For some people, thinking of BDSM conjures up images of Fifty Shades of Grey. They imagine Christian and the red room with spanking paddles hanging from the walls. Punishment is a big part of BDSM, but many tend to think only on the spanking that takes place.
BDSM covers so much more than that. Corporal punishment is a big and diverse part of it, and there is so much to explore. It doesn’t all have to be spanking. So what is it like to want to be punished in this way?
What is corporal punishment?
BDSM covers a huge range of activities. At the very heart of it, it is about trust and control. You and your partner will trust in one another, and one of you will take control of the situation. One is the dominant party, while the other is submissive and gives themselves over completely. They might choose to be a slave, be humiliated, or they might decide to endure some punishment.
Corporal punishment tends to be a big part of BDSM, and covers a range of activities. It isn’t simply a case of spanking your partner, as it goes so much deeper than that. This allows you to fulfil fantasies by making the punishment a part of it.
Slapping, beating, whipping, caning, and flogging are all a part of corporal punishment, alongside spanking. However, just because someone enjoys the act of being spanked does not mean that they will like other forms of punishment. This is why discussing with your partner is so important.
Slapping and spanking
When starting on the idea of corporal punishment, things like slapping and spanking are often going to be the first things tried. Slapping tends to be seen as tame, the kind of thing that someone might teasingly do to warm someone up to spanking. If your sub isn’t so sure whether spanking is for them but they want to try it, slapping is the ideal stepping stone.
Spanking is typically done on the ass, or a fleshy part of the body. You might get your partner to bend over for you, giving you the perfect access to their sweet ass. You can go as hard or as soft as they need, and the beauty of using your hand is that you get a lot more control. This often plays far better into the “you need to be punished” fantasy.
Punching and paddling
One of the big problems that people have with spanking is that it can be loud. The slap of your hand hitting their ass each time makes a lot of noise, and so some might try punching instead. It is especially useful, as Kate Sloan has pointed out before, for those moments when you need to be quiet but still get the punishment.
However, it often gets to a point where the hand or fist just doesn’t feel like enough. This is where tools come in. The natural transition for many is to go from spanking to paddling. Many things can be used as a paddle, such as the back of a hairbrush, but often people will invest a little in a paddle especially for the occasion.
Caning
Fantasies often play a large part in corporal punishment within BDSM. One of the most popular tends to involve caning from a school mistress or headmaster. Typically, the sub will have done something and need to be given six of the best.
Something that many dominants like to do is get their sub to count each hit out loud. If they stutter or stumble at all over their words, they might start again. It is a huge turn on and really helps to build this intense fantasy in their head.
Whipping and flogging
Anyone eager to go all out with the corporal punishment might be tempted to grab the flogger or whip in order to really push their submissive to the limits. For a lot of people, it is seem as one of the extremes of corporal punishment in BDSM because, if your sub is consenting, you can make them bleed for it.
The sound of a whip cracking through the air is sure to ramp up the tension, and the feeling of the flogger hitting your skin is hard to describe. It is something that many people love because taking punishment in this way really shows what they are made of.
Do you enjoy punishment?
With the right person and in the right circumstances, I am a huge fan of corporal punishment. I enjoy giving it and receiving it, and it can really make myself and my partner feel good. That said, it isn’t for everyone.
Are you a fan of punishment in BDSM, or do you prefer simply being a slave to your domme? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
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