Should You Sleep with Your Ex?

The age old question that exists in the mind of both males and females is whether they are allowed to sleep with their exe’s or not. After all, there’s a reason why you broke up with that person in the first place, isn’t there? Whenever you are in a drunken stupor or emotionally vulnerable, just take a quick look through your contacts list, and your fingers are bound to hesitate slightly over the number of your ex. Should you call them up? Should you meet them? Should you discuss with them the details of your life? The question of sleeping with your ex is slightly more pressing; it can bring out feelings that you so carefully suppressed, it can bring about a chain of events that can lead to other harrowing experiences, and more importantly, it can take you back in to the past, from where you came after a very long struggle.

So, the question remains, should you be sleeping with your ex or not? Is it an option that you should entertain, or should you stays away from your ex at all points in time? Obviously, just like in any other scenario, the question of sleeping with your ex really depends upon the fact as to whether your ex is worth it or not.

What Were the Circumstances of Your Break Up?

One of the most common things that you need to analyze before you even consider sleeping with your ex are the circumstances in which you two broke apart. For instance, it would not be a wise idea to sleep with your ex if you caught them cheating on you the first time you and them were together. Chances are all the more likely that they are cheating on someone else with you, and you really don’t want to be a part of that.

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On the other hand, if you two broke apart due to unforeseen circumstances in an amicable manner, sleeping with them might not be such a bad idea. Instead, it might help you two get closer to each other all over again. If you still had feelings for them when you two broke apart, it might be a wise idea to avoid sleeping with them again.

It May Affect You ‘Moving on’

On the contrary, the same research has also shown that if you sleep with your ex, the process of ‘moving on’ might become very difficult. For any man or woman who has just been through a harrowing experience, breaking up might be very difficult already. Letting go of the emotions and feelings associated with your ex, and then trying to initiate the same feelings for another person can be very difficult. This is one of the prime reasons because of which so many people continue to remain caught up in the feelings and emotions of their past relationships; they keep going back to them. You don’t need stark reminders of what you have left behind!

If you do have a desire to sleep with your ex one last time, one of the most important things to make sure of is the fact that you two ended on a positive note. If you ended on an angry, fight ridden note, sleeping with your ex can prove to be not only a big problem, but also a big liability on your part that can backfire at any point in time. Therefore, rather than create an unnecessary hole in your life, make sure that you two ended on a positive note so that in case you do sleep with them, you will know that they will not use it against you and destroy your personal relationships, nor will you be doing the same to theirs.


Defiantly Allow Some Time to Pass

More importantly, one of the most important things to keep in mind if you are sleeping with your ex is to make sure that you allow for a bit of time to pass. It doesn’t matter whether your break up was on the back of a lot of fights or whether it was an amicable parting of ways; you need to make sure that at least three to four months have passed before you even attempt to reap the fruit of the forbidden tree. Generally, it really depends upon how long you two were dating with each other. The more years you spent together, the greater time should you let pass before attempting to sleep with them. For some, it might even go as high as a year, or maybe two, while for some, five months is a long amount of time still.

You need to understand that now, you and them lead different lives. They probably have a number of other people that they are around, and your life also changes significantly after the breakup. Therefore, sleeping with your ex is not something that you really should be looking forward to. Also, if you do intend to sleep with them, always make sure that you have clarified your intentions to them. People are very vulnerable and highly emotional creatures, and unless you have clarified your intentions to her that you intend it to be nothing more than just an ordinary sleepover, they is very likely to think that you are still interested in them. This can prove to be very harmful to them as well as yourself, especially if both of you now know that you are not compatible with each other anymore.

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A Big Decision

These are just some of the most common factors that you need to consider before you even think about sleeping with your ex.

It is certainly something you should think very carefully about. It really could just be an idea to visit a Kildare escort? This will stop you getting that emotional attachment that is so very dangerous.

Martin Ward
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