What To Say During Phone Sex

If you have ever tried phone sex, you will know that it can turn awkward, especially if you don’t have a plan in mind for what exactly you should be saying. It isn’t as simple as calling up your partner and saying “how wet does the sound of my voice make you?”, but trying to figure out the right things to say can be tough.

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That is why here at Escort Ireland we have put together this phone sex guide, telling you exactly what to say and what you need to do to make your phone sex the hottest ever.

Relax and start small

When you are after phone sex, you want to get to the juicy stuff as quickly as possible. You don’t want to sit around and wait for the moment to arrive so you can have a wank while listening to your partner describe just what she wants to do to you.

When you go for phone sex, it is usually because you can’t be there with your partner and you are so horny. You want your partner to get to the point. After all, that is why you suggested phone sex in the first place, right?

However, diving straight in with phone sex is a bad move. It would be like immediately undressing your partner and fucking her without any foreplay or lube. You need to work your way up to the main event, and the best way to do that is to relax first and stop worrying about what you are going to say.

Start by arranging a time for your phone sex to happen. Make sure it is when you are both free and will be home, where you are able to relax. Not only does this make sure you won’t be interrupted when things get hot and steamy, but it also means you will be thinking about it all day, making you horny and hard for it.

Feel free to make small talk as it begins, talking about how your day was. It gives you the chance to say that your day was good but would be better if they were there, that since you arranged this date you haven’t been able to stop thinking about it, and it is making you wish they were here to fuck or make love to.

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Starter phrases

If you find yourself struggling to get things started beyond that, there are some useful phrases and words you can say to move things along.

One of the most popular things to say in phone sex is “what are you wearing?”. While this might feel like a huge cliché, you shouldn’t be ashamed of trying it because it works. As they say – if it sounds stupid but works then it isn’t stupid.

The best part about describing what you’re wearing? You don’t have to tell the truth. Many people feel like putting on loose and baggy clothes for phone sex, so that they feel relaxed and at ease. If you think your pajamas aren’t going to cut it, tell them you are wearing those tight black boxer shorts they love to stroke, with the band they play with to let you know just what they are thinking of doing to you.

Another great method to get things started is to reminisce. Tell them how much you miss them, and that you can’t stop thinking about the last time you were together. You can start to recreate what happened in the bedroom the last time you were together, but on the phone.

As you are starting by talking about some familiar, it will make you both relax. You know this story well, and so you can either follow it to its conclusion or suggest things that you might have wanted to try instead. It will ease you both into it and make it very exciting for your both.

Be descriptive

The key to great phone sex is to be as descriptive as possible. You can’t just say “I kiss your neck” and expect them to rub their clit and get themselves to orgasm just from that. If the situation was reversed, you’d be disappointed by that description too, so give them more and don’t shy away from the details.

Things like “I gently nibble on your ear before kissing my way down your next to your breasts” contain the perfect amount of description, and they can use their fingers to trace the path they imagine you taking.

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For many, phone sex is a sort of guided masturbation, where you tell them what you would do to them and they do it to themselves, so make sure the words you use reflect the words they would use to refer to themselves.

For example, if she calls them her tits, you should feel comfortable using that word too. Just describe in as much detail, and when it is their turn to describe give them some feedback. Try saying things like “I like the sound of that” and “tell me more” to let them know it is working for you.

Take order and don’t hold back

One of the most common problems that people find with phone sex is trying to figure out an order. Some want to say a sexy sentence and then hear one back immediately, while others prefer to let their partner do all of the talking.

What works for you might be different to what your partner wants, so talk to them beforehand to figure out if they want you to tell an erotic story together or if they are happy to do all of the talking.

Even if they do decide to do all of the talking, don’t simply sit on the other end of the phone quiet with your dick in your hands. They need to know that this is working for you, and if they struggle, give prompts. Ask them what they would do next or what they want to do to do to help things move along.

Another important thing to remember? Don’t hold back. If you want to moan as you hear them describe how they’d slide their lips around your cock, then do it. Let them know how good this is for you and they will keep going to make you feel even better.

Do you have some phrases you like to use during phone sex to get you going, or do you like to simply see where it takes you? Let us know by visiting the Escort Ireland forum, or leave a comment in the box below.

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Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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