Lately it seems that we don’t have a lot of patience. How many of us will decide to treat ourselves to a takeaway in order to avoid having to cook? We want things to be easy and happen quick, which is why sex tends to be a little rushed. We love the idea of having slow sex, but we are so keen to enjoy our orgasm we just go for it.
Quickies might be fun sometimes, but if you want to have amazing and mind blowing sex you need to slow things down. But how? What can you do to stop yourself rushing through sex? We take a look at some of the different things you can try here on the Escort Ireland blog.
1. A slow and sensual massage
Not sure how you are going to slow things down? Why not try a slow warm up to sex? Treat your partner to a slow and sensual massage, or even get them to give you an erotic rub down. It will feel amazing for you both and really get you turned on for sex. You can even slowly tease them as you massage.
Not sure what to do? Start by getting some massage oil and rubbing it into your hands. Work on the outside edges of their body and work your way in. For example, you can give their hands a rub before moving along their arms to their shoulders, down their back, and finally to their ass.
The best thing about giving an erotic massage is that it will get her really turned on, and because you have been using your hands slowly on her you’ll want to continue this in the bedroom. Instead of going fast you’ll try to go slow to tease them more.
2. Long foreplay
Another essential is to make foreplay longer. Foreplay is an important part of sex, one that we often rush through in our eagerness to get to the main event.
Instead of rushing it, try taking your time and slowing it down. As with the erotic massage we mention above, you’ll want to tease them. See if you can get your partner to beg for you to fuck them. It’ll be a lot of fun to see them trying to hold back and you’ll want to do everything in your power to avoid giving them your cock until they are ready.
3. Use a timer
For some people it is a challenge because we get in the moment and lose control. It just feels so good that we can’t hold back. We’ll fuck hard and fast and enjoy every minute of it until the sex is over. When it is over, we’ll feel bad for not enjoy the slow sex we should be enjoying.
You have something on your phone that can help with this. On your phone, set a timer for however long you want. Ten minutes, fifteen minutes, half an hour. You choose. Then have sex.
The key here is to not allow yourselves to cum until the timer goes off. If you go too hard and fast then you’ll find your orgasm arrives a lot sooner than the timer does. This will force you to go slower. Each thrust will be deep and slow, and you’ll find yourself enjoying an intense orgasm.
4. Edging is important
Found that your slow sex isn’t working because your orgasm has arrived too soon? Try edging. Edging is where you delay your orgasm as much as possible, and if you are having slow sex to please your partner it can be really useful.
Allow your partner to bounce on your cock however they want to before you get close. When you do get close, stop them and switch to something else. Try giving them oral while you come back from the edge of orgasm. You’ll go slower with your tongue to give yourself more time before you cum, and it will be incredibly kinky for you both.
5. Changing positions
If you stick in one position during sex you’ll find that it is a lot easier to cum. You’ll also find that you naturally speed up to try and get your partner to cum or for you to reach your own orgasm.
With your partner decide on a few sex positions you know you both love. Then when you are having sex and find that you are going that little bit too fast to enjoy slow sex, change position.
Regularly changing position means you both get to share control in the bedroom, and you will also delay your orgasm a little. It is also the perfect way to experiment with new positions. If you are unfamiliar with them you’ll go slower to get used to the sensations.
6. Beg for your orgasm
Those into BDSM will find that there is something else that they can do to feel good. You can start to beg your partner for your orgasm. Instead of just letting it happen, you can try saying to them “please let me cum”.
Not only is it a huge turn on for your partner to hear this, but you’ll also find that they might be tempted to say “no”. They’ll deny you your orgasm and start to move slower in an attempt to tease you. It is kinky and a great way to slow down sex at the same time!
Is slow sex the best?
Are you a fan of slow sex? Personally, I like it sometimes. It is nice to take your time in the bedroom, to slowly move to really make your partner beg for more. That said, I’m also a fan of having fast and rough sex. All things in moderation!
What do you think? Should we be having more slow sex, or is it okay if sex is quick? Tell us what you think by leaving a comment in the box below.
Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.
In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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