The facts of life are always a tough for parents when dealing with their kids. What to say, when to say it; they are all things that cause sleepless nights for men and women all over the globe. Is there ever or right or wrong answer? Well, after the outcry on Mumsnet after a Mum gave a rather ‘honest’ answer to her 12 year old son when she was asked a personal question about her sex life, you would think for many the answer is a resounding ‘yes’.
A Bizarre Conversation
The mother went on to the popular forum for mum’s and described a conversation that went as follows.
Son: ‘Mum this is kind of a weird question and I don’t know about asking it.’
Mum: ‘What is it?’
Son: ‘How often do you and Dad have sex?’
Mum: ‘Oh. Are you sure you want to know?’
Son: ‘Yeah.’
Mum: Once or twice a week I guess.’
Son: ‘Oh. Now NEVER say that again.’
Mum: ‘You asked! And I double checked! You can always ask me any questions you know.’
She continued: “Even though I tried to seem calm and cool, it felt just really odd. Maybe because I was taken by surprise.
“I am a very modest person and never talk about sex with friends at all, but my son has far fewer inhibitions and often mentions things I find embarrassing. I would never in a million years have asked that question of my mother!
“Has anyone had discussions like that with their kids? I expect normal ‘what is sex’ conversations but didn’t expect personal questions like that.”
Shock and Anger
Needless to say, the reaction to her post from other mothers wasn’t exactly positive.
“I don’t talk to anyone about my sex life except the person I’m having sex with. Would you ask your (of age) child about their sex life? I sure wouldn’t,” huffed one mum.
“Why would you answer that from your child? ‘None of yours’ is what I’d have said,” agreed another.
One mother felt it was seriously crossing the line of any appropriate mother/son conversations.
“There are boundaries in any relationship. It is inappropriate for anyone to enquire about your sex life, unless its a HCP. Be that your parents, children or friends. Some things just are private.”
“Good grief. Questions like that are inappropriate and answering them is even more inappropriate!” another mum fumed.
Right or Wrong?
I have to say, I would never be one to attack a parent unless they REALLY deserved it. Therefore I will never join in some sort of public haranguing of someone who is doing the best job they know how. However, personally, talking to my daughter in six years time about how often me and her mother have sex probably isn’t going to be at the top of my list of priorities.
As a side note, I am actually amazed that someone with a kid could have sex twice a week, but maybe I shouldn’t dwell on that too much.
So, do you think it was acceptable for the mother to share that much sexual detail with her kid?Let us know by voting in the poll below!
Since then, he has specialised in articles on the battle for equal rights for sex workers, sexual health, as well as bringing the readers fun news from around the world. He also has a major interest in LGBT rights, and is an active campaigner in this field.
When he isn't fighting the good fight, he enjoys spending time with his girlfriend, and young daughter. He also enjoys reading and taking long walks.
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