satisfy that particular 'need' or fantasy, there doesn't seem to be many with a similar fetish based on past threads
Interesting observation. I think domination is a general term that covers a lot of fetishes. Not sure what you want to do with the tongue so I can't comment on your fetish and how it is to be performed, it may fall into the domination category even though it may not really be. Like foot fetish doesn't have to mean domination it's just it the love of feet, but it usually leads to domination of some sort. Call it a gateway fetish, it was for me anyway. I wish you well in finding someone who can satisfy your need.
inpantyhose
05-03-14, 21:50
When I found myself in my friends ballet gear leotard, tights and tutu with a raging horn! :)
I learned that I had a foot fetish when I hit puberty at the age of 13. I am 43 years old now. But back then women used to wear ski-pants, which were trousers with a hoop on the bottom to slide their foot into. The trousers usually showed their ankles. That started me off and I always had a hard-on for ankles to start. Then I started secondary school, where I had one female teacher who always wore slip on shoes (now called poms or ballerina shoes) into school. She used to always sit in front of me on the next table facing me and the class. While she was sitting on the desk, she would ALWAYS remove her shoes and place her toes on top of the edge of my desk. She always had red-painted toes. So while she was teaching the class, i was always looking at her pretty toes and her feet smelled beautiful. 😍😍😍 I always had a hard on looking at her feet and smelling them that I began to wank off in front of her underneath my desk and through my trouser pocket. I always erupted like a volcano!!... Ha! Ha! She was very pretty too!... She reminded me of Jennifer Rush, the singer. But every day was the same day in day out. Her feet on my desk and me wanking underneath for 5 years in school. I'm pretty sure she knew what I was doing because of my arm jerking while wanking. And each year I sat at a different desk in the class up the front... And each year she would sit in front of me with her feet on top of my desk. 😍😍😍 I remember the last day in class in 6th year, when every one else was out playing football and I was finishing up writing down something. She sat in front of me again and removed her shoes and stretched her legs out on top of my desk so that her pretty feet were just inches from my face, she asked me "Did you enjoy my class while you were in it??" And she had a smile on her face. Stupidly I replied, "Yes Miss"... Not knowing whether she actually meant her class or feet.?? In hindsight, I think she meant her feet & was offering me the chance to smell her feet and suck her toes. 😣 If only I knew back then!!! I've been trying to locate her ever since to find out what she meant. She was the girl who brought out foot-fetishism in me. She had the most prettiest feet I have ever seen in all my life!! 😍 Thank you Ms. Murphy!!!
I believe everyone has a fetish, but either because I am stupid or unadventurous I haven't found mine yet?
Friends of my parents used to come round for drinks when I was about 12. The wife was probably about 40 and wore a black leather coat. When they were in the living room I used to sneak out and rub my cock against the leather coat hanging on the rack. I was never caught but I had a fantasy that she would come out and catch me and say nothing. I suspect that would have actually happened would have been that I would have been punished and the village would hear about it.
Haha. Love it. Used to do nearly the same thing to my best friends mother. An absolute fox who was dressed in leather a lot of the time. The days when I'd call in to see my buddy and his folks were out were the best. Sneak up to her room to have a good rummage.
Personally find myself attracted to female clothing since I was young
funlover12
09-12-15, 15:49
ha forgot I started this thread. I think in some ways its not really helpfull to call something a fetish.
people should just ask "what do you like?" (in the context of talking about sex or whatever) "what turns you on?"
fetish is like a word to group things together which are sexual in their nature to people?
its a bit like a lazy way of saying youre into something which is different from 'the norm'
or if you see say a fetish night/club somewhere you know whats expected....nearly anything!....or something.
as I said in my OP, its a bit like people saying "thats a bit ocd" or being called a hoarder for holding on to a few things, or thats "mad" or "addicted" to something (when its not true addiction just like alot) the list goes on... lots use words out of context and give them new meaning, I think fetish is a victim of this too.
(in a non sexual context) "youre always wearing leather do you have a fetish or something?" "oh I love leather!"
but is that a fetish then? :D :dunno: see what I mean?
Seeing girls wearing flip flops!