New Year’s Eve is on its way and most of us on this site will be looking to get sex. The options are endless, if not always successful. There are men and women you meet on a night out, there are ex partners also. However, even more problematic than that latter option is the occasion when you have sex with your BFF. That is a person’s best friend, for anyone who is of an age (like me to be fair) where these anacronym’s come across as a bit juvenile. Still, if you are partying and putting yourself in the position to have sex with your best friend, you are likely at an age where saying ‘BFF’ doesn’t make you sound like a sad old person trying to recapture their youth.
But what us older people CAN bring to the table is experience. We have lived through these situations, and in many cases, we bear the scars.
This does lead to the question though; is it a good idea to have drunk sex with your BFF at new year? To be fair, this is an argument that has been raging in the heads of men and women for years.
The Case in Favour
Let’s look at it from the positive angle first. You actually know your BFF, so it isn’t as if you are going to have to go out searching for them. We have all been out on NYE before and have seen the scrum to get near random men and women (usually women to be fair) and it is unpleasant and annoying. You will have the benefit of your mate being there, and with a natural tendency to want to speak to you. That is already more convenient than a random on a night out.
One benefit of sex with a friend is the fact you will be comfortable with each other. After knowing each other for a considerable amount of time, you don’t need to think of any small talk, or walk on egg shells trying not to offend. You can chat and get it on without feeling ridiculously uncomfortable.
There may not seem much there, but availability and feeling at ease are arguably the two things we are looking for when it comes to having a fling. This is why it so very easy for this kind of sexual encounter to happen.
The Case Against
However, it can often a bad decision. If you have sex with your BFF, you may well both enjoy it on the night, but the next day is likely to be an issue.
The reason you have been friends is because you trust each other. No-one thinks the other is just pretending to be nice to get laid. The moment you have sex, that trust is likely gone. The other person may think ‘ah, that was the plan all along’. Where will that leave the friendship?
Then there is something else that is no less troublesome. What if your BFF wants more than just one night with you? True you may want more also (meaning you weren’t really friends in the first place) but possibly more likely is the idea you just want it to go back to how it was beforehand. How do you tell your friend you just want it as it was without hurting their feelings? Do you really expect in those circumstances that you will just both be able to reset?
I have to say, I think having sex with the friend at New Year is a bit of a dumb idea. Even if you get lucky and things remain normal, the reward just doesn’t outweigh the risk. But what other options are there?
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Since then, he has specialised in articles on the battle for equal rights for sex workers, sexual health, as well as bringing the readers fun news from around the world. He also has a major interest in LGBT rights, and is an active campaigner in this field.
When he isn't fighting the good fight, he enjoys spending time with his girlfriend, and young daughter. He also enjoys reading and taking long walks.
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