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What Actually Counts as Premature Ejaculation?

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Premature ejaculation; they are maybe the two worst words in a man’s vocabulary. The moment that you are having sex with a woman, you cum too fast, and everyone is lay there thinking ‘oops’ is unbearable for many. Yes, the lady may try and ease the tension by telling you ‘it doesn’t matter’ but you will likely think she is lying.

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Even if it has never happened to a man, it hangs over our head like the ‘Sword of Damocles’. The first time we get with a new girl, I for one am very conscious that I don’t blow too quickly. But what really is ‘too quickly? What would constitute premature ejaculation?

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According to DrEd.com, it can be described as follows.

Ejaculation can be considered premature when it occurs 30 seconds to 4 minutes into sex, depending on different cultures, countries and experts. However, it seems that most tend to agree that any sexual intercourse lasting less than 2 minutes can be considered premature ejaculation.

However, a report in Australia conducted by an international group of scientists claim that it is three minutes and under. They also believe that most guys believe they have had premature ejaculation, even when they haven’t.

“If a doctor asks a patient ‘do you think you ejaculate too quickly?’, a substantial proportion of men will say ‘yes’,” according to Dr McMahon, the director of the Australian Centre for Sexual Health.

While previous studies suggested between 25 per cent and 30 per cent of men peaked too soon, more recent data stated it was in-fact much lower.

It seems that only 2-3% of men have always had the problem which manifests itself from the first time they have sex. Another 4-6% acquired it later in life.

Men who questioned their performance were either experiencing “variable premature ejaculation”, which meant sometimes they were quick and other times not, or they thought they were premature, but actually weren’t.

“What they need is to be educated, they don’t need medication,” said Dr McMahon.

So it seems that many men BELIEVE that have suffered/suffer from premature ejaculation, but in fact don’t. McMahon puts this down to the unrealistic picture painted in porn films.

“I think in many cases men tend to benchmark their sexual performance against what they see in pornography,” he said. 

“That reflects the very poor sex education we still see in our teenagers.”

We all know what he means. Guys go for 30 minutes without stopping in porn films, so when guys see that, many believe being unable to go that long is a sign of failure. This is totally unrealistic, but without education, how are young men supposed to know? The films don’t come with a disclaimer saying they are cut and spliced to kingdom come to increase the length.

McMahon agrees that education is the key.

“Often all it takes is for [men] to be educated, to be told that their experiences parallel those of other men in their age group.”

What Can You Do if You Have I?

So there we have it; premature ejaculation is a lot less common than previously thought because what is considered to be premature in people’s mindset isn’t exactly correct.

Obviously, if you do have a problem, there are things you can do to alleviate the symptoms. There are condoms designed to aid you, and there is this fantastic blog on how to prevent premature ejaculation. If all else fails, you should seek medical help, but there are many things you can do before you take that step.

We certainly hope this has put many people’s minds at rest, and even if it hasn’t, there are things you can do to help solve it.

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